My husband hit me once and he has anger problems.

What are you waiting for then? Youre lucky you aren't bound by your kids. Its better to leave him and start anew. Have hope amd wish for what you deserve and you will get it one day definitely...not compromise instead for what life throws or tests you with.

Strange..his sister wanted to know about your family planning .This is quite awakerd too. You have to be a strong woman to face such type of violence and strange upbringing.These type of people rarely change their attitude so be strong act tactfully otherwise last option is leave them .

I, too, am married to an Asian- Indian man for 12 yrs. We have a daughter together. You're right about the control issue. He has the most say about almost anything in our family--daughter's school, money spending, etc. My husband has an anger problem and blames me for "everything wrong" going on in his life. Tonight, for the first time in 12 yrs, he hit me physically. I ran away for a while but then came back because of my daughter. Now he's sleeping like a baby as if nothing happened. Life.

I'm in the same situation what did you do?

I'm in a similar situation. I left last year but like a prat went back. . It was fine for a whole but has now started again. The putting me down routine every day and always bringing up any mistakes I've made. He says he's sorting it by going to docs for antidepressants but it'll continue again and then hell have a rage at me and hurt me.

Same thing is happening to me - i do not have a wedlock but this is becoming too much to bear . I cry myself to sleep. I am from a conservative family and dont make enough money to afford a decent lifestyle. Nobody divorces in my culture of family. Exactly 3 months into marriage and he is hitting me so much over petty issues and he is strong and yesterday had to get CT scan done after he slapped me so hard continously - its still paining . I wish i had some support.

Hi All I am also suffering with the same situation like you my husband beats me and threaten me all the times he will get irritated with in a second now a day s I m too scared to talk to him I don't how can I live with him. I have tried to adjust with him so many times but nothing happened.

He is an as****e, I hope you left him already, if not, just do it!

Leave don't go long wid him

Leave leave leave

My husband hits me. This is not the first time he did so. This is third time he hits me. As usual he says sorry in the next morning. I know he loves me and i love him too but this is just becoming untolerable for me. I am just starting loosing my self respect. I cant leave him but i cant stay with him like this. What do i do?

DEAR GIRLS,

I FEEL THAT IF A MAN, COULD BE YOUR FRIEND/ HUSBAND/ ANY MAN DOES NOT RESPECT YOU AND USES ABUSIVE WORDS OR ACTIONS, THEN IDEALLY YOU SHOULD IGNORE THAT PERSON. BUT THE QUESTION LIES -WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WHEN YOUR OWN HUSBAND BEATS YOU? U HIT HIM IND EFENCE..THEN WHAT? THIS COULD GO ON..IT'S A VICIOUS CIRCLE...
YOU HAVE THE FOLLOWING OPTIONS:

1. EITHER YOU LEAVE HIM-DIVORCE/ MUTUAL SEPARATION
2. REPORT TO THE NEAREST POLICE STATION
3. APPROACH AN NGO WHO FIGHTS FOR WOMEN'S RIGHTS

REMEMBER IT IS YOUR LIFE..NO MAN SHOULD CONTROL IT....BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND NOONE CAN HURT YOU...

HI ..
WELL YOU REALLY HAVE NOT MENTIONED THE REASON BEHIND HIS ABUSIVE BEHAVIOUR!! ASSUMING THAT HE DOES IT WITHOUT REASON, YOU SHOULD NEVER ALLOW HIM TO DISRESPECT YOU...REMEMBER IT IS YOUR LIFE AND ONLY YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CONTROL IT..SO IT IS UPTO YOU AS TO HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE IT..BEING TORTURED DAILY OR FINDING A SOLUTION TO IT AND GOING AHEAD...
THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP...

TALK TO YOUR RELATIVES/ MOTHER/ FATHER/ ETC...DEPENDING ON WHO YOU ARE CLOSE WITH..BUT PLEASE REMEMBER ONE THING...IF YOUR HUSBAND THINKS THAT YOU ARE COMPLAINING AGAINST HIM THEN HE MIGHT AGAIN SHOW HIS VIOLENCE...SO BE CAREFUL...
NEVER LOSE YOUR SELF RESPECT.
TALK TO A MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR...DID YOU TRY TO TALK TO HIM? MANY A TIME TALKING HELPS...OPEN UP YOUR HEART...

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I have been married since 5 years with a kid, but my husband doesn't want to take any responsibility he spends money all his luxury but if he ask he doesn't give not even for kids education , last note also he has beaten me very badly just because I asked him why he gave money to a person without any work, I really don't no how to handle him , he has beaten me very badly my eyes are swollen

I just need to write I can relate. My husband punched me 3 times tonight in the back of the head. I crunched into a ball and tried to cover my head with my hands. He hurt me , two of my fingers are bruised or sprained, my head , back of my neck and shoulder hurt. He says I don't tell him anything, I know I don't. He's frustrated and angry but I can't tell him about anything related to money. He just gets mad. I live in a nice home and have a nice job. Not a job that can support myself, so he does and supports the house. I've been at my job for 8 years. It's 3:30 am and I am awake and sad. I know he'll hit again eventually . In my relationship he has choked me twice and scared me by grabbing me hard or grabbing me and pushing me out of the house. He finally punched me tonight. I provoked him by talking saying he couldn't handle what I could say and he went nuts and attacked- that's why I don't talk about anything I know will anger him. People only see him as this really nice guy , I used too. I am so stupid, I can't tell anyone . I've seen to much in my life to know nothing good comes from talking, and I've been through worse than this. I need to find my strength and shake this off. I am really sorry you hurt and are sad find a way to survive the disappointment and sadness.