Hie my name is Amber and i remember when i was around 5 years old my older brother use to force me to do things that i never done. My MOTHER never taught me anything about sex nor rape. I remember being home with my older brother by our selves, my mom was never home she always went out. My brother forced his self on top of me and he put his thing inside of me, he use to do this to me almost everyday when i was 5 up to 7 or 8 years old, he told me to never tell anyone. I never like it when he done that to me it hurted so so much, but i never understood it until now that i am 16 years old, and everytime i think about i start to cry and i get depressed. I finally told my mom last month but she dont believe me she says that im a lair and it really hurted me when she said that. It hurts when someone takes your innocence and it hurts when no one believes you. My mother dont even talk to me any more and sometimes i wish that i was dead and never been born. i realy need help and i wish the thoughts would go away. i feel so guilty because i think it is my fault that it happened. Now im bleeding on the inside and crying on the out, and part of me is missing and no one will listen :( [/list]
how can i tell you that in years from now things will be better for you? I was raped by my older brother (he is 8 yrs older than me)from the time i was 5 till 13. My mother knew about it when my older sister finally told her. All my mother did was spank him and tell him to leave us girls alone. I felt like a piece of meat thrown to the wolf. My mother never did anything to get us girls help. Her excuse was that it was done to him by my grandfather so it wasn't his fault. I don't believe that. We are all responsible for our own actions...i stopped ALL contact with my parents for 5 years. And my self imposed family restrictions did nothing to get the point across that i was raped and it was covered up my entire life. My parents and i have a verbal relationship, but it will never be what it should be. Nor do i care for it to be anything more than what it is. I haven't spoken to their son in 24 years. The worst part is he now has an infant daughter and a son 2 1/2. I know he will/has been molesting them....what can i do to stop him? Tell everyone...teachers, friends, police...anyone who will listen!
And be ready to be made fun of, bad names, criticised and everyother degrading thing that can be done to a human being. You are not at fault, he is and your mother is and every other adult who has let this happen to you.
Honey, get help and get away from your mother and brother as soon as you can. And never go back to them. They will continue to eat away at what is left of you of you don't.
Also take some self defense classes...and if you can get away with it...tell NO ONE that you are taking them. Abusers go after people who they think they can control and humiliate. Imagine his surprise the next time he comes to rape you again when you kick his ass...then call the police and be finished with the rapist.
Be strong....be confident...and when you can, get the hell out of there and never go back.
And be ready to be made fun of, bad names, criticised and everyother degrading thing that can be done to a human being. You are not at fault, he is and your mother is and every other adult who has let this happen to you.
Honey, get help and get away from your mother and brother as soon as you can. And never go back to them. They will continue to eat away at what is left of you of you don't.
Also take some self defense classes...and if you can get away with it...tell NO ONE that you are taking them. Abusers go after people who they think they can control and humiliate. Imagine his surprise the next time he comes to rape you again when you kick his ass...then call the police and be finished with the rapist.
Be strong....be confident...and when you can, get the hell out of there and never go back.
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I am truly sorry to hear of your bad experiences. Your brother is sick and obviously needs help, but that is not something you need to help him with.
I am truly irritated that your mother doesnt believe you. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry you feel so alone and cry often.
Yes you were molested.
Please know this you are not alone, this has happened to many of us. Together we know each other's pain. Please do not blame yourself, you did nothing wrong.
It took me years and years to know that it wasnt my fault and I too felt guilty.
You did the right thing by reaching out and not continuing to bottle it up inside.
Please know there are ways for you to cope. There is therapy and support groups, but this is not for everybody, so start by writing your feelings down, this can be a way to release some of your pain. Its like giving your pain a place to stay instead of inside you.
Although you will never forget what happened and nor get over it. You can do things to cope and begin to recover.
Please know you are not alone.
Take care of yourself sweetie.
I am truly irritated that your mother doesnt believe you. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry you feel so alone and cry often.
Yes you were molested.
Please know this you are not alone, this has happened to many of us. Together we know each other's pain. Please do not blame yourself, you did nothing wrong.
It took me years and years to know that it wasnt my fault and I too felt guilty.
You did the right thing by reaching out and not continuing to bottle it up inside.
Please know there are ways for you to cope. There is therapy and support groups, but this is not for everybody, so start by writing your feelings down, this can be a way to release some of your pain. Its like giving your pain a place to stay instead of inside you.
Although you will never forget what happened and nor get over it. You can do things to cope and begin to recover.
Please know you are not alone.
Take care of yourself sweetie.
Go to your school tell your guidance councilor (Most middle and high schools have one), Health Teacher (All middle and high schools have one), School nurse, and any one else you think could get you help. Teachers will not share this information, unless they are worried about your health. You don't have to go through any more of this stuff.
I was so depressed to read this, because when I was 7, my father molested me! He never had actual sex with me, just rubbing and masterbating in front of me! I felt dirty and ashamed for years and it really killed my self esteem for the longest time! But, I got counseling later and now I no longer feel as bad as before because I know it was not my fault! I finally told my mother and child services had him investigated because I didn't want it to happen to my younger sister as well! You are a victim of a very selfish act on your brother's part and I am so sorry you went through that! Do not blame yourself....please seek counseling now so that you can work through your feelings and come to grips with this and eventually move on. My thoughts are with you!
Hi Amber, I was abused for years by my step dad he also did the same to my sisters. We never told anyone or each other that it was happing. It was only when I was sixteen that I told my mum she too did not believe me and thought that I was making it up. We had the police come to the house and take me into care thinking I was lying. It was only when my older sister told my mum that he too had done thing to her for years that I was believed. Don’t worry she will believe you its hard for your mum to understand that her son who she too loves as much as you has done something so terrible. Go and talk to her again if she does not respond then I would suggest you call the police and report it I would suggest you do this anyway to prevent future abuse to his own children, family or Friends. If you let it go and don’t say anything it’s like you have condoned it and all the future abuse its hard to tell the police when its family, your torn between love and hate. I hope all goes well for you and you can sort everything out be positive and stand up for all those young children that can not stand up and say what’s happing.
Dear Amber, I am so sorry to hear about what happend to you. Please trust me when i say you are not alone. I was sexually abused for years by my uncle, then raped by a boyfriend, and then again sexually abused by an older cousin of mine. Not to mention physical and mental abuse I suffered for 7 years from my mother's now exboyfriend. I always felt alone and I really didn't know how to tell anyone. I was sure that everything that happend to me was my fault. At the same time, I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. Which I couldn't see the reason for everything i went through. I finally told my mother, who was shocked about my uncle, but I felt like she didn't quite believe me. She never listened to me about her boyfriend either. Mostly because she never saw it and he put on a really great front around everyone. After the c**p with my uncle finally came to an end, it took me about 2 years to get to the point where I didn't wanna just curl up and die. Then after the other c**p happend, I started thinking about it all over again. I still sometimes have dreams about the c**p I had to deal with and think about it when I see something or read something that brings back memories.
So, i'd like to say one day you'll forget all about it, but I wont lie to you. It's not going to be easy and you will always have those thoughts and memories in the back of your head. I wish I could lend you my shoulder to cry on so you didn't feel so alone, I wish I would have had a shoulder when i had to deal with this. I am truely sorry for what happend to you Amber. IT WAS IN NO WAY YOUR FAULT!! PLEASE BELIEVE THAT AMBER!!
As I said before, i have always believed that everything happens for a reason... I never got the reason for what I went through until about 8 years ago. I was about 12 or 13 when i finally came up with a reason. In my mind I decided that everything that I went through, protected other siblings, family members, and close friends from having to go through it. Not that I believe it should have happend to me or should ever happen to anyone. But this my logic in my head, it made it a little easier for me, saying that yes I was hurt, but I very well might have saved the people I love from being hurt.
Also when I was around 13, I made a decesion that many others, probably wouldn't have made. I decided that if I could go back and not have any of that c**p happen to me. If I could live a happy child hood with a mom and a dad (my sperm doner left when I was 3) and just was able to be a kid, instead of growing up so fast. Would I do it? NO, I HAD A REALLY HARD TIME GROWING UP, I NEVER THOUGHT LIFE WAS FAIR, AND ALWAYS FELT LIKE THE OUTSIDER. BUT I AM A REALLY STRONG PERSON BECAUSE OF THE c**p I WENT THROUGH!! I HAVE A HAPPY LIFE NOW, AND I WOULD NOT CHANGE MY PAST IF I COULD!!
ONCE AGAIN I AM SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPEND TO YOU AMBER, IT'S NOT FAIR, AND IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU ARE NOT ALONE JUST KEEP THAT IN MIND MY DEAR!!
HMK
So, i'd like to say one day you'll forget all about it, but I wont lie to you. It's not going to be easy and you will always have those thoughts and memories in the back of your head. I wish I could lend you my shoulder to cry on so you didn't feel so alone, I wish I would have had a shoulder when i had to deal with this. I am truely sorry for what happend to you Amber. IT WAS IN NO WAY YOUR FAULT!! PLEASE BELIEVE THAT AMBER!!
As I said before, i have always believed that everything happens for a reason... I never got the reason for what I went through until about 8 years ago. I was about 12 or 13 when i finally came up with a reason. In my mind I decided that everything that I went through, protected other siblings, family members, and close friends from having to go through it. Not that I believe it should have happend to me or should ever happen to anyone. But this my logic in my head, it made it a little easier for me, saying that yes I was hurt, but I very well might have saved the people I love from being hurt.
Also when I was around 13, I made a decesion that many others, probably wouldn't have made. I decided that if I could go back and not have any of that c**p happen to me. If I could live a happy child hood with a mom and a dad (my sperm doner left when I was 3) and just was able to be a kid, instead of growing up so fast. Would I do it? NO, I HAD A REALLY HARD TIME GROWING UP, I NEVER THOUGHT LIFE WAS FAIR, AND ALWAYS FELT LIKE THE OUTSIDER. BUT I AM A REALLY STRONG PERSON BECAUSE OF THE c**p I WENT THROUGH!! I HAVE A HAPPY LIFE NOW, AND I WOULD NOT CHANGE MY PAST IF I COULD!!
ONCE AGAIN I AM SORRY FOR WHAT HAPPEND TO YOU AMBER, IT'S NOT FAIR, AND IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU ARE NOT ALONE JUST KEEP THAT IN MIND MY DEAR!!
HMK
I am women, i know what you feel.....i think if your mom doesn't believe you, just go to some of the social consultation that could help you..they are the people whom i think would understand and believe you
REMEMBER ITS NEVER EVER EVER YOUR FAULT.
ITS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR BROTHER IS SICK
u need to tell someone u trust, which would not be your mom.
its never your fault that u were raped. never ever ever.
my heart goes out u to
get back to me alright??
btw my names kendra
ITS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR BROTHER IS SICK
u need to tell someone u trust, which would not be your mom.
its never your fault that u were raped. never ever ever.
my heart goes out u to
get back to me alright??
btw my names kendra
my dear sweet innocent. something simular happened to me from the age of three to sixteen. im 34 i only told my mother when my uncle who did these things to me died.. i ahte him for what he did he made me into a nervous wreck. dont let your brother take away your life get it back.. well done you for speaking out xxxx hugs and kissesxxxx
Just to let ALL of you girls, there are no limitations on rape, incest, abuse or molestation.
I hope you can find it in your selves to take this to your Police Department.
Regardless if it is a family member, friend, boyfriend it doesn't matter. What matters is you and what these creeps have done to all of you.
Don't be scared, tho you will have a lot to proove, but it could be worth it to you in the end.
I hope you can find it in your selves to take this to your Police Department.
Regardless if it is a family member, friend, boyfriend it doesn't matter. What matters is you and what these creeps have done to all of you.
Don't be scared, tho you will have a lot to proove, but it could be worth it to you in the end.
Hi, this is for Andie,
I hate to say this but if you don't report your brother raping you, you will be partly at fault if he molests his children. Of course maybe you won't be able to prove it or he won't confess, but if you sincerely tell his girlfriend of wife and also at least make a report to the police, then you've done what you can do and you conscience can rest easy even if no one believes you. It's awful to say I know because you've been through so much that WASN'T your fault, and it's not really right that going through so much just leads you to have to be brave yet again to tell what happened to you...
However, it IS your responsibility, even if it's not really right. You have to put those kids first, because you know something, that possibly could save them from the same thing happening to them. I also question that now that you're an adult wether you will get name calling and people will try to shame you....I think those are left over feelings from when you were a kid and your brother trying to keep you from telling, telling you that no one will believe you or else they'll think it's your fault and you're dirty or something., You're an adult now, and you may or may not get a backlash from your family or others from telling this, but it really may not be as bad as you think. People might even admire you for being so brave and selfless.
Anyway, do the right thing. It's not your fault that you're scared to and it's NOT your fault for not doing it yet, but please try to do the right thing soon. You may find that whatever the reaction is you feel SO much stronger and less ashamed and even safer after getting it off your chest and putting it out in the open. But also keep in mind that the wife or girlfriend may not believe you and you may not be able to prove it to the police, so you MUST not blame yourself if you're not successful and you are not able to protect those children. You're not expect to be supergirl, and there may just be too much playing against you. But I think you will feel so much better if you try and you never know, you could be a hero.
I hate to say this but if you don't report your brother raping you, you will be partly at fault if he molests his children. Of course maybe you won't be able to prove it or he won't confess, but if you sincerely tell his girlfriend of wife and also at least make a report to the police, then you've done what you can do and you conscience can rest easy even if no one believes you. It's awful to say I know because you've been through so much that WASN'T your fault, and it's not really right that going through so much just leads you to have to be brave yet again to tell what happened to you...
However, it IS your responsibility, even if it's not really right. You have to put those kids first, because you know something, that possibly could save them from the same thing happening to them. I also question that now that you're an adult wether you will get name calling and people will try to shame you....I think those are left over feelings from when you were a kid and your brother trying to keep you from telling, telling you that no one will believe you or else they'll think it's your fault and you're dirty or something., You're an adult now, and you may or may not get a backlash from your family or others from telling this, but it really may not be as bad as you think. People might even admire you for being so brave and selfless.
Anyway, do the right thing. It's not your fault that you're scared to and it's NOT your fault for not doing it yet, but please try to do the right thing soon. You may find that whatever the reaction is you feel SO much stronger and less ashamed and even safer after getting it off your chest and putting it out in the open. But also keep in mind that the wife or girlfriend may not believe you and you may not be able to prove it to the police, so you MUST not blame yourself if you're not successful and you are not able to protect those children. You're not expect to be supergirl, and there may just be too much playing against you. But I think you will feel so much better if you try and you never know, you could be a hero.
This is a very good point. If you are to say something to an authority now, go file a police report.. even if they think you're crazy, EVEN if they don't believe you look at it this way...
If he ever does this to anyone again and THEY come forward and he has a ANYTHING on his record saying he may have done this before, everyone will be on your side. Not only with you get justice but you'll potentially help any other victims.
The kid is sick.
Don't you dare think for a second this is your fault. You were young and you had no control over anything. You had no idea. Whether your mother believes you are not, you've got people on your side. And whether you want to believe it or not, you CAN get through this and one day you WILL be happy. And you'll realize that its made you stronger.
If he ever does this to anyone again and THEY come forward and he has a ANYTHING on his record saying he may have done this before, everyone will be on your side. Not only with you get justice but you'll potentially help any other victims.
The kid is sick.
Don't you dare think for a second this is your fault. You were young and you had no control over anything. You had no idea. Whether your mother believes you are not, you've got people on your side. And whether you want to believe it or not, you CAN get through this and one day you WILL be happy. And you'll realize that its made you stronger.
Hi im so sorry to hear about what happened to u. It was not ur fault at all after all u were very very young. I was molested by father when i was young. He used to rape and molest my stepsister (his step daughter) and after she left he turned to me. Me and my brother used to tell my mom all the time what my dad was doing to my sister but she wouldnt believe us..she wouldnt even believe me when i told her he did the same to me. A few years later my sister came back into our lives and i told her what happened to me and she finally confronted my mom. My sister had a baby before she moved out and we think it is my fathers, since she looks so much like me and my father. Now i know ur hurting and hun u should talk to a counselor before u do anything to hurt urself. Someday ur mom will believe u but u should get out of there soon. Make her take u to counseling or go to a school counselor and tell them and make them make her come. i know u wont believe it now but u will feel better if u get some help if u wont u'll only get worse. *hugs* u'll see.