My husband hit me once and he has anger problems.

IM SUFFERING FRM THIS SATUTION FRM LAST 11 YEARS N NW I HV 4 KIDS SO PLZZZZZ LEAVE HIM CZ SUCH KIND OF PEOPLE NEVER CHANGE N UR LUCKY THAT U HV NOO KIDS IM AT THE SAME STAGE CZ NW HE START BEATING ME N MY KIDS BADLY AFTER THAT HE START SAYING SORRY BT WHAT IS GUD ABOUT HIS SORRY AS HE REPEATE IT AGAIN AND AGAIN SO U JZ PLZ DONT WASTW UR TIME N LEAVE HIM KEEP FAITH IN ALLAH,ALLAH DIDNT ALLOW HIM TO DO THIS WITH U N DONT GIVE HIM CHANCES TO DO THIS AGAIN LEAVE HIM

Understand one thing. He may have an anger problem but that is not why he is abusive and violent. He does these things because his belief system tells him it is acceptable and deserved.

I'm also experiencing the same, we have three children two boys age 13 & 6 and a 2 year old girl. the problem starts when he is drunk he start a fight out of nothing like why did I call him he'll talk until 3 am and he doesnt want me to sleep, he wanted me to sit and look him in the eye as he is speaking. he'll throw things at me,verbal abuse, demanding sex even hit me. I need help for myself and my children because they are even scared of him i think they need councilling because my elder boy once said to me,  when he is alone at the house he keeps on hearing his father's voice shouting at his his ears. 

Ladies it never gets better. A tigers stripes does not change. I have been with my husband for 5 years we separated we have two boys under the age of 6 and he came back home promising changes he did for a good year and just yesterday he hit me on the back of the head really hard I saw stars bc he didn't like the lipstick I was wearing he asked me to take it off and I said I liked it and he hit me and I fell on the ground. I cried instantly bc I was so shocked and the. He tried consoling me and apologizing trying to hug me but at the same time telling me to toughen up that it wasn't that hard and stop being a wuss to grow up! Then afterwards when I asked him why he did that he said he's financially stressed and has a lot on his plate that he's sorry that he doesn't want to get like that anymore. This happens at least once a month but throughout the month it's verbal abuse making me feel inadequate I can never do right then putting down my family or saying I'm too sensitive it's only child syndrome seeking attention if I cry I'm looking for attention or I'm too insecure telling me there's no cameras so I can stop the act meanwhile if I go out and look too good he rips clothes off of me if we get into an argument first he takes scissors to my clothes and my costume jewellery and if he doesn't get a reaction then he attacks me. They never ever change! I saw all the red flags and I still married him I thought he was just over protective bc he loved me I was so naive. They're true colours always prevail they can only act for so long to lure you back but it always gets worse if not the playful everyday you're walking on eggshells worries with anxiety not feeling like you can love feeling trapped worried about what mood they're coming home to and what your night is going to be like trying so hard to calm the situation for the sake or your kids who can't witness any more abuse in the house bc they're starting to have behavioural issues. What's eighth? Stability having a provider or leaving and getting yourself back your life back your happiness that was ripped from you now you're just a doormat someone's punching bag when they're having a bad day they take it out on you. I guess that's why you were born right? To let someone else take all their stress and frustrations out on you. To live in fear for the rest of your life bc you feel it will be harder being a single mom raising two kids alone.

leave him. if someone loves you he cant hit you. every husband wife has arguments and they settle it themselves and a marriage doesn't give right to a man to hit his wife in any case.

Leave him! Are you happy with the kind of life he is giving you? If not, pack your things and leave!!!!

Hello, I would just like to know what you have decided? Did you leave or did you decide to stay?

Im married to middle eastern too. He hit me for the first time on march 5th this year. I filed for divorce. In their culture they don't frown upon domestic violence as much as western woman.Tell me how is your relationship now?

What you just said is the exact thing I'm going through myself right now. My husband was just recently incarcerated overnight for battery as he struck me across the left cheek and jolted me for a second or two. I called 911 as we have no family near us and he threatened to take the children out of state to Missouri where his parents live. He managed to take my youngest to the car and leave and by that time the police arrived. They took our individual statements and then together and when I was talking to the deputy in front of him his smart ass response to her was "as you can see she's really hurt." Minutes later he was placed under arrest even though I didn't press any charges and was taken to county jail overnight and bail bonded by his parents the next morning. He is currently under a no contact order by the judge and can't see me or the three children we have. I am at a serious crossroads as to whether to get a divorce now or not and my entire family is done with all of it and wants me to leave. This hasn't been the first time this has ever happened and I'm afraid it won't be the last. I don't believe he even thinks he did anything that serious.

If you have your family's support like you say, I think you should take their advice and run.

The only problem I have is money or lack thereof. He earns $71K a year and I work part-time at Home Depot to help out. All of my family live out of state and have no money to assist. My lawyer said it will basically cost me around $5K to get a divorce including the matter of custody and would take anywhere from six months to a year. I think if money weren't an issue I would've left a long time ago because we are poison to each other. What's even worse than some of this is knowing that he cheated on me with a co-worker six years ago when we were having same type of problems then and I threatened to get a divorce but never sought it out. He got close to a woman at work and had sex with her. Then lied about it for five years. He caught me on facebook with an ex-boyfriend two years ago and sexting to him over text messages but he lived in another state so there was no physical contact. Made me go to marriage counseling with him over it and then we stopped after our fourth session. Two months later he confessed to his adultery. Since then I have felt lost and alone and completely destroyed. I feel as if I've wasted my better part of my life and now I'm 35 and starting over seems scary and lonely. I have given everything I have to my three kids and put everything into this marriage only to feel like I've let myself down and everyone else. This is not the life I had in mind for myself when I was younger and I'm so confused right now. Need guidance and someone who knows what I'm going through to talk to me.

that was happen to me in past,we have been married 10 year,starting 3 to 4 year was fine,i dont have kids then he start hit me ,yelling at me,he hit me when i was 6th months pregnant,now my son his 3 year old eventhough my husban still hit me infront of my son,so dont think he will change still his same

Hiya yes I'm in this situation aswell except I've been beat up on a number of accasions and my husbund also says he will kill me most of the time I sleep with 1 eye open all the time but I also have 3 children and telling you love once a man hits you he will do it again I've suffered for nearly 3 yrs now and nothing has changed I feel like I'm his slave I have to be a robot it was just this afternoon that he beat me again cause I fell asleep on the sofa my 4yr old went upstairs and made abit of mess so it was my fault and he beat me up

I have been married for 3 yrs now. And my husband has anger issues. He tries to control me. If i don't listen to him he will hit me. He forces me to have sex with him when i don't want to have sex or when im not in the mood. We have a dog and that dog is mine i had it for 8 yrs and he abuses the dog. Whenever we argue he hits the dog and takes his anger out by hitting the poor dog. Today he slapped me real hard on my left side of cheek and it left a mark he scartched me and it burns. I'm not happy with this marriage. I wish i never married him so soon. He is muslim european and so am i. He slapped me because i didn't go upstairs with him to sleep. He says he cannot fall asleep without me being next to him. I TOLD HIM im not ur mother to breast feed you and for u to fall asleep. So thats why he slapped the sh*t out of me. He threatens me alot when we argue he says things like i will hit u so bad that u wont wake up for 3 days. And he says i will make u crazy. And he doesnt like it when i talk back. I think that this man is a f*****g abuser. He is sick in the head. And the most thing that i hate about him is that when we argue he always hits the dog on its head and it really pisses me off b.c i love that dog more then him thats honest. At this moment im not happy at all. Any advice?

Um, leave. Grow a self esteem and a backbone and get the hell out of your situation. It's not rocket science.