Guys: Anal sex versus vaginal

seems like someone likes the bootie now. and has switched sides lmfao no but really its all about tryibg new things and eventually he'll go back to vaginal sex untill he gets bored of anal it might be like a pattern somedays he'll want vagianl some days he might want anal, all deopends on the mans feelings in that moment' whatever his craving happens to be itll happen, so enojy and try alot of new things with him show him a good time...

First of all, is this your 1st baby? Sex is a good thing. Slow down with the anal thing... and make him wear a condom. He can still be all 'sexy' and cum in you, inside the bag and you get less discomfort. There can be a considerable enjoyment with vaginal sex. Take your time. Use toys in between.... don't wear it out. Marriage is more than sex... figure it out now... it will become a great thing to keep the lasting relationship .... lasting!

Yea, I'm normally the adventurous one who switches everything up and he is always hesitant. Lol. It took me 4 years to get him to try pretty much anything different. :P (We've been together 7 and he now lets me get him to try freaky things. :P) Lately, obviously being within 5 days of my due date, it's not so easy to do a lot of different positions like I normally would for vaginal. The baby is right in the way, so it's pretty much girl on top, side, or from behind. (And that's with me being actually pretty flexible, considering I'm pregnant. Most I've ever heard of someone being while pregnant.) Maybe that's why? Maybe he got used to some of the things we can't do right now? I think, too, that since he is so quiet and is such a straight arrow with everything, that the taboo of it must be really exciting. He finds it hard to just relax and let go sometimes. Or, hell, maybe it's also the thought now that you can actually touch the baby's head since II'm about to go into labour...maybe it worries him? He's commented a few times even though I've told him he won't poke him. Lol. :P Maybe he has a hard time relaxing unless it's anal because of that. I guess I'll have to wait and see what happens after the baby is born. :(

palani1944 wrote:

lynn89 wrote:

So, my husband and I have been together since we were 15 and having sex since we were 16. He has always seemed to really enjoy vaginal sex. A year and a half or 2 years ago, I thought he would like it if we introduced anal into the mix ( I prefer to always keep things interesting.) Obviously he liked it, and after figuring out how to do it properly, I do too. Fast-forward to present, I know nothing turns him on like the thought of anal or even just putting something in me there. (Not that other things don't turn him on too- I'd say we have a pretty fantastic sex life..even though I'm 9 months pregnant.) The thing is, over the last week, we have been almost only doing it anally. Again, I like it, but it causes me discomfort for the next few days after because I always let him cum in me and we like it when he goes really hard and deep. A few days ago I asked him if he liked it more than vaginal sex, and he quietly said yes. I asked why and he said just the tightness of it- that he can feel everything I do back there and there is sensation over every part of him. He says he still really likes vaginal sex because it is warm and wet (it just doesn't cause the same friction, I guess) and, well, he seems to. But I don't know. He seems less excited by the thought of it now the more we have anal. I used to mention sex and he would go crazy. Now, that more or less happens when we talk about anal. Again, when we have vaginal sex, he always seems to enjoy it a lot when we actually do it- but sometimes, when I am less wet and he has to kind of push it in (say we are on our sides on the couch or something) he sometimes gets really excited and says it feels like it's my ass. Then, after I get wet enough and I'm starting to get more and more into the regular sex, sometimes we actually then switch to anal because I can tell the idea of it has now turned him on enough that that is what he wants instead. 

My question is.. well, i don't really know. :( I'm not sure why, but I feel bothered by this. I know I probably shouldn't.. It's also that I feel like a complete nympho right now and I actually want it even more than him which makes me feel uneasy in the first place. While he'd be happy to do it 4+ times a week, maybe every day, I feel like I want it 4+ times a day and he only wants it once.. and it usually is anally. I want to give him head until he cums, have vaginal sex, and anal sex. But I seem to only get one a day (no, I'm not complaining.. I realize many people only getting it once a week or even less..) and I don't feel like vaginal is anywhere near the top of the list for him, which makes me feel... sad. And I'm not sure why. It's just probably these stupid pregnancy hormones. :P I also just don't actually think we should even be having anal by this point. I've been told that my body is ready and I could have my baby any day for the last 4 weeks and now I am 39 weeks..official due date is in a week. Birth would be super uncomfortable with the regular pain I get the morning after from abdominal cramping and bowel irritation added into the mix.. like birth wasn't going to be hell already. :S I'm just afraid if I stop having anal with him now and stick to vaginal he won't want to have sex every day with me anymore and I'll almost have to beg a little if I want it because I feel like I need it right now..all the time.. and, besides, I am having that baby any day and then I can only give him head for the next 6 weeks after. I won't get to have sex at all. Another thing is that vaginal sex can help induce labour, and I don't want to end up going overdue if having more regular sex can help it. :P

I guess my question is, guys, after you have had anal sex, do you still enjoy vaginal as much as you did before? Or do you just lose interest and maybe even think of anal while you are having vaginal sex? And why? Shouldn't vaginal sex be better (obviously minus the taboo of it) since it is really the way our bodies were intended to work? Or at least on par? I guess I'm just a little scared as well because if he feels this way when I am not loose, what happens after I have our baby and it takes a little while for the muscles to re-tighten afterwards? Will he just not like it at all? I mentioned that once briefly- he said that was silly, but I just don't know. 

Thoughts?

Dear Lynn89,
I read all the details regarding your Sexual relationships with your husband.
It is natural that a Man and a Womal should indulge in Vaginal Intercourse. God created us to procreate and do Vaginal Intercouse.
You may try it in diiferent ways in order to get Orgasm maximum.

The Anal intercouse is unnatural and the man performing it should wear a Male Codom over his Penis. If not, thereis a chance of the male partner likely to get some diseases.

The purpose of the Anus is to jettisen the digested food we eat. so the anal path and its tracts are filled with dirty.

This Anal Intercourse is shown in Porn videos/ films. So those who once saw this kind of Sex Act may start tryining with their spouse.t.

It is my opinion that we sould dicourage it ( Anal Intercourse ) and spread the message.
We will get maximum pleasure in Vaginal type of Sex Act.
We must do foreplay, touch , caress and fondle the Breasts for sometime before beginning the Act . This way is known to all Adult married couples and one need not teach them.

HAVE A NICE DAY
RAMAKRISHNAN

Thank you for your response. Nah, we aren't going to stop anal. :P I've already found many ways to maximize pleasure vaginally, but I like variety too. I'm the one who initiated anal sex. Believe me, if you knew the things we did, you'd have more to comment on than just anal. :P After 4 years of mediocre sex (doing just the things that you mentioned, no offense), the last 3 years where we have done everything imaginable have been fantastic. Thanks, though. :) I know everyone has a different opinion.

Yea, it's my first baby. :) I hate condoms though. :( Especially since now we are going to have to wear them again. We haven't worn them since we moved in together when we were 17, which was 5 years ago.. I really, really don't want to. :( But I know- I had to tell him we have to stop anal now because I am too pregnant. My due date is April 25, so I could go into labour any day and it would be awful if I did after having anal the night before. I just hope we still fool around as much..



We do use toys, and always keep it interesting- although it was amazing before my belly was the size of a pumpkin, so obviously it's hard to compete with how good it was before. :P I just feel like the quality has, I don't know, de-escalated, which is to be expected, I guess, because I just can't physically do what I could before. Bothers me none the less.



I know it's more than sex. Hell, before I lost 120 lbs a couple years ago and got thin, there were periods where he wanted to fool around and I was just too tired... we could go weeks sometimes but we still had a great relationship. We're best friends- we have been since we were 15. I'm his one and only. :) But I do like to keep things interesting (I guess partially to make up for that period where I had to say no so many times- it made him so sad and made me feel awful. We also only did it once on our honeymoon.. and it wasn't very good. But he always loved me just the same. :) I actually started to lose the weight just after our honeymoon.)



I do agree though. Condom is probably best. I just hate them. :( Lol.

lynn89 wrote:

palani1944 wrote:

lynn89 wrote:

So, my husband and I have been together since we were 15 and having sex since we were 16. He has always seemed to really enjoy vaginal sex. A year and a half or 2 years ago, I thought he would like it if we introduced anal into the mix ( I prefer to always keep things interesting.) Obviously he liked it, and after figuring out how to do it properly, I do too. Fast-forward to present, I know nothing turns him on like the thought of anal or even just putting something in me there. (Not that other things don't turn him on too- I'd say we have a pretty fantastic sex life..even though I'm 9 months pregnant.) The thing is, over the last week, we have been almost only doing it anally. Again, I like it, but it causes me discomfort for the next few days after because I always let him cum in me and we like it when he goes really hard and deep. A few days ago I asked him if he liked it more than vaginal sex, and he quietly said yes. I asked why and he said just the tightness of it- that he can feel everything I do back there and there is sensation over every part of him. He says he still really likes vaginal sex because it is warm and wet (it just doesn't cause the same friction, I guess) and, well, he seems to. But I don't know. He seems less excited by the thought of it now the more we have anal. I used to mention sex and he would go crazy. Now, that more or less happens when we talk about anal. Again, when we have vaginal sex, he always seems to enjoy it a lot when we actually do it- but sometimes, when I am less wet and he has to kind of push it in (say we are on our sides on the couch or something) he sometimes gets really excited and says it feels like it's my ass. Then, after I get wet enough and I'm starting to get more and more into the regular sex, sometimes we actually then switch to anal because I can tell the idea of it has now turned him on enough that that is what he wants instead. 

My question is.. well, i don't really know. :( I'm not sure why, but I feel bothered by this. I know I probably shouldn't.. It's also that I feel like a complete nympho right now and I actually want it even more than him which makes me feel uneasy in the first place. While he'd be happy to do it 4+ times a week, maybe every day, I feel like I want it 4+ times a day and he only wants it once.. and it usually is anally. I want to give him head until he cums, have vaginal sex, and anal sex. But I seem to only get one a day (no, I'm not complaining.. I realize many people only getting it once a week or even less..) and I don't feel like vaginal is anywhere near the top of the list for him, which makes me feel... sad. And I'm not sure why. It's just probably these stupid pregnancy hormones. :P I also just don't actually think we should even be having anal by this point. I've been told that my body is ready and I could have my baby any day for the last 4 weeks and now I am 39 weeks..official due date is in a week. Birth would be super uncomfortable with the regular pain I get the morning after from abdominal cramping and bowel irritation added into the mix.. like birth wasn't going to be hell already. :S I'm just afraid if I stop having anal with him now and stick to vaginal he won't want to have sex every day with me anymore and I'll almost have to beg a little if I want it because I feel like I need it right now..all the time.. and, besides, I am having that baby any day and then I can only give him head for the next 6 weeks after. I won't get to have sex at all. Another thing is that vaginal sex can help induce labour, and I don't want to end up going overdue if having more regular sex can help it. :P

I guess my question is, guys, after you have had anal sex, do you still enjoy vaginal as much as you did before? Or do you just lose interest and maybe even think of anal while you are having vaginal sex? And why? Shouldn't vaginal sex be better (obviously minus the taboo of it) since it is really the way our bodies were intended to work? Or at least on par? I guess I'm just a little scared as well because if he feels this way when I am not loose, what happens after I have our baby and it takes a little while for the muscles to re-tighten afterwards? Will he just not like it at all? I mentioned that once briefly- he said that was silly, but I just don't know. 

Thoughts?

Dear Lynn89,
I read all the details regarding your Sexual relationships with your husband.
It is natural that a Man and a Womal should indulge in Vaginal Intercourse. God created us to procreate and do Vaginal Intercouse.
You may try it in diiferent ways in order to get Orgasm maximum.

The Anal intercouse is unnatural and the man performing it should wear a Male Codom over his Penis. If not, thereis a chance of the male partner likely to get some diseases.

The purpose of the Anus is to jettisen the digested food we eat. so the anal path and its tracts are filled with dirty.

This Anal Intercourse is shown in Porn videos/ films. So those who once saw this kind of Sex Act may start tryining with their spouse.t.

It is my opinion that we sould dicourage it ( Anal Intercourse ) and spread the message.
We will get maximum pleasure in Vaginal type of Sex Act.
We must do foreplay, touch , caress and fondle the Breasts for sometime before beginning the Act . This way is known to all Adult married couples and one need not teach them.

HAVE A NICE DAY
RAMAKRISHNAN

Thank you for your response. Nah, we aren't going to stop anal. :P I've already found many ways to maximize pleasure vaginally, but I like variety too. I'm the one who initiated anal sex. Believe me, if you knew the things we did, you'd have more to comment on than just anal. :P After 4 years of mediocre sex (doing just the things that you mentioned, no offense), the last 3 years where we have done everything imaginable have been fantastic. Thanks, though. :) I know everyone has a different opinion.

I know that one's sexual relationship is their own choice .
Kindly understand that I am not enforcing my ideas regarding Sex on you.
Your are free to chose your way of doing coitus and get maximum pleasure.
Do as you please.
HAVE A NICE DAY
RAMAKRISHNAN

Thanks. You too. :)

lynn89 wrote:

Thanks. You too. :)

Dear Iynn89,
I also thank you for reading my message and my views on Coitus.
HAVE A NICE DAY
RAMAKRISHNAN

Tbh Anal is lovely an so is vaginal,at the same time if he really care an loves u he'll abide with what is better for your health,Its about what both of u want not JUST him an his anal infatuation,talk about it an lighten the situation sweetheart.Seriously,Have fun & CongratZ

Speaking for myself, after experiencing anal sex for the first time, vaginal was never the same after. For many years my partner would mix vaginal and anal sex, but my heart was never really in it when it came to vaginal. Eventually we had conventional sex less and less and now we just practice anal exclusively and are both content. Many people try it and don't like it but the pleasures of anal are incomparable in my opinion. It sounds like your husband is of the same mind. There isn't really any going back for some people, I just hope you are both compatible. 

It's just that, for me, sex is only arousing if he is really aroused. I don't want to make him have vaginal sex or I won't enjoy it any way. I want him to chose it. :(

Thank you by the way. Baby is beautiful. :)

That's what I'm afraid of. :(



But here's what is weird- we started having anal sex 2 weeks postpartum (even though I had stitches and it really hurt- I just didn't want to make him wait anymore.) and I said to him that we could just have anal from then on (even though I am honestly liking it less and less.. it's become something that, to me, added spice to our relationship and strengthened it and now is just hurting it) but he actually got upset and said that was stupid and asked why I wouldn't want to have vaginal sex with him anymore. I was afraid he wouldn't like it since it would be a little more stretched there for a while and also, he would have to use a condom which would suck. And, well, he seemed to prefer anal before those negatives even came into play.. And, I mean, he seems only interested in anal in the first place. But, he disagreed and said he wanted to have normal sex too and it upset him that I would maybe not want to anymore..



But, again, here's the funny thing.. We had vaginal sex at 4 weeks postpartum- hurt like crazy but felt good near the end, and he seemed to like it.. then we did it one more time and then the next time after I asked him to pick which one he wanted to do.. he picked anal. And then the next time after that I asked him to pick and he said normal. I asked why, and he said "well, don't you like it better?" I said I didn't care and to pick one and he..picked anal again.

So I don't get it. I don't want to have vaginal sex with him anymore if he is not really into it.. if we have anal, at least one of us is getting something out of it cause I'm not going to either way if I don't feel like he truly wants vaginal sex. But yet, when I suggest just having anal he gets upset. I don't understand. And it's not like he thinks I don't like anal.. I make all the right noises. If he likes it so damn much and is so obsessed with it, why won't he just agree to have it exclusively? But, gee, I wonder if I had never mentioned it and not had normal sex with him if he would even notice...



Sorry for the rant.

Every person and relationship is different but I'm going to guess about how your husband is feeling.

He wants to forego the vaginal sex completely, but he feels guilty or uncomfortable about that. He doesn't want to appear to want anal exclusively and wants you to be the one to decide - he doth protest too much.

It is unspoken between you but has become a real issue causing a rise in tension, hence your inability to enjoy anal any more, which further ratchets up the tension.

It was a good idea to offer him the choice, but maybe he senses it is some kind of test...who knows.

Maybe the solution is to give him anal for a month, don't offer him a choice. You won't be getting so tense and if he really has had enough of it then he'll let you know. If he never protests you'll know where you stand...

I just thought I'd add to my last post. There was something a the back of my mind then but I couldn't think what it was.

Just a few weeks, or months postpartum will be exhausting for any couple. You'll be run down physically and emotionally and sex of any kind will take a while to get used to once again.

Knowing this, it may be a difficult time to resolve this issue, so just be patient.

It would seem that the biggest problem you have with your husband is one of communication. If you can find a way through the the physical issues aren't nearly as difficult.

If you eventually opt for exclusively anal, then don't worry as many couples continue to have a very satisfying sexual relationship. It's just the idea itself can take a while to get used to.