My boyfriend and I have amazing sex.... alot! but he now feels like he isn't doing well because i can't cum during sex. It's not like i don't have enough time because he can go for up to an hour sometimes, and the sex feels amazing, but I get dry and he can tell that I am not getting off. What's wrong? I did when we first started having sex, but as time goes on I just can't anymore... Am I having sex too much?
hi leann,
first off, I don't think you're having too much sex. Different women can get off in different ways. some can only climax with oral, some can only climax with intercourse.
For women, sex is more mental than anything, right? clear your mind somehow before you start foreplay with your boyfriend- have him give you a massage or do something that mentally stimulates you to prepare yourself. make yourself feel sexier with lingerie, toys, fixing your hair, make-up or whatever it takes to make you feel your sexiest! When we start to get dry durning sex, we are not "mentally" connecting to the act. Not to say that you aren't turned on by your boyfriend or enjoying it, but something in your mind is wondering- weither it be, something that distracts you in the room, about your day, about your body or whatever. Keep focus and have him help you.
Try it a few tims with the lights off or blind folded so that you can ONLY focus on the sensations and feeling eachothers energy.
Also, pick up some KY at the store- there is nothing wrong with needing to use some lubricant sometimes- our bodies produce natural lube ( as you know) but depending on where we are in our cycles, naturally we produce more on some days and less on others, regardless of how turned on we are.
I really hope this helps, I have totally been in your shoes... just remember to relax and focus on your feelings of your guy and the way he makes you physically feel.
have fun!
:-)
first off, I don't think you're having too much sex. Different women can get off in different ways. some can only climax with oral, some can only climax with intercourse.
For women, sex is more mental than anything, right? clear your mind somehow before you start foreplay with your boyfriend- have him give you a massage or do something that mentally stimulates you to prepare yourself. make yourself feel sexier with lingerie, toys, fixing your hair, make-up or whatever it takes to make you feel your sexiest! When we start to get dry durning sex, we are not "mentally" connecting to the act. Not to say that you aren't turned on by your boyfriend or enjoying it, but something in your mind is wondering- weither it be, something that distracts you in the room, about your day, about your body or whatever. Keep focus and have him help you.
Try it a few tims with the lights off or blind folded so that you can ONLY focus on the sensations and feeling eachothers energy.
Also, pick up some KY at the store- there is nothing wrong with needing to use some lubricant sometimes- our bodies produce natural lube ( as you know) but depending on where we are in our cycles, naturally we produce more on some days and less on others, regardless of how turned on we are.
I really hope this helps, I have totally been in your shoes... just remember to relax and focus on your feelings of your guy and the way he makes you physically feel.
have fun!
:-)
Hello leann,
a useful way to reach your climax, without having to go for an hour, is get your bf to suck your nipples and play with your clitoris for up to 20 mins, or longer if you need it. having your nipples sucked will heighten your sexual pleasure ans stimulation.
after a while, can take up to 20 mins or more for some women, you should be close to your climax, yor hips should be going up and down in voluntarily .
when you get to that highly aroused state , is when bf should penetrate. his in/ out movements should be enough to send you over the top, and you should have your orgasm.
hope it works for you.
a useful way to reach your climax, without having to go for an hour, is get your bf to suck your nipples and play with your clitoris for up to 20 mins, or longer if you need it. having your nipples sucked will heighten your sexual pleasure ans stimulation.
after a while, can take up to 20 mins or more for some women, you should be close to your climax, yor hips should be going up and down in voluntarily .
when you get to that highly aroused state , is when bf should penetrate. his in/ out movements should be enough to send you over the top, and you should have your orgasm.
hope it works for you.
Thanks so much. That makes me feel better about myself