I lost my virginity, but I can't cum during intercourse

Hi Guest,

Is it just when you're having sex that you can't ejaculate or all the time?

Anxiety can cause difficulty ejaculating.  You may not even be aware of it.  Lots of guys have problems their first few times - it's normal.

 

Believe it or not, sometimes being so turned on can prevent you from ejaculating. It can overload your senses and send you into overdrive and kind of short circuit your sexual responses to the point you can stay hard and have sex but not ejaculate or orgasm, even after extended intercourse. It happens. Spending more time together and enjoying each other's bodies without thinking you need to orgasm and ejaculate can help your excitement calm down enough to orgasm later in sex. If everything else is going good like your penis is staying hard as you have sex and she is enjoying it and you have all the normal sexual responses, except you lack orgasms and ejaculations, its probably just excitement overload. Time and more sex will cure this for you with more time and practice to get more used to having sex with that person. Masturbating more to calm yourself down when alone and not with your sexual partner might help take your excitement level down some and prevent aching blue balls from all that sex and no release from orgasms and ejaculations. Stroking out some loads alone can empty your balls and help prevent blue balls while you get used to your lover and get over your overexcitement with time. No sense in having bursting full testicles while you get used to your lover and sex enough to shoot in her.