I am 41 and have only slept with 3 men. 2 had small penises which i had no problem having in me but the other was larger (not huge but average size) and he could only get the head of his penis in without me being in pain. I was totally relaxed so i know it wasnt from being tensed up. There is a guy at the moment i plan to be with soon and his penis is a decent sized and im so scared it wont go in. I cant use dildos unless they are small. Most things i just cant get in even if i use lube and i dont know why or what to do to make it so i can get an average sized penis in me. Please help!
Probably best to see a gyno and see if they check for any medical reasons, they maybe also able to suggest if using dilaters would help stretch the vagina