Fifth, my bad.
Msnikki2000 wrote:
I understand it's your opinion and I'm just expressing mine in return is all. I think that we can both agree that she needs to get help, and that she needs good advice and that she should make a wise decision so hopefully that will be how things turn out for her. :)
bluedog wrote:
Msnikki2000 wrote:
bluedog wrote:
Msnikki2000 wrote:
Guest wrote:
i have had four abortions in the past 5 years, twice due to stupidity and the other times from birth control failures...anyway, im in an emotionaly abusive relationship and i have found myself pregnant again. i really want to have an abortion but i'm worried if i have one i'll never be able to have kids in the future when i'm married and with the person i love. all of the abortions took place before the 8th week, I am 6.5 weeks and have an appt scheduled for this weekend however i'm worried i will never be able to have kids if i have the abortion...do you have any advice?
I'm sorry but haven't you learned by now. Stop being irresponsible and using abortions for birth control. My bestfriend had 3 but has 2 kids and makes up excuse for why she had the abortions. If you can't act responsibly then you need to keep your legs closed. I'm sorry but this is unbelieveable. Tons of people TTC and your just getting rid of yours. I have 3 kids and I'm glad that they are here even though my girls were 13months apart I would not change them being here for the world. You need to act like a responsible woman and stop damaging your body the way that you are. GOD help you!!!
I really would hate to hear this sort of thing from someone if I was already scared, knew I messed up, and was in an abusive relationship so I think that you should bear in mind that she's not asking for judgment, she's asking if she is able to get an abortion. I don't think it's very productive to pass judgment anyway, and in a health forum, people are already here to post about things that scare them because they can't approach their doctors. Please try in the future to have a little more compassion and sympathy instead of being judgmental I think. What do other people think about this?
I understand what you are saying but at some point you have to take responsibilty for your own actions. I've never had an abortion but have gone with my bestfriend to get her's done and I know for a fact that the doctor's explains what the the side affects could be and going on your 5th abortion you should be knowledgeable by now and if not then you need to educate yourself. We are not doctors so the only real way to get a correct answer is to ask a doctor. I've been in a abusive relationship before and I made sure that this wouldn't happen because of my situation. Being scared ok but taking responsibility that's just being an adult and being mature. It's not rocket science if your not using anything then pregnancy most of the time is the result and if you have to think about having an abortion because of abuse then take protective measures that's all I am saying and obviously I'm not the only one that feels this way (look at the previous post). We can only share experiences and give advice but we are not doctors.
I agree about taking responsibility but since you haven't been there before and your abusive relationship was not her abusive relationship then it's hard to say what you'd do in someone else's shoes. Again, I think it's best to realize that we're on a forum where people are feeling pretty scared and need some help and try to help out instead of being judgmental. Sure it's not rocket science to you, but it's not always easy. How do you know that she's not being taken advantage of in the relationship? It does happen and there's no protection there, so it's again important for us to just try to give advice without passing judgment. Does that make sense?
I can agree on some of what you are saying but again this is just my opinion. People will not always agree and part of that makes you who you are. She needs to get help and maybe somebody can give her good advice that will somehow turn things around. This is how I feel but I do hope that she makes a wise decision.
I understand it's your opinion and I'm just expressing mine in return is all. I think that we can both agree that she needs to get help, and that she needs good advice and that she should make a wise decision so hopefully that will be how things turn out for her. :)
I am also facing my 5th abortion. All done before 8 weeks as well. The answer is YES. You can get a 5th abortion. I told my doctor that was going to attempt homeopathic self-induced abortion and he flipped. You have the right to a 5th abortion. It's not fun I KNOW. I have zero desire to face the doctor and say i need my 5th abortion, but I am also not willing to bring an unwanted child that I can't afford into this world. Women died so we could have the right to an abortion. Stay strong, then get an IUD, that's what I'm going to do.
bluedog wrote:
I was also shocked and disappointed that people were so judgmental. When are women going to start supporting each other? This woman definitely needs our compassion. Is there anyone that can answer her question?
Msnikki2000 wrote:
Guest wrote:
i have had four abortions in the past 5 years, twice due to stupidity and the other times from birth control failures...anyway, im in an emotionaly abusive relationship and i have found myself pregnant again. i really want to have an abortion but i'm worried if i have one i'll never be able to have kids in the future when i'm married and with the person i love. all of the abortions took place before the 8th week, I am 6.5 weeks and have an appt scheduled for this weekend however i'm worried i will never be able to have kids if i have the abortion...do you have any advice?
I'm sorry but haven't you learned by now. Stop being irresponsible and using abortions for birth control. My bestfriend had 3 but has 2 kids and makes up excuse for why she had the abortions. If you can't act responsibly then you need to keep your legs closed. I'm sorry but this is unbelieveable. Tons of people TTC and your just getting rid of yours. I have 3 kids and I'm glad that they are here even though my girls were 13months apart I would not change them being here for the world. You need to act like a responsible woman and stop damaging your body the way that you are. GOD help you!!!
I really would hate to hear this sort of thing from someone if I was already scared, knew I messed up, and was in an abusive relationship so I think that you should bear in mind that she's not asking for judgment, she's asking if she is able to get an abortion. I don't think it's very productive to pass judgment anyway, and in a health forum, people are already here to post about things that scare them because they can't approach their doctors. Please try in the future to have a little more compassion and sympathy instead of being judgmental I think. What do other people think about this?
I was also shocked and disappointed that people were so judgmental. When are women going to start supporting each other? This woman definitely needs our compassion. Is there anyone that can answer her question?
i understand where you are ,i had 6 and im pregnant again,idk what to do
True... Four abortions is a bit much. But that is her body. The three children you have may have very well been made by a man with more of a decent character. Who are you to judge anybody????????? Im not saying abortion is right, but i am saying that being a U.S. citizen you are very much so entitled to do whatever you feel is necessary as long as its not breaking any laws. Just try to take better care of yourself or maybe use a different type of contraceptive.
i can understant ur situation even i m in confusion to get the abortion done or not because i really want my baby but i cant because my husband says he want the kid but when i get pregnant he become more abusive and force me to do the abortion, and i dont have any resource to keep the child alone but i really want him..i m 12 weeks pregnant now and this is going to be my 5th abortion no one can save me from dis dats y i think i will have to do it again.
Why don't y'all all shut the f**k up with the negative unnecessary comments and do something more productive with your time like read a f*****g books plz and thanx. I suggest you do what's best for you! Its your life and your decision! Ask A doctor but adoption is always an option!
The OP didn't ask for your critique of her decision to have multiple abortions. She asked a legitimate question and deserves a legitimate response. So you're more mature or valuable to society because you've only had ONE abortion? Get outta here. Next time, offer something constructive or at least answer the question posed...
I had 5 abortions due to anticonception failure. I hate children and rather die than disstroy my body and life. I have no scrupuless when it cones to having abortion. You can have as many as you like. Remember its your life dont let anybody tell you different.
I had 5 abortions and did get pregnant again for a 6th time. Procedures are relatively safer now than 20yrs ago and typically do not affect future pregnancies. Also there should be no judgment or insulting someone when you don't know the situation. Yes I feel terrible and think of the what ifs but I already give myself plenty of grief. For those with negative comments I wonder why you've really found your way to this thread. I found it because i looked for exactly this and want to know im not alone and perhaps give advise from my own experience. Most women who claim to have only one are not being truthful because of the similar backlash replies I'm reading.
I am in the same situation...i have had 2 abortions when i was fifteen (bad experience)...them later i was in a relationship and my partner new i did not wonted kids ... my partner manage to get me pregnant by lying that he did not ejaculated inside me....there was a 3 abortion..i am now 35 got married last year but my partner lives in another country...it has been a difficult relationship we broke up many time due to the distance...unfortunately my partner does not want children + he has the vasectomy ....recently i met a guy and went, during the act the condom broke...I am pregnant and desperate, confuse, and my husband soddenly decided he want children. Every morning i wake up thinking what to do, really I don't know what to do...I don't really want the termination...at the same time i don't want to loose my husband.... and my husband want his children not somebody else child.
I am also in an abusive relationship. We have been together for 7 years and have 2 kids. I am also pregnant now. (We have sex because HE wants to. If I refuse it's hell. So I let him have his two minutes of fun so he can leave me alone).
I have an appointment tomorrow morning for my 5th abortion and I am weeping since this morning. I don't want to but my 2 kids although never touched see the situation in my house and I can't put another one through that too.
I try to save money to get my tubes tied but considering he doesn't have a real job and I don't make that much it's hard to.
Please don't judge all women the same because although we are doing this we may not have a choice.
If u can't reply to what she has asked don't reply at all. She didn't ask for your opinion on abortion. It's not for any of you to judge!!!
joanIf you never had complications after words you'll be fine.