my neighbours kids never stop screaming!!! Driving me insane

Children learn fast, and thus must be taught the lessons of life early. I have two teens now and they did not scream their lungs out annoying the neighbors. Common sense folks; when it becomes too loud you correct them. Kids can still have fun while learning respect for others around them. Parents who do let their kids go on for hours are very uneducated and irresponsible. Being a child of the 70's I see a huge lack of discipline these days.

i just want to say. i understand the posters point of view. i have an 19 month old and now a 3 month old. my 18 month old is a handful, he screams, and tantrums for no real reason, distractions do not work. the only thing that is working for us is 1 minute time out ( time in his room) but he screams louder the whole time he is in there. and im sure my neighbours would say the same stuff about me, im not a single mum, my toddler is disciplined. but of course being a toddler he still has tantrums many times a day. my baby has severe reflux, and screams almonst all day and night, even with the meds he is on. i am also ment to hold him upright for 30 mins after a feed wich sometimes is impossible when my toddler is running a muck. now i wont say my kids are the worst around but i will say, we have used the same discipline for 9 months now, and its just having an effect now. still he dosent listen, and he tantrums when he dosesnt get his own way. but as a mum i let him do what he wants if it is safe and not going to harm anyone, a bit of loud playing is a part of growing up, so is down time (quiet time) which he has an hr of in the middle of the day he dosent sleep anymore in the day time most times but some times he dose. if my neighbours told me to make my kids be quiet id go off like a bat out of hell to them. yes its a pain being woken in the middle of the night because a toddler has had a bad dream, but you cant say to a toddler dont cry when you wake up just be quiet and go to sleep its a silly thought. my own kids noise drives me insane some days, but well they are kids, and will out grow it. i do what i can ask me to do more then i am and i will ask you what to do that i havent tried. my baby is up most nights until 3 am crying, and my older one goes to bed at 7 or 7.30. not any later. he is up by 6. and some nights will wake 3 or 4 times screaming... not because he is a brat but because he is genuinely scared from a dream he had. all you people saying kids should be quiet need to realise we are not in the 1900's any more we are in a day and age that kids should be seen and heard. not the other way around. if kids annoy you that much move, go find a bit of land where you wont hear your neighbour. and stop whining, there are many reasons kids act out and not all of them come down to parenting... being to strict can lead to rebellion, being not strict enough can lead to failure. you need to find the thin line in-between.

Wow, I have a one year old who is currently in the stage of screaming for the heck of it or when he is upset. So tell me, how do you get a ONE year old to stop? I don't think everyone with loud children have been neglectful. By the way, I am married and both my husband and I strive to teach him not to scream in the house. I feel that people today are extremely harsh and insensitive; easy to label people. I would hope that if my son was bothering the neighbors, they would come and talk to me. Trust me, like anyone, I would love for the kid to stop screaming. But don't assume that people aren't trying to discipline their child. SHEESH!

My neighbor is just rude plays her music at all hours of the day and night. Her daughter does nothing but run laps in the apartment below ours. And she's doing her laundry right now, it's 1:30am . It's a matter of respecting your neighbors and controlling you kids when necessary . Kids will be loud yes but there need to limits and I'm gonna freak out if it continues. Going crazy that I have to wear my iPod all the time to tune out my annoying neighbors . Moved into a onE bedroom apartment to avoid families with kids but there are more single parents with multiple kids that frat boys in college

You know what? I'm going to vouch for the person who wrote in about the screaming child! I live beside a screaming child as well. It'll scream for a minute straight at the top of it's lungs. There are 2. And no I don't have children, but not all children are like that. And secondly, anyone who is mad about this person writing in, is probably just angry and bitter because they have to live with that every single day.

why don't you go ask if he needs a hand. don't put him down or give him a hard time about it. if you think you are going crazy just think about how that poor man feels. i know as a mom who had delta with some of the same things. i have a 2 year old screamer. if someone, anyone would have come and asked if i needed help and not told me to shut my kid up i would have been a happier mom. you know when kids will not settle down it takes allot out of the parent too.

I find the parents who come on here and say that screaming all hours of the night and day are NORMAL kids quite amusing. Am I a parent? No. I am not in a situation at the moment to have children. But, I do baby sit for my family, a lot. I have taken care of twin girls, one very sensitive and loud, one shy and quiet and you can barely get her to speak. I have taken care of a screamer, who quickly learned *I* will not give in to the tantrums he throws. I have taken care of a child who was abused, neglected and taken from his real parents and had severe mental health issues because of that early abandonment.

Now, all of the kids I have taken care of for periods of time were easy to handle for me. Did they try a tantrum? Sure, some of them, but I certainly would not let it go on for HOURS. Did they play? Yep, pretty loudly, but that is just being a kid. Laughing, running about, but you don't let it disturb people. If they were in a playing mood, I would take them to a place they could play without waking up people (until a few years ago I lived with my mother, who works nights so can't be hassled by a kid waking her up during the day).

Now I live in an apartment and I have two neighbors with children.

Child one is 14 months, he cries sometimes, that is normal. He cries when he wants something, he's hungry, or teething. Sometimes I can hear him at 2am, but the parents get up and take care of him and it only goes on for a little bit. Sometimes he gets angry and you can hear his cries, but again it doesn't last very long because the parents take care of it. When I was in their apartment, their child was well behaved. They apologized for the screaming, but we told them not to worry about it because he is just making normal kid noises - nothing to worry about, it isn't as if he's screaming all day and night.

Child two is 4 years old. He screams all day, all night, endlessly. I sometimes hear his parents yelling swear words at him. He throws a tantrum every night when they try to put him to bed, which is usually around 9pm. This tantrum typically lasts until 11pm, though it can go on until well after midnight. All day long he is screaming at the top of his lungs. The one time I saw him outside playing, all he did was yell "GET OVER HERE!!!!!!!" loudly in an angry voice for about an hour straight. On an average day, he screams and cries very loudly for about 5 hours a day. Sometimes it can be even longer. This child I have problems with, the parents are not at all able to handle him. I heard him on one of his "play dates" in their apartment and he just kept yelling over and over and over "GIVE IT! IT'S MINE! GIVE IT!" and you could hear the parents screaming over him to let her have it, she had it first.

There are also a few neighbors behind me who have children who play in the yard in front of our apartment, it is a big grassy area. Those children I have no issues with, though they can get loud, they aren't disruptive.

There is a couple that eats at a chinese place I go to often - they will be there at 8pm with their child letting it have soda, pudding, tons of carbs. The child is obviously tired, cranky and acting out. But they don't care, they want to eat out. It cries and screams and throws a tantrum in the restaurant all the time. All I can do is roll my eyes and wonder why any parent would let their kid be up and out that late, especially feeding it sugar and soda!

I do not believe in physical punishment. I have never struck a child. But I will not tolerate any kid I am taking care of behaving like a total brat. If your child is a total brat and throws tantrums all the time, perhaps you should take a step back and look at what you could do to try to correct that behavior.

o.O mind your OWN business.... children go through phases.. and for you people who dont have kids, get your own and raise them how you feel and stop being so anal..... if the day comes and you have a child, your mentalitly will not allow you to keep the patience to raise them right....

married_chic wrote:

Wow so all I need is a psycology course? My sons fight all the time..well wrestle and are loud. I do discipline my children but they are kids..it's what they do. Have some kids then come back and let us know how well behaved they are 8)

I love all the parents with out-of-control kids telling non-parents who posted here that they don't understand. We do undertand.

We understand that the parents of unruly children think their neighbors should just put up with bad behavior. You

made the decision to have children, not your neighbors, and you need to take responsibility for the fact that they

are causing a disturbance. A crying baby is one thing, but a four-year-old who screams in the yard for hours every day --

the parent needs to take some kind of action. I didn't make the decision to have these children. I shouldn't have to listen

to them scream at the tops of their lungs. Take them to the park, let them run off steam and give your neighbors a break.

 

i think is very rude of mothers to let  the children scream load especially in public places i have kids and they never did that

Guest wrote: You sound like a real sucken jerk. I have the same problem and I sure as heck am not a big baby. This goes on from 11pm til 1am I need my SLEEP!!!

Yikes! I have two boys, 3 and 6. We live in a very close group of houses in a super densely populated urban neighborhood. My boys are loud, and I am constantly trying to correct their behavior, to little result. They have so much energy that (seriously) 2 trips to the swimming pool and once to the park (!) A DAY is not enough to wear them out. I wear myself out completely with all our activity, and still they run and wrestle and shout. I feel very sorry that I am unable to keep them more calm for much of the time. At the moment, the best I can do is just keep them very busy away from the house most of the day....thankfully they do go to sleep by 9 PM. But, gawd, what a day, EVERY day. So, please, if you are critical of parents who are in the wild midst of dealing with the unrelenting energy of children, please do appreciate that it is THE hardest job out there....I worked many grueling jobs in my previous childless life, and there is simpy nothing that could compare....most of us are really working flat out to raise good people.... 

There is little chance of altering the behaviour of other people or their kids. Make a noise yourself and they are likely to retaliate with more noise, or worse. Earplugs and noise blocking ear/headphones help! They are best at blocking high pitches, i.e. screaming kids and yappy little dogs. Also read a few books on Stoicism...

I understand the original poster.
Here it is the mother that starts the shouting - f**k this and f**k that. for most of the evening and the night and the weekend. and the morning. Luckily I have a job and I'm out during the day mo-fr. My partner is still looking for a job and all this noise is driving him crazy.
But soon after the mother starts shouting and screaming her children start crying and screaming.
Now, the kids start shrieking whenever they want to communicate with someone - in different tones.

To top everything up, the neighbors kids on the other side - we live in a terraced house - scream all day while playing, they don't go to school yet and no school at weekend anyway. in addition running through the house, up and down the stairs like elephants.  When you talk to their mother - "sorry, no english, sorry, sorry, don't know"