i could only get hard and cum to male thoughts and gay porn or male images. but would 'love' or feel good about flirting with women.........time to turn this post on its back.......I came out as gay two years ago in a dramatic nervous breakdown, it was the only way and i felt so much better after a few months after the depression and confussion and anxiety wore off. I AM NO LONGER CONFUSED. i realise we are different people but our posts and feelings are twins. GUYS! it doesnt matterif gay relationships freak u out or watching two men kiss make u gag. relationships with a man or watching to guys kiss in public still makes me feel very uncomfortable. i also see stereotypical gay guys walking around soho in london and think 'god your such a fag' or something. GUYS, i've realised that it is ALL ABOUT THE SEX. if you get hard and cum from videos n images of men and really love the thoughts of you wanking with ure str8 buddies as kids. ITS LIKELY YOU ARE GAY. this post wont convince u, they didnt convinve me two years ago but i felt so anxious and tried to reason my feelings in stupid ways. I AM GAY i get turned on by men, men f*****g, cumming, talking kissing, touching, wrestling, anything. BEING GAY IS ABOUT THE SEX. NOT THE RELATIONSHIP. its the most primal side of us that defines us. but being gay doesnt have to define you if u dont let it. GUYS, dont become suicidal and anxious beyong belief, talk to a thereapist or let it come out. email me for suport at _[removed]_
Im 14 and am attracted to women and have had girlfriends and i used to watch straight porn but now only watch gay porn and i like it more.but every time i just finished masterbating i think wat is wrong with me. and then try to think of girls but by next week im douing the whole thing all over again.ill never date a guy but gay intercourse pleasures me ill sometimes even will fantasies it with pornstars or real people.but i would never go gay because my family ,culture ,friends,and my life would be all ruined plz help im lost and dont know were to go.does anybody know how to stop this cycle completely cuz its been the only question in my head for a long time i want to be completely straight.
I like to date girls and have straight sex, and girls are always attractive to me. However, over the years i've been seeking more and more gay sex. I've found that gay porn and the thought of gay sex is usually hotter than the thought of straight sex, yet it comes in waves - sometimes i'm not that interested and sometimes that's all I want. With straight porn and sex, it is consistent (but without as exciting of a peak).
At first gay porn and sex was only about 10-20% of all my activity, but now it's more like 50-60%. I don't foresee it increasing to 100%, but it could increase in the overall activity.
Guys!
I'm not criticising, because there is no much negativity and stigma attached to being anything that isn't perceived as masculine and heterosexual. This adverse reaction is so in built within our pysche.
If the thought of doing anything sexual with a guy or a guy doing something sexual to you causes an erection, then I'm sorry you are NOT straight. As most of you have said, you still love to have sex with girls, and its with them you connect with emotionally, and I believe you. But there are guys out there who genuinely would not get any arousal from gay porn at all. They are straight, not you. It's called 'Sexuality' so this is about sex, not about emotional attachments. So you're NOT Straight and you're NOT Gay. All of you guys fall somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, so please stop calling yourself straight. And don't be ashamed, worried or confused by it, cos it's totally normal,it's just not heterosexual. Thank you sharing it, coz this is the beauty of sexuality and its many shades. So please just embrace it, it doesn't need questioning or hiding. Your bisexuality spectrum is heading more towards the heterosexual side, and that why only certain things with men turn you on. Other bisexual men may lean slightly more towards the homosexual side, which would mean, they connect emotionally and sexually with other guys, but still like to have sexual encounters of some sort with women. There are purely homosexual men who just couldn't be intimate with a women and purely heterosexual men who cannot even fathom the idea of what to do with a naked guy jerking off next to him, or on a porn site, no matter how amazing his penis and 6 pack was. The thing with this type of bisexuality is, it can safely remain under the heterosexual umbrella. You guys don't need to come out, in fact, coming out would almost be counter productive, why would you want to scare off an amazing girl, just because of this small thing. But I would urge everyone to just be honest, and maybe you can watch gay porn with your girlfriends, and invite a mate for a threesome once in a while!
Just to add, even within the gay community, there is an adverse reaction to very feminine men. Gay men who are more 'straight' in behaviour are deemed as higher up in the gay heirarchy...so that's how precious this concept of masculinity is to men....even to gay ones.
Great to hear more thoughts on this
Guys!
I'm not criticising, because there is so much negativity and stigma attached for men to be anything that isn't perceived as masculine and heterosexual. This adverse reaction is so ingrained within our pysche.
If the thought of doing anything sexual with a guy or a guy doing something sexual to you causes an erection, then I'm sorry you are NOT straight. As most of you have said, you still love to have sex with girls, and its with them you connect with emotionally, and I believe you. But there are guys out there who genuinely would not get any arousal from gay porn at all. They are straight, not you. It's called 'Sexuality' so this is about sex, not about emotional attachments. So you're NOT Straight and you're NOT Gay. All of you guys fall somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, so please stop calling yourself straight. And don't be ashamed, worried or confused by it, cos it's totally normal,it's just not heterosexual. Thank you sharing it, coz this is the beauty of sexuality and its many shades. So please just embrace it, it doesn't need questioning or hiding. Your bisexuality spectrum is heading more towards the heterosexual side, and that why only certain things with men turn you on. Other bisexual men may lean slightly more towards the homosexual side, which would mean, they connect emotionally and sexually with other guys, but still like to have sexual encounters of some sort with women. There are purely homosexual men who just couldn't be intimate with a women and purely heterosexual men who cannot even fathom the idea of what to do with a naked guy jerking off next to him, or on a porn site, no matter how amazing his penis and 6 pack was. The thing with this type of bisexuality is, it can safely remain under the heterosexual umbrella. You guys don't need to come out, in fact, coming out would almost be counter productive, why would you want to scare off an amazing girl, just because of this small thing. But I would urge everyone to just be honest, and maybe you can watch gay porn with your girlfriends, and invite a mate for a threesome once in a while!
Just to add, even within the gay community, there is an adverse reaction to very feminine men. Gay men who are more 'straight' in behaviour are deemed as higher up in the gay heirarchy...so that's how precious this concept of masculinity is to men....even to gay ones.
Great to hear more thoughts on this
hi, i feel the same sometimes but its mostly when i take some stuff i get too turned on and start to fantasise about it, but don't know if i'll ever try, when i'm sober i don't rly feel that way...but still sometimes i wonder how it would be, i had many gf too so yeah, i don't know
its weird cause i masterbate sometimes and i dont get turned on to watching gay porn i always watch straight men and woman porn and that turns me on gay porn has o affect to me it just makes me sick to my stomache as they say lol. well the jpking if i were you i'd stop watching porn and startwatching straight porn instead of gay porn
dude shemales wont want to have sex with a guy they want a girl but if you want to suck there penis and that stuff then i would say depending if you really really want to have it then i'd say go ahead
I'm in the same situation. I know I'm straight, I have had four girlfirends and definitely no boyfriends. I have recently just turned 16 and ever since I was eleven I've been drawn to guys hormonally, of course back then I didn't process it. It started with a sock fetish, I had and still do like the smell of worn socks, but only by guys, the idea of a girl being anything other than squeaky clean and smelling of perfume disgusts me. But guys I like raunch and hairy, natural so to say.
Anyway, I have never been interested in a guy on guy relationship. Being with a girl I have a crush on gives me the whole butterflies and everything. Yet the idea of sex with them is a huge turnoff. When I think off guys, I only see sex but nothing else, the idea of being in a gay love relationship is disgusting to me. (Not homophobic, I just want to be straight, I want to be a Christian) What do I do?
Exact same for me lately. Just NEVER EVER watch gay porn and if you masturbate don't think about gay thoughts while doing it, just make yourself forget about the whole thing and you'll go back to normal where girls only can turn you on. I'm getting better but I'm just in up a creek right now.