I am 29 years old and I have something I want to discuss with you. I have two jobs, regular 8-hours one and second, honorary type. I do not have much free time and it is driving me crazy! In addition, I am losing touch with my friends! How to prevent it? I know that they have obligations too, but I would not like to lose contact with them. Does anyone have similar experience?
Actually, I do. Beside two jobs, I practice martial arts three times a week. Since I live with my girlfriend, I do not have any time at all for my friends. Maybe they understand that, maybe not. But I have made a choice. I have decided that all the free time I have I will spend it with my girlfriend, I will contact my friends by phone and we will see each other on occasions like birthdays. I do have one advantage though. Several of my friends practice martial arts with me!
i joined the military 3 years ago. I just got stationed back close to home. I was obviously happy to be so close to family and friends. Within a couple months of coming home I met a girl and we have been dating for about 4 months. So between my job, and my girlfriend I don't see my friends all that much. I've been seeing more that i haven't been seeing my friends as much. I work, hang out with the little lady, and see my family. My friends (all of whom are single) always make jokes, and tend not to cell back if we have plans, and can be somewhat selfish. Tey tend to only want to hang out if they don't have to leave their house. Along with this their also into drugs. Not something I really care about, but i think they feel weird using around me knowing i get drug tested a lot due to my job. It does suck knowing that i don't see them as much but i also have to think about myself, and so should you. I know i'm out there bettering myself and I cant let someone, friend or not, make me feel guilty for that.
I understand totally! I am so wrapped up with full time jobs, family drama, my live-in boyfriend and everyday tasks I have to do. I feel bad because I don't see my friends as much and I think they hold a grudge against me for not coming to see them or make them a priority. There are those "friends" I have that don't try too hard to hang out and make plans with me, but put it on me when we don't see each other as though they have been there and tried. Ultimately, the way I look at it is that those people who are true friends will be there when you need them even if it is just quick phone call - and it could have been 1 week or 1 year between seeing each other but you feel like no time has passed.