how to stay in love with a bipolar person

Like everyone else, I can relate to whatever you are going through. I am going through the same love-hate-guilt w/ this woman I know now for almost 6 years.
We both were married, she is almost divorced and I separated from my wife for more than one year for this woman who has gotten me into deep turmoil w/ all her incoherencies.
I learned, read and educated myself w/ this mental illness. I could be here for her under any circumstances but not for what is commonly known as "hypersex" phases.
Not sure this is part of her "highs" but she did non sense things w/ men when she was/is "deeply in love" w/ me. Everytime caught (twice for a fact), she goes into deep turmoil w/ all associated theatral behaviors which led once to have the police at her home.
I wonder how this can be associated to the maniac-depression cycles when she planned, manipulated and carried on for months w/ hidden sexual activities until she got caught. Being able to bombard me w/ emails, voice mails texts of how much she loves me, yet seeing a man in a motel in the afternoon, a man she knew for years and who was a friend.
It is quite amazing on how she can deny the obvious, pretending nothing happened when I knew for a fact she was in a motel for few hours.
We are being asked to love unconditionnally someone who has serious problems, often at the expanse of our own mental health, how can this be when it comes to this level of hiding for sex w/ men she would not relate to in normal times, yet she sees them every once in a while particularly when I am on trip.
It is terrible to go on the plane wondering if something will happen again. I am not superman, nor can I understand why this would be considered a mental decease. I think this is like for everyone else, lies and manipulation for sex gratification.
It is indeed true that BP have often this sexual drive that is difficult to sustain but how can one do this when they are supposedly in love w/ someone, planning their future?
I have done this during my marriage, this does not qualify me as mentally disturbed. I am not proud of what I did to my ex wife and changed because I love this woman so much. I could not even feel doing it, I feel totally fulfilled w/ her on so many areas but trust is getting into our way and I feel broken down thinking about what she did and how she did it.
She has no boundaries until she gets caught where she goes in deep turmoil but very soon I find myself on guilty seat because I pushed her so much and do not trust her.
Bottom line, you can stay w/ a woman like her but you need to accept her, ignore and dont even try to understand the sex on the side that will happen once in a while. I just cannot and I feel degraded and betrayed.
I left home, bought a place where she now lives and I live in an apartment because we cannot live together due to her family complications. Certainly the best set up if I want to keep mentally sane but I am losing it.
Leaving her won't be easy, she has become like my cocaine, however staying on it will end up killing me.
There is nothing selfish here, I know she will change w/ her medical treatment that she is taking now but I also know she will stop it because of her missing the highs.

Wow I'm totally shocked right now. I'm bipolar and I'm a girl but iv never used that as an excuse to cheat on my bf. And cussing out strangers? Really? Like my type if bipolar is to the extreme Iv been hospitalized and I'm on a ton on meds but I'm not a horriable person like the women being discribed! There is a diffrence to being sick and using an illness to get away with being a

hi ive been split up with my girlfriend since november she has recently been diagnosed with bipolar after she started being tested for it when we were together we have got back in touch about 2 months ago and spent night's together and told each other we still love eachother just recently over the last 2 weeks she's not been interested and told me she wants to get over me. I love this girl with all my heart and im so sacred she didn't mean that she loved me. I keep texting saying im here and i love her but i dont get a reply. I just dont know what to do anymore she's my first love and its horrible thinking she may be moving on after going off with me so easily i need some advice on what to do this is mentally killing me i just want my baby back so i can look after and care for her in the way that i should.not just feeling like im doing her head in. I feel so useless at the moment. How am i going to get her back?

hello,
It does make you feel better that you are not alone in this battle agaisnt bipolar. I met my girlfriend in august 09 and she told me right away she is bipolar but it medicated. I experienced alittle ups and downs but nothing serious and everything was going great. She has two boys from her previous relationship and we fell in love so deeply, she said she wished the boys were by me and talked about marriage and said I have every quality in a man she wants and than we got pregnant 4 months in. Than thats when the trouble started. She had to get off seroquel the withdraw was so terrible, she tryed cold turkey but couldnt and took smaller doses for two weeks. She changed completely, she knows it and can't do anything about it. I march we broke up and in april the dead beat dad of the two boys moved back from california and she let him stay at her place. I was still staying there everynight and the night he came back she told me I had to leave! How do you think that felt? We are expecting a baby, she keeps telling me we should just be friends and wants to see if she wants to get back together with him. I can't handle it, that roller coaster of emotions are just to much to handle. The push and pull she puts on me is outragous. I don't know want she wants or feels, she doesnt even know, she told me. How should I go aback this? When she gets back on the medication things can only get better? I want to stick it through and see how things work out. But somedays I cant and just want to run away, but I also want to be there for her and I am this pregnancy has been the worst one she has ever gone through. Does anyone have any experience in dealing with this type of situation?

First off, I am a 25yo female struggling with bipolar and bpd. All of your situations are exactly how my relationships are. I can't imagine how it is to be on the other end. I know what I go through is hell.. But your right when you say that you have to be ready for a relationship with someone who is bipolar. The last guy I dated.. less than a month.. told me he was "in love" with me.. but then told me he couldn't handle my up's and down's. I am getting help and I'm on medicine and seeing a therapist.. but will always struggle with triggers and mood swings. Now this guy could have just been a player/jerk.. or he really could have been overwhelmed.. but for someone who is really getting help to try and have a happy, healthy, "normal" life and relationships.. this sucks.. If you really care about someone with bipolar.. don't get discouraged.. especially if they are trying to get healthy.. I would give anything to be "normal" and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Dear Guest: I am a person struggling with Bipolar disorder. I knew and dated a guy with autism for about a year...I still love him very dearly and I miss him a lot. I put him through a lot of stress. I used to call him alot and interrupt him when he was trying to be social with his friends at school. He stopped communicating with me because he got busy with school. I got really paraniod and sent him a nasty email. After that i never heard from him again. I believe that you have been through a lot and are a stronger person because of it...just realize when your girl is having problems and she gets suspicious of you she is not herself...I know I wasn't when I got that way. Also bipolar people are not liars. During my relationship with him I was very honest with everything that i told him. Just realize that she is afraid and she needs someone to talk to at that moment and that someone is probably you, because she cares about you. I wish I still had contact with the man I used to date because I could apologize to him and tell him that he means a lot to me. I also suggest that you get off the drugs and get back to normal because if your girl knew that drugs were in your life right now it would just make her situation worse. Just realize that she will get stable again in time with the appropriate therapists and family help. I wish the best of luck for you and your girl.

I am struggling with bipolar and i realize that i put a lot of people through stress when I am manic. I dated a guy with autism for about a year. I love him very much to this day. I used to call him constantly when i was in a manic episode. I feel very bad about it and to this day regret what i have done to him. I wish i still had contact with him. Towards the end of our relationship I wrote him a nasty email...I was manic at that time and had a very short temper. I guess I did not realize the pain I caused him and now I am realizing what an i**** I was for putting him through what i put him through...I now here that he is in trouble and doing things that can cause harm to him. He has not talked to me since the break up. Yes Bipolar people can be hypocritical but that does not mean that they are unloyal or untrustworthy. A lot of bipolar people are confused about their disorder and scared of what it could do. I even know some bipolars who self medicate and have very bad coping mechanisms. I really suggest that you stop the drug addiction because if you really care about the one you love you would stop. Do this for yourself and her and maybe in time she will realize her mistake and forgive you but only if you let her forgive you and change your ways.

my bipolar girlfreind tried to stab me...

Are you the person with the girlfriend who is an artist?

Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years and things have been wonderful. Dont get me wrong theres the upsand downs. About 3months ago she was told by the doc that she has bypolar andthings ave been hell. She stopped taking her meds and shes always in the manic stage 24=7 i love her i want to continue to ove her but i cant take much more. please help. :'(

I never thought that I could find something like this and I feel it nice to take it out.
I do think that I am bipolar and I have a very hard time to surpress it. I could be happy and suddenly become Glum of no reason.
I could become angry at a person but I felt very very upset of my own behaviour.
I never wish to be like this but I cannot help it. I never share this to anyone because I'm scared.
I never think to have any partner for now but if I had, I would like my partner to be understand that it is not my will.
I think that it is nice to have a person to remind me when I had "that moment" so I could have more control.
And I want to praise those who support their boy/girlfriend, I know it wouldn't be easy for both of them.

I've been dating a girl diagnosed bipolar for few years, from my experience anyone willing be there for a loved one with bipolar is to have support. Do not do it alone, be around people who will give support. Church is one of the most human compassionate places to attend, a bipolar person has been mentally/emotionally damaged, and in alot of cases due to drugs (keep bipolar person drug free), and/or abnormal upbringing. I hate to point fingers but take a closer look of bipolar person's parents, there is suppose to be a link, it is suppose to be genetic, I strongly believe it is by upbringing. It all seems as if the person just needs to grow up, and has self destructive behavior. Unfortunately it is more complicated and severe because of the extremes of bipolar, good luck to you all dealing with bipolar.

This is to all of you who are with a bi-polar person from a bi-polar person. first things first if you drink excessively or do drugs while using bi-polar meds they WONT WORK!! I know I went through all of it smoking up and drinking heavy. 1st of all if you truly love this person the ups and downs will be greatly decreased if they take their meds like clockwork and lay off the booze and drugs. I quit smoking pot and I found an awesome councillor to help me gain the willpower to lower the amount of booze I drank. 2yrs ago I was drinking 30 beers in 3 days now I drink 6 Bottles and a tallboy can in 2 - 3 days. My mood swings are minimal, I still get them but not for as long or as severly. So what I'm getting at is if you want your loved one to be less of a burden on you and be able to help them take my advice go to the local M.H.U.
(Mental Health Unit) at your hospital get them on the emergency wait list for counciling, Addiction, Pshychiatry. It's all covered by your health coverage in Canada anyway. you will find excellent help at no cost. Now remember the changes will not happen overnight so be patient and the up side to this is you can sometimes get lucky and be able to attend the councilling with them so you can tell them what the bi-polar person is putting you through, Which helps the councillors better understand what's going on. As well as gives you a place to vent. It can still be a long hard road to travel believe me I went down it with my wife and I'm on the right meds and continue to be councilled almost 3 years later, anger management has always been a large problem for me and my addictions councillor is helping me there too. I also have a personal councillor who I speak to about anything that I need to get off my chest and it feels good when you walk out at the end.. I could probably write you a freakin book about the last 3 yrs of my life but I gave you all the important info. Now if this person means that much to you make that call monday morning and get them the help they need... for you and for them..

As a bipolar girl, I can tell you one thing. Every once in a while I get into a fight about something ridiculous, I hurl some pretty nasty comments around. I might even tell you to pack up your things and leave. But by no means do I mean these things. I often get confused during these moments, because I'm not sure what I really want or even if I'll think the same thing hours later. My fiancé has always been an excellent support system and together we seem to be able to tackle any issue. It's complicated, but if your girl's worth more to you than the baggage, go for it!

Im bipolar and i would like to tell everyone my side of how relationships are with someone you truely love.
I have bipolar..anxitey and depresssion. I figured i got it after my mom commited suicide....anyways

i Have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and honestly i couldnt ask for anyone better.
He stops me from spending money in my manic mood and always holds me and reasures me when im down.
Me and him fight on a constant basis over stupid sh*t and yes i have gotten angry to the point where i tried beating him up over towels.
I will yell at him at times because i dont want him to leave to go to work cause i feel lonley and i feel like were distant and then i get pissed when he walks out...i call him an as****e all the time...I Constantly am parinoid about him cheating and i get extremely jealous when he spends time with out me and i automaticly think im loosing him...in every small fight first i get mad and say maybe this isnt guna work and then after words i flip completely around and am bawling my eyes out saying im sorry and how much i love him. But with all that said....
He still is there for me...no matter what...he always holds me after an argument and tells me its okay. he forgives me for what i said. I tell him im sorry a billion times.
Relationships with a bi polar person are absolutely insane...but there are many possitive sides to a relationship like that...
(well there is in mine and sure there is in many other peoples as well)

Bi polar people are very creative...and have a huge imagination...which makes things interesting..and for guys who dont have alot of emotions some of them love dealing with the battle of the emotions because it keeps them on their toes and always makes them think of new ways to make you happy.
Also the love from a bi polar person....
i want to go highly into detail with this...
Bi polar people tend to be permiscous in angry or manic moods...

Most of the time when a bi polar person tells you they loves you they really does. many of them get attacted quicky.
And yes when they get mad they say some very hurtful things but dont forget theres a line between the actual person and then the bi polar person talking. and my boyfriend has figured that out and that is one of the keys to having it work.
After we freak and say mean things and break sh*t and all of that we relize what we have done and we break down and basicaly feel as the world is ending...we apologize till no ends and cry and hold you and tell you how much we love you...
But if one really does love you...you will have someone who will be there until the end...and no matter what happens they will always love you for better or for worse.
One moment we could be trying to kill our selves and with 30 seconds we could be as happy as ever and laughing.
I would have to say if you are in a relationship with someone bi polar dont give up on them...

Every since i met my boyfriend he has completely changed my life. made me not ashamed of my bi polar..he helps me get more self confidance...and He is honestly the reason i continue to take medicane because i hate saying the things i do and i hate making him feel not good enought and like a penis because in all reality and guy who is willing to put up with a bxtch who has bi polar is by far one of the strongest people out there. Everything i do in life is now for him and for us. I better my self for him and yeah thats bad but thats how many people are i believe. If a bi polar person trust you you obviously mean alot to them

Bi polar people love feeling loved. expecially from the ones they love...they always want to be with you and always want to be around you.

But honestly if you are in a relationship with one and you think your up for your emotions getting ripped up and then all a sudden glued back together constantly...then stick with it dont give up when sh*t gets hard...because i promise you if you stick around for all of it...they will have and unconditional love for you