I started trying around 9 weeks ago and I am 17-almost 18. I used to have really irregular periods but for the last year they've been coming every 2 weeks and I've noticed my body starting to change in what I think is preparation to carry a child. My boyfriend is 20 and the love of my life. We've decided not to get married as it is not something we want or feel is necessary to be committed to eachother. He's working as an electrician atm and I've just started a course to become a librarian and I feel we're both in a really good place to have a child. I haven't had a proper period since the first time we had unprotected sex, just some really light spotting, and my breasts are killing me! I'm really hoping we've concieved but I also know it can take a really long time to happen and think I may just be getting my hopes up... I really hope you girls become pregnant soon and I wish you the best of luck, but I do still believe you need to be able to support yourself and your child. If you feel you are truly ready please just make sure you keep at your goals because having a baby will change your life forever.
Im sorry but I dont understand this. Why in the world would you hope and wish for a 15,16,17,18 year old to get pregnant and have a child. Its not as easy as people think it is seriously. Its very hard girls. Trust me I know form experience and present experience its not the right choice at this age. The economy is bad and its hard to find a job. Daycare is exspensive too. Im not going to explain my whole life story again but I have told it a few times in this forum. I will be 18 in two days and Im just know finding a job opening. All I can say is dont put a child through that if you know you cant give it everything it will need or needs. Babies are exspensive ecspecially till they are about 7 or 8. Life is hard in general at the time let alone a poor innocent child that cant fend for him/herself.
It is extremely difficult to raise a child at a young age, but I honestly think that there are some girls who are truly emotionally and financially ready to make this decision. Ofcourse there are teenagers out there who are doing this for the wrong reason, but there are also some who are being labelled and abused for making the decision to have a child when they are in no way as immature and unstable as the girls who are having babies to...keep a boyfriend...or just because they 'really want one'. I think that is wrong, and that is not what I am doing. I am financially stable, in a relationship with someone I want to be with for the rest of my life, and am emotionally and physically ready to have a child. There are many people who do not understand my decision, and they assume I am 'throwing my life away', but honestly, I have no desire to be the best at my corporate job, or to travel the world in the next eighteen years. I've always wanted this, and have a loving and supportive family who value my right to choose the path I want to take in my life. It will be hard, and yes I am young, but I will be atleast 18- a legal adult by the time I have my child, and to me, you know in your heart when it's time to make this decision. It is the most adult decision you will ever make, considering sustainable income, education and employment, support of your family and friends, your emotional maturity and whether you truly believe at this point- that you will be as good a mother as someone in their mid 20's or 30's. I am not saying this choice is appropriate or suitable for every teenage girl who wants to have a baby, that's the last thing I would ever say...But for some girls it is the right thing to do for them, so saying every girl trying to concieve is making the worst decision of their life is not, in my opinion, strictly correct either.
I understand where you are coming from but some of these girls think that when they have a baby they can still go out and hang with friends and party on the weeknds. I love my son but I wish I would have waited I got pregnant when I was 15 and had my son when I was 16. Ill be 18 tomorrow and I know it is hard. But I would never wish for a teen to have a child while they are still in there early 20s because theyre is alot of young people that arent ready for this commitment for a child. And they all think they are young and they live in this world day by day. But they are still sheltered by there parents and dont know what LIFE really is. It makes me really emotional when I see forums like this I wish I could just give them a hug and I wish I would have video taped my whole intire pregnany up till now to let them see. Because the think they are always right when actually they dont know the first thing about being right when it comes to a young human being. They think "oh a baby is a baby and all they need is love" NO WRONG yes a baby needs love but MONEY is a top priority with a child even if you have the mother and father in the childs life. But most teens dont look at it that way. Some understand but MOST dont. I just dont understand it. Ya know. But I do agree with you and I do understand where you are coming from. Trust me I do. It just breaks my heart to see so many wanting to do this and they dont really know!!!
I agree, on most part with what you are saying. I think so many girls aren't educated in the difficulties a decision like this would bring and that this should be talked about openly because so many people have no idea that this is such an issue atm and that these thoughts of becoming pregnant cross so many girls minds at such a young age. Sorry I wrote so much before, but I just felt it was important to explain I wasn't promoting teen pregnancy, just that it can differ between a mature, well thought decision and an impulsive, irrational decision.Though, I will admit, I know a lot of girls would say they thought they were making the right choice for themselves and later regretted it. It really is a hard one, but like I said, circumstances vary and the stereotype doesn't always fit in certain situations. I just found out I am not pregnant but my partner and I are still optimistic and will keep trying until it happens. If it happens next month, great, if it happens in a year- thats fine too. I know many people may disagree with out decision, but the fact is, we know we will be able our child everything he/she needs and that is all that matters to us.
Well I wish you the best of luck on your baby making lol. And I hope everything goes well for you guys. GOOD LUCK!!!! :-D
Hey...I've been trying for 10 weeks, starting when I lost my virginity... I lost my virginity to a guy who wasn't my boyfriend and who was also going to jail soon. It was terrible, and I regret it more than I can say. We didn't use protection, and I also had sex with him two weeks later. I was in a really bad place, but I know thats no excuse. My boyfriend and I were fighting, and I just wanted to feel...something, I guess. So I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend since then, and he has no idea that I slept with the other guy. I've been feeling really unwell the past four or so weeks, I've had nausea-though no vomitting, headaches(extrememly rare for me), pain in my hips-pelvis and knees occasionally, hot and cold flashes, light headedness, sometimes I find it difficult to stand in the shower if its too hot, and my sense of taste is off. I have NO appetite except for red meat, its so weird. My nipples are bigger and darker, and have weird little tiny white dots on them like goosebumps, and my left one is swelling, my right one is still normal sized for some reason. I also have these occasional shooting pains in them and they are sore every few days. I would think I was pregnant, except I've been getting my periods every two weeks-(which is normal anyway to me) and they are heavy. I've also been diagnosed with bacterial vaginosis and have been on a course of anti biotics. The pregnancy tests I have taken have ALL been clear negatives, but I dont understand what else my symptoms could be. I've also been getting a lot of discharge, which is sometimes yellow due to the bacterial vaginosis. I'm stressing out! Please! If any one can tell me what might be wrong with me it would be very much appreciated! My boyfriend is getting upset because I'm cranky and crying all the time for no reason :-(!!!
I'm 20 and wasn't honestly ready to have a baby although it wasn't planned! My bf is now contemplating marriage, which I told that as much as I love him, I"m not ready!!!
I finished school and my bf finished uni and now has a stable job (being 3 years older than me!), but i know we aren't even financially stable to really support our kid, even though my bf is working and getting a fairly good wage. WE are still living with our parents (swapping between both houses!) but it's incredibly difficult relying on others and not being able to say anything when grandparents interfere with the upbringing of your child.
Trust me, from experience, I was way to young to have a kid, although he's the best thing in the world! It's put a great strain on my relationship with my partner, pulled me apart form alot of friends because I'm the only one and led to Post Natal Depression! It may seem like a great idea, but there's more to having kids than just having a giggling baby, and I don't just mean a pile of washing and dirty nappies!
I have a friend who's the same age and all she's wanted since she was 15 was a kid! That's now led her to destroying the best relationship she's been in by cheating on her bf whilst he's in the army with a married man with 2 kids, hoping that he'll leave his wife to be with her so she can have kids and it's tbh not the way to go!
Truth be told, you can really decide if being a mother is right for you at that time until you are one, but it's not simple obviously, you can't change your mind and get a refund! You've got to think more than financially or how much you love kids! ( if you love kids, become a teacher or a nanny!!!!!!) but your mental state and ability, how much you'll change, how much you want to do yet in your life other than have kids, how stable your relationship is and how many of your friends are trying to have kids or have them already, because as much as I love my son, I'm going stir-crazy as I spend all day every day alone with a demanding 9 month old and depressed!!
I"m not saying you don't know yourself. Just give it alot more thought - you are still young, there is time yet for kids! But life is for living and whislt you're young, enjoy your youth because you'll never get it back!
I finished school and my bf finished uni and now has a stable job (being 3 years older than me!), but i know we aren't even financially stable to really support our kid, even though my bf is working and getting a fairly good wage. WE are still living with our parents (swapping between both houses!) but it's incredibly difficult relying on others and not being able to say anything when grandparents interfere with the upbringing of your child.
Trust me, from experience, I was way to young to have a kid, although he's the best thing in the world! It's put a great strain on my relationship with my partner, pulled me apart form alot of friends because I'm the only one and led to Post Natal Depression! It may seem like a great idea, but there's more to having kids than just having a giggling baby, and I don't just mean a pile of washing and dirty nappies!
I have a friend who's the same age and all she's wanted since she was 15 was a kid! That's now led her to destroying the best relationship she's been in by cheating on her bf whilst he's in the army with a married man with 2 kids, hoping that he'll leave his wife to be with her so she can have kids and it's tbh not the way to go!
Truth be told, you can really decide if being a mother is right for you at that time until you are one, but it's not simple obviously, you can't change your mind and get a refund! You've got to think more than financially or how much you love kids! ( if you love kids, become a teacher or a nanny!!!!!!) but your mental state and ability, how much you'll change, how much you want to do yet in your life other than have kids, how stable your relationship is and how many of your friends are trying to have kids or have them already, because as much as I love my son, I'm going stir-crazy as I spend all day every day alone with a demanding 9 month old and depressed!!
I"m not saying you don't know yourself. Just give it alot more thought - you are still young, there is time yet for kids! But life is for living and whislt you're young, enjoy your youth because you'll never get it back!
i disagree with this. i got pregnant at 14, my mother kicked me out, my boyfriend left at 7 months and i had nobody. i refused to get state assistance because i made the choice to have unprotected sex. My daughter is almost 6 years old and im only 21 years old. I NEVER ONCE used state assistance, or help from anyone. I have a bachelors in business and my life on track. My daughter is what makes my life, if it wasnt for her i dont think i would have accomplished what i have.
Some people are right. 17 is young. But I have seen younger girls have babies and do just fine. Mainly if you know you can do it and everything will work out i wish you the best of luck. And getting pregnant is very hard for some women. I am 18 years old. I started having sex at 15. And most of the time is was unprotected. And i have yet to conceive a child. You may just not be ready yet. But you also have to realize that there are alot of factors in why u may not b able to have a child right now.. Stress can be a major factor. also your diet and your home life. Many thins can hold you back from having a child. I hope I have helped. :-)
I totally agree with Krissy I just turned 18 and my son will be 2 in Febuary 2011. I love my son and I am married 2 years in December. I love my family but it is hard and I have a job and my husband has a job but we just recently got employeed within this last 2 weeks. We live with my grndparents and my mom at the moment but we have lived with my dad both sets of my grandparents and my husbands parents. I t has been tuff but I have great family and so does my husband that has helped us out. I t just depends if your young. It is ALOT of work and its not just something you can do when you want to being a parent is full time 24/7 ALL THE TIME!!!! I just wih younger girls would understand this when they start saying I want a Baby at 15 years old!!!
i'm 17 and ttc. before you start saying horrible things, i need to explain. i have endometriosis and also smoked for two years and had a very poor diet which may have damaged my eggs. my doctor said that i should start trying soon as it may take a long time to become pregnant. i have been married since i was 16 and am part of a stable and supportive family. i have my period every two weeks and my doctor says that i may not be ovulating. i was just wondering if there is any hope i will be able to concieve, any advice would be appreciated. i'm so scared i will not be able to be a mother, this is very important to my family and i. thanks :-)
I'm also 17 and it only took me two weeks to get pregnant. I guess it all depends on the person.
Best of Luck!!!
Best of Luck!!!
I am also 17, I am a nursing student and married to the most wonderful man ever. We are financially able to support a baby and have our own army issued house.
I had trouble conceiving with my husband we tried everything anyone suggested. I started taking Mother to be care tablets and my husband started taking zinc tablets, 2 months later here we are, finding our a week ago we are expecting our first child.... we cant wait.
I will still be going to college to study nursing and my husband will be taking fatherly leave (maternity leave). I defiantly suggest taking Folic acid for women and zinc for men, worked first time. Their is cretin sex positions that also help that can be found on many fertility sites.
BUT if you are a teenager and do not have the funds and support available I would not consider trying to conceive it’s irresponsible and selfish to that baby.
Hope this help ladies :D xx
I had trouble conceiving with my husband we tried everything anyone suggested. I started taking Mother to be care tablets and my husband started taking zinc tablets, 2 months later here we are, finding our a week ago we are expecting our first child.... we cant wait.
I will still be going to college to study nursing and my husband will be taking fatherly leave (maternity leave). I defiantly suggest taking Folic acid for women and zinc for men, worked first time. Their is cretin sex positions that also help that can be found on many fertility sites.
BUT if you are a teenager and do not have the funds and support available I would not consider trying to conceive it’s irresponsible and selfish to that baby.
Hope this help ladies :D xx
hi i am also 19 soon to be 20 and ttc. i have been enganged for a year and plan to marry soon.
i think the people who are writing nasty comments about her being too young should stop. if you do not have anything productive to say... dont!
i am in my second month of trying and am now starting to monitor when i ovulate. try to have sex every other day and then daily from two days before you are due to ovulate as sperm can live for up to 3 days in your vagina so it will be waiting when you're egg is released.
i am training to be a midwife so i know the facts ;-)
the only advice i will give is make sure you know you are ready for it, and that you're partner is on board and also ready and that you have a good support system as you will need help.
i have looked after women who are very young and they know exactly what they are doing and are totally screwed on. ive looked after others who are in their 30's whom i wouldnt trust to look after my dog! it doesnt matter about age as long as it is definitley what you want and that you have taken everything into consideration. such as housing, finance. how you're going to feed your baby. becoming a mother and no longer being a teenager and having the freedom to do as you wish.
do not get too disheartened if you do not become pregnant straight away as the average is 4/5months but anything up to a year is also ok. i know it hurts when you get youre period and realise you arent pregnant. im going through the same thing. but give it time and dont stress too much as this can sometimes delay ovulation.
hope this helps best wishes xxx
i think the people who are writing nasty comments about her being too young should stop. if you do not have anything productive to say... dont!
i am in my second month of trying and am now starting to monitor when i ovulate. try to have sex every other day and then daily from two days before you are due to ovulate as sperm can live for up to 3 days in your vagina so it will be waiting when you're egg is released.
i am training to be a midwife so i know the facts ;-)
the only advice i will give is make sure you know you are ready for it, and that you're partner is on board and also ready and that you have a good support system as you will need help.
i have looked after women who are very young and they know exactly what they are doing and are totally screwed on. ive looked after others who are in their 30's whom i wouldnt trust to look after my dog! it doesnt matter about age as long as it is definitley what you want and that you have taken everything into consideration. such as housing, finance. how you're going to feed your baby. becoming a mother and no longer being a teenager and having the freedom to do as you wish.
do not get too disheartened if you do not become pregnant straight away as the average is 4/5months but anything up to a year is also ok. i know it hurts when you get youre period and realise you arent pregnant. im going through the same thing. but give it time and dont stress too much as this can sometimes delay ovulation.
hope this helps best wishes xxx