Im pregnant and don't know what to do the Dad doesn't want t

So im about to be 16 and im pregnant and the guy im pregnant by i have a restraining order against so i no longer talk to him. My parents know but i dont know if i should keep the baby or abort it.

your story really hit home for me. I'm 29, got married at 17 had my daughter at 20 and got devorced at 22. I'm now 29 and have been with someone for 4 yrs. my daughter is now 9 and i have no desires to have another child. In the last 4 yrs. I had a miscarraige, abortion, then another miscarraige and just found out I'm preggo again :( I was on nuvaring. I dont know what to do i'm having so many mixed emotions. I never had a second thought whenever I had an abortion before but now I'm just stuck. I dont want to have a baby and go through all that again. Like I said, my daughter is 9 now and all the hard baby/toddler days are over! But on second thought I look at my daughter and feel like I'm being selfish by not allowing her the experience of a sibling.... So sad and confused....

I'm 20 too and in the same situation .. 6 weeks pregnant and the dad says I'm ruining his life going through with it. It makes me sad because I've been off and in with him for almost 6 years. I never thought he'd be so cold about this situation if it ever arrisen. I know I'd be so regretful and depressed if I had an abortion and I'm honestly so scared to do this without his support. I don't want to be another baby mama! It's so stressful ;/ I would like to know too, how are things now ?

I would love to have a baby. Me and my husband would adopt your baby if you don't want it.

Maybe someone can help me! I'm 22 and I'm 13 weeks and 3 days pregnant! :) im so happy NOW and excited NOW! however prior to me finding out I was pregnant, I met a guy Dec 6, 2012 we started talking and courting etc. we even started having sex kind of soon. everything was moving so fast faster than ever for me that is, at this time i was finishing up my first semester of jr year of college, and preparing for Basic Training in January. I had joined the Army HOOAH! :) well me and him were always together always skyping, always facetiming, always together etc. we had lots of fun together and we loved drinking, to make a long story short, i went back home after the semester ended and we didnt get to see one another for several weeks (2-3) LOL! January 11, 2013 I returned to TN to prepare to my shipout on the 14th to Basic Training. He picks me up takes me to my hotel and every day he comes stay with me and we had sex, unprotected sex, he knew i was not on birth control it was no secret, finally he came in me, i paused and said you did not just... and he was like no bae,... he had been acting strange the last couple of days, well prior me leaving he told me im going to miss you and i told him ill write you dont forget about me, i got to reception and was able to still use my phone so we talked a little more everything was wonderful still. three months later, i find out im pregant 16 days before graduation they tell me im 9 weeks and 1 day pregnant. i get sent home, thank GOD im not discharged from the army!! smh but i was devasted! i call him and tell him, and hes like so whats your plan he was calm and everything until i said im not having another abortion, i had one abortion and i miscarriage already in my life and im still dealing with that pain. on march 17, 2013 i thought i was having a miscarriage and i found out that my cervix is naturally dialating on its own so in order for me to have this baby and not have the baby prematurely i have to get it tied up, if not as the baby grows and gets larger i would have a pre mature labor (miscarriage) well i tell him this and now he hates me he wants no realtionship from me with me etc. not to mention when i told him i was pregnant was the same day he found out he got a promotion to a staff sergeant E-6 and is being moved to a new unit and so happened this new unit is depolying in may 2013 to afghanistan for one year, therefore he will miss the baby birth and crawling stage and possibly the baby first step... however april of next year i have to leave my baby too! so we both will be gone i just dont understand why he wants nothing to do with either of us, but yet he says only contact me if it has to do with the child if not dont contact me, i know this is going to sound stupid but what should i do?... i mean what man is going to want my big pregant ass?.. or what man is going to want me and i have a child?.. i dont want my child growing up without a father and i do understand his pain bc he complained about being a part time father becase we are both stationed in two different locations, but he dont want to marry he dont want to  continue what we had and grow together he only bit***s abou the obvious, so is it he is scared, stressed with depolying, i mean someone help me understand... i really like him but  he is being so hurtful, my mother andfather aunts and uncles are very supportive of me... but i still feel i need him... someone advise me he will be 25 this july and ill be 23 this october right after the birth of our baby...someone...you can email me to help please and just subject it as baby advice... 

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I am 4 weeks pregnant by an old friend from school. We are both 31 years old, and we started seeing each other very casually after his divorce last year. The relationship was never serious, and it kind of just ended last spring. Last fall, I heard that he was back with his ex-wife, and they had moved to another state. I was actually happy for him, because I knew he had never gotten over her. We then just chatted back and forth on social network sites, and I saw that his ex-wife was expecting a baby. I was again, happy for him. she's due in November. Last month, he came home for a visit, and he asked to see me. I was kind of hesitant, but since married tech into technically married, I agreed. We had sex, he left town the next day. No strings. Four weeks later, I find out that I'm pregnant. I told him, and he wants me to have an abortion. I really don't want to have an abortion. I had one right after my daughter was born, and I still regret it. He says that it's the right thing to do, because its not fair to the child that's he'll be in another state...blah, blah, blah. But really, I think he's just worried about his ex-wife finding out and leaving him. I don't mean to sound mean, but she's HIS problem...not mines!!! I do NOT want another abortion!!! My daughter is 5, and I've always wanted another child. I never planned for it to go this way though. I know it'll be hard, raising a child without the father being present, but I'm a single mother already, and I'm doing a pretty good job. I struggle a little financially, but I have only one more year until I get my degree, so my future is looking bright. I just don't want to terminate the pregnancy, and then try to have a baby later on, and have trouble conceiving. Im not trying to ruin his life, or hurt his ex-wife, and I'm NOT expecting him to be with me...I'm very realistic about that. However, I don't think it's fair that he's welcoming his ex-wife's baby, but trying to convince me to MURDER mine!!! How do you just decide which baby you want, and which baby you don't???        

And by the way, I THOUGHT I had a Mirena, but after getting pregnant, my doctor told me it must have fallen out, God knows when!!!

I am pregnant. I told my boyfriend of 7years today we are both 23. He told me outright he didn't want this baby or as he calls the baby 'it'. He ran off a long list of reasons why we shouldn't (which i agree with most of them) but he doesn't understand my point of view that this is our baby. He doesn't understand how I would feel having an abortion. Although he has not said this i'm getting the feeling its an abortion or we are over. I lost my mum a few years ago and i need some advice as i can not speak to my dad about this until i have made a decision.

Any advice welcome.

I am 31, and am about 10 weeks pregnant after trying for 3.5 yrs. My ex is the dad we found out i was 2 weeks after we split up. First he didnt want it and said he wasnt the dad then he did, he has now said he doesnt again and has changed his number and told me never to contact him again. I also have MS and he knows how hard it is going to be for me once the baby comes and that i may need a carer to help out as i have no family and all my friends live over 40 miles away and have lives of there own. I want to keep my baby but am so scared of how i am going to cope on my own and am so hurt that the man who once said he would never walk away from his own child (after he fought for his ex step son and lost) can be like this. It feels that i have never ment anything to him and his ex and her child still mean more than his own flesh and blood. I am so alone and scared i dont know who to turn to

We live in Missouri and are ready to adopt! Home study is complete and attorney is ready!

We are doing a project for FCCLA. It is a organization for highschoolers to speak out. We chose the topic abortion. We understand the situation you are currently in. For various reasons we advise that you just throw out the abortion option alltogather. That is your baby, your legacy, living and growing inside of you. Many will tell you abortion wont hurt anything but the fact of the matter is everything you do to the baby heshe can feel. It's a hard burden to bear throughout the rest of your life if you make the wrong decision. We ask you to consider all the other options, and there is nothing wrong with getting help from others and your family. It takes a stronger person to keep the baby in the situation you are in than it does to kill it. The baby would much rather grow up without a father than to not have the chace to live at all. You owe it to your baby...to raise heshe to the best of your abilities.

I feel terrible for saying this, but it's true... I am 9 weeks pregnant, and I do not want to be pregnant, but I don't want an abortion. And I don't know what to do. Any advice?