how to stay in love with a bipolar person

Man.. If she knew I was posting this, I can hear her now.... Anyway, I'm deeply in love with this girl, and I must be because she aborted my kid, had a severe coke problem, cheated on me, relapsed her coke problem and spent all her money...I want to save her, not for being bi polar, but from her life, She hurts me a lot, but I know she loves me, we're miles apart and I want to help her. I wish I could break through her brain solely with logic. Using words to clam her and get her to see the good in life is difficult, and I'm a smooth talker. I know it's not going to be an easy thing, I do not want anything out of her but for her to be happy. I am warming all out there, you must really love these people, because if not.... you won't make it. When times are up it's great but it's when times are down you must stay in control... do not argue, let them run away, be their rock.... they will come back..... but will you accept them this time? Is it worth it?

Hi, I live with a person with bipolar, and it has its ups and downs...the moods change and pass, but it is really hard for me to deal with the meanness that he spouts. It has been five years for us, and its very hard to forgive and forget. I do it, because I love him. You have to have thick skin to be with someone with bipolar.

I really need some help my wife and I have been married for 2 years now i am 19 almost 20 and the same for her she all of a sudden flipped out after we had an argument about 3 to four days ago ive asked her multiple times to just give me one more chance i trully love her with all of my heart but i do not know what to do its killing me inside thinking that i will never get to hold my baby in my arms again and tell her i lover her if anybody can help please do i really need it i dont want to lose her my name is Tyler Sovine

I really need some help my wife and I have been married for 2 years now i am 19 almost 20 and the same for her she all of a sudden flipped out after we had an argument about 3 to four days ago ive asked her multiple times to just give me one more chance i trully love her with all of my heart but i do not know what to do its killing me inside thinking that i will never get to hold my baby in my arms again and tell her i lover her if anybody can help please do i really need it i dont want to lose her my name is Tyler Sovine please add me on facebook i would really apreciate some help on this 

hi im girl replying to the post yes i can relate to the girl having manic deprssive boyfriend its evry sad ihad my slef esteem so good i flel tgood then after 1 shattered down now i am building agian rebuilding evry evry hard painful ikeep praying i have some private crys iloves him somuch iwlsy pray hes safe well and willget proper help amen ihope uw ould responde to me i dont feel alone anymore

When I met my mate, and he told me he was bipolar, I just thought "OK, I can do this", not knowing what I was about to encounter.  I foolishly did not even look it up because I saw no change in him for months.  When the bipolar finally revealed itself I was completely dumbfounded!  This is not like anything I had ever come across before.  His depression, the mood swings, I didn't know what to say to him. I thought it was me, regardless of the reassurance from him that "It's not you, it's me." I think we all know what that implies.  This disorder is not something to be taken lightly. For a long time, I felt like his mother not his girlfriend. If he is the one you really want to be with, it requires alot of talking to him, to others, and reading up on what and how you can deal with bipolar.  We have been together for 11 going on 12 years now. It's not always easy, but it's well worth keeping the man I love  as happy as we can be.

 

I'm a 49 year old man, and have been diagnosed bipolar for 30 years. It's been a rough road to travel for my wife and daughter. Even though I have been consistently taking my medication and going for medication management and therapy, I still struggle with the disease on a minute to minute basis. I am at times unable to logically follow a conversation - which makes having social relationships difficult if not impossible; I spout out my differences with people in angry emails; am hypersexual vis a vis the internet; have constant mood shifts; am always looking for the right combination of medications...and overall, anxious and sometimes irritable. I do my best when I'm alone and focused. If I were my wife, I'd leave. It's as simple as that.

Fair play to you JLP.That is very honest of you and hearing it from someone who has the disease and is open about it like you and humble makes me feel like my gf really does have a difficult illness and shes not just acting up and though my feelings are dwindling a little since its five months since she broke up with me I'd still much rather patch things up between us and help her maintain stability.

I met a girl a month back and absolutely fall in love with her. She was the most amazing person I had ever met..very carding and loving.After few dates she came to my house to spend the weekend and we had good time..and we were talking about marriage,kids etc and in all conversation she was an active participant.and we had some amazing sex too. SHe went back and after a day she texted me saying she got cold sore and she is not happy about it. I msged her saying take some meds and take rest. After that she started sending me msgs that I am  a jerk and she is tired of me pushing her all around. She felt disrespected as I had sex with her and she doesnt want to see me again.

I know her mom is bipolar and she sees a therapist every week as she never had proper relationship with her parents which affects here. Is She bipolar too? I am madly in love with her and i feel so helpless.

More than likely she will come back.As its only a month.She probably is bi polar.If you and her want a good stable relationship you're gonna have to help her tackle her bi polar and if I were you I'd leave off the sex till I'm pretty sure about her.She could have had great sex with you because she was in a hypomanic state.She probably regrets having slept with you so fast now looking back.If you continue to have sex with her when she is not stable and probably not aware of whst shes doing she cpuld feel very disrespected.Make sure shes stable first.Just my advice!!!

 

This sounds like the relationship that just ended for me 4 months ago.
She was bipolar, alcoholic. She stopped drinking. But when they switched meds, all went to pot.
She was a talented artist as well.

I miss her but I don't miss the hell I was in.
I googled this article to remind me of the bad times.

My girlfriend is bipolar too and its not easy I know but it depends how much you can go with it and how much sacrifice you are able to make because its going to be tough but if u love her it worth it, for me its worth it and i feel so lucky to have her in my life. sometimes she sings very loud for an hour, sometimes she changes her mood because she is hungry. and sometimes I feel she doesn't appreciate my company. she cant sleep at night and she sleep until 2pm every day I work early in the morning but I think she can not understand I cant stay up late with her but again I try my best and I think I adapted to be awake until 4 and wake up 8.

Hi...yes I am still with this person.hes a lovely man.He since had a low episode before xmas and is now finally back to himself...Its hard and very trying at times but it all depends on how severe the episodes are.It depends on how strong you are as a person,how much you can deal with and how much you are involved with this person.We dont have any kids so I suppose it would be 'easy' in some respects to leave him...But we love each other very much and we just spend the last 8 months doing up his grandmothers house to make it into a nice new home for ourselves.When hes well(WHICH IS MORE OFTEN THAN NOT) we are very happy together.Hes definitely had a bad year but hes now not had a drink in 4 months.If he started drinking I would find it very hard to 4give him. I f you are willing to stay with this person than I can give you some advice that I have learned so far. 1.Dont badger him/her with questions if they are quiet in themselves-Sometimes during low episodes,it can be difficult for a person with bipolar to think straight,have slow reactions or even no response. 2.If your living together,give them space-we all need our space -but if themseem irritated or content sitting alone-leave them alone. 3.Routine is very important-good meals at regular times,excercise and SLEEP IS SOOOO IMPORTANT at regular time each night....If you notice lack of sleep for a few nights or more-this can be a sign of a manic episode starting. 4.Be careful not to put every single mood and humour down to Bi-polar,its a condition a person has NOT a condition a person is. 5. I mentioned excercise above-good for confidence,can help with low periods and increases endorphines in the brain to help lift the mood. 6.All of the above things should be done on an every day basis not just when the person is unwell. 7.Look after your own health,give yourself time,space,social life aswell,if youve been in a relationship with a person with bi-polar for a while-you've made sacrifices and seen difficult thing so take care of your well-being. I hope this helped. Mo :-)

You are correct when you encourage people to be warned (when dating a bipolar person). It can be an intense and frustrating situation for most who are faint at heart. Besides the fire that is already there....there must be stability or a realistic search for some sort of stability in the relationship, if you want it to last. (This is unless you are a complete hopeless romantic of course---which is fine if youre okay with that :-) ). There are so many variables! (Medication being one, ignorant, stubborn assholes). It's a proven chemical imbalance. All human beings are hypocrites, btw. Some bipolar people know that what they are saying is inaccurate of who they really are. But 7 times a month? that sounds like a definate fault on your part. find somebody (bipolar or not) that makes you sustainibly happy...or maybe you also are bipolar....mwauhhaha

You need to find out what bipolar is all about for sure. I was so confused about my girlfriend because I didn't know she was bipolar and when she just turned on me overnight I sort of lost my mind- I just didn't understand how someone could love you one day and be done the next like no big deal.. but now that I know what's up I just see her turning on and off as just a part of her magic and I know I'll be around when she comes back around because I love her. I guess the good times are really really good for me to wait for them because the cold periods sort of suck.