To the original poster, I just left someone who smoked pot and was sometimes verbally abusive. I work full time, have my own place, etc. I earn more money than him, and he still was that way wth me. His previous girlfriend did not work and he occasionally complained to me about how he felt taken advantage of. My point is that it didn't matter. He treated us both the same. But you have to help yourself. Even if the only thing you can manage is to call a domestic violence hotline, do that, start there.
I have a girl friend with the same problem, and a best friend from years ago.
first my friend, he was a A student in grade 13, went to church every weekend and loved his parents.
he was the last of my group of friends to start smoking weed. and with in 6 months he lost all friends , quit school, and last I heard was in a fist fight with his senior father on the front lawn.
Next my girl friend now, gorgeous, smart, helpful , loyal, hard working , thoughtful who I am planning to dump, she always smoked a little weed and we were great together for over ten years. over that time I made more money and the amount of weed she smoked slowly increased to a lot. I tried to dial it back but that is impossible now. She too is now ignored by her family because of crazy outbursts , quit working, lost every one of her friends, and now I am the last one that looks like will be leaving. She became very hostile, even out shopping arguing with people , cries and screams all the time about nothing and I mean nothing, became very lazy, stopped taking dog out or for walks, stopped cooking , stop singing , stop working out , and wont stop yelling even when dog is afraid hiding in the corner shaking , wont see a doctor, Some people can't handle weed, most or some can. For those that can't it greatly magnifies any bad traits that we all have. They get mad if the weed is almost gone, mad looking for it, mad the stuff they buy is too weak, or mad the count is low in her opinion . I smoke a little and when I do it is hard to get up in morning and that is only smoking a small amount .They also get made about falling behind on things and blame everyone around them, she is now starting to get violent throwing things breaking things slamming doors. Even our last fight she pretended to make up with me and asked for kiss and bit my lip . My advice leave and stay away from drug addicts in the future. It is the exact same thing I saw repeat itself from my old friend. Its a real shame. You must rescue yourself, only take them back if a drug test is passed. If not leave him. It will only get worse!!! I watched this happen to two important people in my life. I forgot to say What also happens is you now have to pick up the slack around the house because they don't do it. Now they blame you when something isn't done. This hurt me because of my work, I was spending less and less time working because nothing was getting done at home. I wasted the last six years listening to the stoned BS Don't make the same mistake I did. Good Luck, Also a lot of people will tell you its not the weed maybe the person needs Prozac, I assure you its the weed. Just like booze, some are happy drunks some are not. My girl friend says I changed and that's or problem, but I am the same. I even have a 12 year old blackberry LOL. But she insists she loves me, cant live without me, how sexy I am, but sex mostly never happens now, it did all the time in our first 10 years. This all happened even when we bought our dream house she wanted.
Not all but some cant handle it. Just like a happy drunk or mean drunk, so if a mean drunk would you not blame the booze?