ok, im having a child with a girl whom i had no intention of staying with, i CANT STAND HER! we were drunk, and it happened, and now i met a new girl whom i think may be the one, but now im stuck with this other girl who i dont like at all, and i cant afford child support. i am only 18, and i have been praying that this girl has a miscarrage so that i can go on with my life. im stuck, anyone have any advice?
If you don't like this girl that's pregnant with your baby you do not have to be with her but I do think you should be responsible about giving her child support once the baby is borned. Get a job and if you do have a job tried to see if you can get a job that pays more. Maybe try for a higher position at your current employer by working harder or change jobs. I'm not sure if a second job is possible for you as I understand you might be in school. But you will be a father and need to work harder for that child. Even if you don't love this girl that baby is still yours no matter who the mother is. And about the girl you actually like that is fine just make sure you don't get her pregnant until you are both ready to take on the responsability and hopefully stay together.
I lost my baby when I was 6 months and didn't know I was even pregnant until it was to late, I have 5 kids already, my youngest will be 8 October 13th. I want another baby and I had my tubes clamped in 2000, I was being told by my in law's that I looked 5 months pregnant and I said there is no way. well a month after that I had a major wreck Aug. 2nd 2008. I totaled my husband's truck. He is in the Military and was home for 4 days in the month of March and I had that wreck and was under alot of stress and I lost it. I was told by a doctor that I can now have a baby. Also if anyone wants to give their baby up, my husband and I would love to raise it. my yahoo id is *e mail addresses not allowed*
I am in the same situation your in except that i am the who got pregnant by someone who didn't want to pursue a relationship and, I also didn't want a relationship with the guy i am pregnant by but i could never have an abortion. the advice i can give you though is that even though you may not like her and your not sure you want this baby it is still your obligation as the father to let this girl know what your feelings are. if she still wants to have the baby and you don't, then you either need to take a quick lesson in growing up or you need to talk to her in a respectful manner about a way that would work for you to pay child support (either way your going to have to pay her something) or talk to her about possibly giving the baby up for adoption. you can't force her to have an abortion and if you do something to cause her to have a misscarriage then not only are you putting her life at risk but depending on what you have done to cause the misscarriage you could face criminal charges as well. if you do decide that you want to be a father then no matter what you feel for this girl you need to be a supporter of her and vice versa because that is the only way you and this girl are going to make it as parents. Me and the guy i am pregnant by now are working on ways to respect each other and help each other through this time and it is making this pregnancy go about alot easier.
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maybe you shouldn't pass judgement on other peoples opinions. you don't see people passing judgement on you because you don'tbelieve in abortion, do you? and if they do, i'm sure they have much more tact than you have had.
birth control is never 100 percent. i got pregnant on birth control. i took it exactly how i was supposed to and was not on any other medications. it happens. people ARE going to have sex. regardless. people have sex. that's life. people accidently get pregnant. that's life. people choose abortion. that's THEIR decision.
and at 26 weeks, it would not be consider an abortion. it would be consider a premature baby. that baby could still live, even at 26 weeks. especially with the technology they have today. babies are born at 26 weeks and live all the time.
its discusting.three abortions its murder.you are a w****!!!! and you contemplating an abortion now! think of your baby! not yourself. and the other ones whos pregnant by a married man deserves all she gets.dont brag it nothing to be proud of.im 7months pregnant and am loving everyminuete.the dad buggered off im struggling with money.but id never kill my baby.
maybe you shouldn't pass judgement on other peoples opinions. you don't see people passing judgement on you because you don'tbelieve in abortion, do you? and if they do, i'm sure they have much more tact than you have had.
birth control is never 100 percent. i got pregnant on birth control. i took it exactly how i was supposed to and was not on any other medications. it happens. people ARE going to have sex. regardless. people have sex. that's life. people accidently get pregnant. that's life. people choose abortion. that's THEIR decision.
and at 26 weeks, it would not be consider an abortion. it would be consider a premature baby. that baby could still live, even at 26 weeks. especially with the technology they have today. babies are born at 26 weeks and live all the time.
OK (Ladies),I have never heard such lack of respect for human life and frankly- I am appauled! I am 29 I have had 4 live births and 11 mc's.I gave my first 3 up for adoption and my youngest just had her 3rd birthday.May I also add that if not for my little girl the man I am about to marry and I never would've found each other! We are also planning to get pregnant again following 2 heartbreaking miscarriages at 3 wk. Now,giving my children up nearly broke me but it was the right and only thing I could do@the time as their mother.I was raised to respect Human life and frankly Clarifairy you seem to hold little disreguard for anyone let alone a baby! I have seen your cold and frankly unfeeling posts on other people's questions.Please,demonstrate some Human kindness or go buy it!
I cannot believe that people want to try to have a miscarriage! If this woman can kill the child at 20 weeks what's the problem she has with adoption????? My God some people are SICK! You have a fully developed baby by 20 weeks... all that's basically left to do is grow at that point!
People like this should be called names ... why not???? WHy have ANY respect for someone like this????? Just DISGUSTING!!!!
People like this should be called names ... why not???? WHy have ANY respect for someone like this????? Just DISGUSTING!!!!
You people are absolutely awful for chastising anyone for their decisions.
If someone chooses to have their child - good for them.
If someone chooses not to have their child - good for them.
It's THEIR RIGHT.... so all of you people should mind your own business if you have nothing constructive to say.
If someone chooses to have their child - good for them.
If someone chooses not to have their child - good for them.
It's THEIR RIGHT.... so all of you people should mind your own business if you have nothing constructive to say.
that b***h dont deserve to reproduce i had a baby at 15 ..you wanted to lay down and have sex now deal with the consequences. grow up!!
hun, why would you want to cause a miscarrige?
children are the most beautiful things on this planet!
they are the ones who are going to be there for us when the whole world is against you.....
just please grow up && have the kid.
you decided to have sex... your gonna have to deal with it.
sorry hun
children are the most beautiful things on this planet!
they are the ones who are going to be there for us when the whole world is against you.....
just please grow up && have the kid.
you decided to have sex... your gonna have to deal with it.
sorry hun
Ok for one thing an abortion is exactly what it is an abortion! No matter when it is or how its done. It is not a pre-mature birth or anything else. To the girl who wants to abort that far along... think about if you really want to kill this child. Is that really going to be easier on you than giving it up for adoption?? Think about it really. What is going to be on your conscience more now and in years to come. Knowing you gave your child up to someone that will love it unconditionally, or killing it? How in any way would you feel better about killing it. Although i'm not totally pro-abortion. I think it should be allowed in certain circumstances such as rape cases. But absolutely NO LATER than the first term. I was studying speech pathology in school for awhile. Did you know by 8 weeks. The palate of the mouth is already formed in the baby? That is just the beginning. Where you're at it is much more developed. Just really think about it. Don't make a stupid choice, when it is easier to give the baby up for adoption. Also if you don't want the baby now, you may want it for awhile after you have it, but if you really have this attitude now after a few months you will not want it again.
To everyone else that had abortions. Yes it is your business. To a certain extent. If its before the time that is allowed I believe it is your choice. But after that time everyone knows the fetus is a human being and you choose or chose to kill it. I thank god that partial-birth abortions are illegal. Do you feel the same about all other abortions as you do partial-birth? If you think its different...explain how. A baby is a human being whether it is inside the womb or not!
To everyone else that had abortions. Yes it is your business. To a certain extent. If its before the time that is allowed I believe it is your choice. But after that time everyone knows the fetus is a human being and you choose or chose to kill it. I thank god that partial-birth abortions are illegal. Do you feel the same about all other abortions as you do partial-birth? If you think its different...explain how. A baby is a human being whether it is inside the womb or not!
this is really none of my buisness but i just wanted to say that i am 24 weeks pregnant and i have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years and all i got was three misscarriages and im finally pregnant and i have a friend that has been paying big money trying to have a baby and u guys r sitting here talking about killing the lives that r inside u i just dont understand
Stop getting pregnant!! use birth control. If you can't support the baby, there are loving people out there who will love that baby. Take good care of your health and the health of that child. People need to stop judging and educate themselves!!!
Im 17 years old and i left it to late to get an abortion... i am now 6 months pregnant and i know for a fact that i cant support this baby i dont know wot to do im so scared i dont want a baby yet im not ready
It seems these days people have no regard for life. Your talking about your unborn children like they are something that can be disposed of because of inconvenience. Instead of being immature, be responsible and put the child first. Research the stage of the pregnancy you are at at you just might be surprised at how aware and developed your baby is by now!