my neighbours kids never stop screaming!!! Driving me insane

Amen to that! If we were such bad parents and didn't care how our children behaved, why the hell would we be on here right? I'm on here because nothing else I've tried seems to be working. I always try to teach my children to respect other people. I have a 2 year old son and a 9 year old son and my 2 year old is the one acting up. I know all about being consistent. I am very consistent, but my child simply does not care! I recently had to get a roommate and since my child doesn't seem to care if he gets in trouble or not, he pretty much disturbs the whole house. He just isn't learning like I had hoped. He acts so bad, I'm afraid my roommate will get fed up with all the defiance and kick us out. Why won't my child listen to me?!!! Some kids are just unruly for no apparent reason. I think the people who are saying the other parents are to blame is seriously uncalled for and very judgemental and rude. I'm not a lazy parent. Maybe SOME people are lazy, but not everyone is. I dunno, I'm just trying to find a solution.

Another stretch to assume that because people post in here, they care about children, or are trying to be good parents.  Sure,
they/we all CLAIM that, but it's just a bunch of anonymous yahoos sounding off, now isn't it?

The original post/question does not say how OLD the screaming children are.   All the posts in here about
1 year olds being up all night are missing the point.  I seriously doubt that kids in the original question screaming enough
to be heard by next door neighbors are 1 year old. 

I am not exactly sure where you draw the line on age, but I would say it's certainly by age 3.  A 3 year old darn well
understands when you speak to him, can understand punishment, isolation, taking away toys and privileges,
and will remember that he was punished for a bad behavior. 

As for the parents who keep telling everybody else to "move" if they don't like the noise, that has to be the most uncivil outrageous thing you could say.  Children and their bad behavior do not automatically become the headache and responsibility of everybody else.  Sorry, man.  You had 'em.  You better figure out how to keep their noise and behavior in check.  The rest of the block should not have to endure this just because you decided to have children.

It would be very nice if everybody welcomed noisy children in their life, even if they are not their own.  But they don't, and they shouldn't have to.

And again, this is from a parent who raised two now-fully-grown kids and is raising two more, so I am not the "childless neighbor who hates little kids. "  I'm a parent who HAS little kids.  But I still have respect for the fact that everybody else on my street shouldn't have to put up with them just because I have them.

Take away food stamps and vote republican so that parents will be forced to work and raise their children properly.

Glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I'm not being intolerant, I just don't don't want to hear next doors screaming, whining kids all day long.

And before all the lefty liberals start with the "you don't have kids" nonsense, yes I do. But they were never, ever allowed to roam around making a nuisance of themselves. I have always had dogs but never let them bark in the garden out of respect for the neighbours.

Shame we can't put all these id**t parents with no idea on an island somewhere so the just annoy each other. Anyone can knock out kids it isn't difficult, we all know how but unfortunately not many know how to bring them up with manners and respect for others and I am sick and tired of the people that defend it. Looking down their noses at me because I don't want to hear these little darlings where ever i go.

What a horrible thing to say. Thank god youre not my neighbour. The biggest problem with children these day is people like you who have no community spirit. How do you expect these kids or any for that matter to respect you if you dont show any consideration for them.

I had a woman move in across from me into a one bedroom apartment with a family of 5 - 4 kids under 10 years old. A one bedroom apartment is only supposed to have a max of 2 people - she moved in at midnight so no one would see what she was doing. Whatever, no problem, I didn't care if she was breaking the rules or not.  But then the kids started screaming at all hours. And she would let them outside to play and they would run up and down the stairs, thumping their feet as hard as possible, still screaming.  And then they started running into my door. What the hell?  When the little monsters weren't running around outside, the lady left her door open and it was right across from mine, so I got to hear them shrieking inside their own apartment.  I finally got fed up and threatened to report her.  I haven't heard a peep since.

This is very dangerous and can make a child sick. They took the sand boxes out of schools where I live for this very reason. At least let the mom know.

I have noisy kids next door to me - the oldest is 11 and she is still screaming when she gets home from school - letting off steam! And they have many visiting cousins who also scream. You may find that as your neighbours have just had a new baby they have been told to leave the other one screaming so that she learns that it is not ok to be so demanding. She'll also have jealousy issues I expect. Maybe give it a few months to see if it settles?

The kids across the street from the property were renting now are constantly running around outside and screaming, even at 12:00 am. The youngest is probably 4 or 5 and the eldest about 14, all playing together. It would be fine if the kids were brought up right and actually knew how to behave unsupervised. Their mother leaves for the day and leaves the kids unsupervised all day and sometimes into the middle of the night. Today they had a huge party in there FRONT YARD, mind you they have a fenced in backyard. The kids have been running around for the past three hours completely unsupervised (parents are clearly drunk; belligerent and obnoxious).

I have two children and although they had fun growing up playing in our large back yard we were respectful to the neighbors unlike some of the families. They never screamed like they were being abuse because they were my responsibility and if that happened they were brought inside. Why should others have to suffer and not enjoy the peaceful neighborhood they deserve because others are to tired or lazy to bring there very loud, terrifying sounding children indoors. You have children, you are the only one that should be inconvenienced. Others choose not to should not be effected.

I also have a neighbour who lives 2 doors down and on the other side of the hall. I hear him EVERY DAY. I work at 630 in the morning, and I would appreciate it if I could come home and only hear him shrill-scream once every few days. But no, every day I come home from work, hear him scream several times that evening and night. They are not my next door neighbour. They are not just across the hall. They are 2 apartments down, and across the hall. This child is 4-5 years old. I have met him and his family and they seem to be nice friendly people. If I see them again where I have to, for example, stand in the elevator with them, I will not be as friendly as I was the first time around, when I didn't know any better.The point is, I do not wish to hear a child scream, EVERY DAY, SEVERAL TIMES A DAY. I am not exaggerating when I say every day, several times a day. I do not wish to hear him scream over my AC while I am in THE BEDROOM. I agree, babies will cry, children will act out. But if they are acting out every day, take them to a therapist or something. I don't know, I'm not the one with the child. But I bet half of you have not tried 'everything there is'. Don't tell me 'try having kids of your own and see what its like', because there is a reason why I DON'T have children. I don't think it's fair for some of you to expect us to 'just accept it', and live like the constant screaming is part of every day life. I hear enough of that at work. I don't need to hear the same thing at home when I'm trying to relax. So perhaps you and your kids need to learn to shut up and let us vent because it is BS to hear such an annoying pitch, and you are lucky we have restrained ourselves from yelling shut the f*** up down the hall, or leaving a supernanny dvd at the door, or perhaps a nicely wrapped lump of coal for your Child's christmas.

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married_chic wrote:

The screaming results from a lack of discipline and routine in a child's life. Parents who let their kids get away with anything because they think it is cute, then turn around and try to get the child to behave in a particular way is going to be rewarded with a huge temper tantrum. Setting boundaries and establishing routines, AND STICKING TO THEM, is critical in a child's life to support normal development.
Also, neglecting your child of quality one on one mommy and daddy time will result in negative behavior for attention. It is extremely important to surround your active child with plenty of activities that stimulate their mind and keep them from getting bored or anxious, especially if you know that you are going to be distracted with chores or other things during the day.
I have a roommate whose child is like this and I try to give her subtle hints as to how to stop the screaming, but she never applies my advice because " I don't have kids and couldn't possibly understand."
I took three years of pyschology majoring in child development and while, yes, I don't have children, I do understand how a child's mind works and I do remember being a child.
If all else fails after your advice goes unheeded, just blast music when your neighbors unruly child starts screaming. You won't be able to hear the little brat and nine times out of ten you'll get a little serotonin boost when you start dancing to the music. ;) Hope this helps.

My god - Do you really think its as simple as that because you took a 3year course ???? How about a dose of reality???? I have 3 children, all in a routine, all with rules & suitable discipline - and I don't mean smacking, but my 3 year old is extremely challenging and often screams & shouts for no reason - this can last hours sometimes, we sit & paint, we bake cakes, we play dress up, go for walks etc., whats the reason for her being a "brat" ??? Sometimes children have problems or bad tempers for NO apparent reason - you dont say wether or not you passed this 3year course but the fact that you automatically call a screaming child a "brat" makes me think maybe you should take it again!!!!!!!!!

I think people who have kids must be nuts. Where I live parents are DEAF, as their kids scream like unearthly freaks from space, they are given everything, have mobile phones at 5, are out playing, screaming and jumping in gardens and blasting balls at cars and front doors after 9pm (on a school night)... I don't like admitting this, but I HATE kids, they freak me out and I just find them a money making tool, that is all. More kids... More benefits. Parents down my road don't work but can afford a new car and run it, insure it, tax it, have sky TV, plasma TV's... Words fail me. I think a ban should be put on childbirth for 5 years in the UK.

I feel your pain. That must be terrible, but if you try and tell people that their offspring is a problem they cannot accept it and become abusive. Well they do where I live. You just cannot do anything, your hands are tied when it comes to kids. It was so much different when I was little, I could have had my parents and even teachers arrested nowadays!

iam a mother of a 13 month old and she wakes up crying sometimes which is normal for her and older children as well, but I had the same problem with a kid above me who is 4 and she use to be up till 12:30am running,jumping,banging, and screaming. I talked to my neighbors and made a complaint and things have changed since then, but there are still times she is banging on the floor or screaming. i usually hear her screaming when it sounds like the parents are telling her "NO"

I totally understand a bit of running about and some loud noises but a kid screaming their head off because they cant get their way should be corrected by the parent, if they dont teach thier child that that behaviour is wrong it only reinforces to them that they aren't doing anything wrong and they continue. The kid above has also woken up my baby with her banging right above my babies room. I dont know if they gave her a hammer to play with but that was really the last straw for me. I know I cant always do everything to make my baby happy and kids will through tantrums but as parents it's our job to teach our kids good behaviour.

I'm still learning some things about being a parent and I know the toddler stage is challenging.

my mom's neighbor has a 4 year old who was screaming in walmart one day because she wouldn't let him have a toy. she is not letting him have his way and that is something a parent has to teach their kid I believe, but to prevent him from screaming she could give him the toy, but that is letting him be a brat and get his way, so people should try to understand some screaming could be a result of discipline and that is better then letting a child get everything they want, and grow up to be a self absorbed adult who doesn't think of anyone else.

I had to deal with a similar problem this morning. I work nights and sleep days. I close my windows and turn on an air filter to sleep. The neighbors children and the mother were playing and running in circles in the driveway which is right next to mine. She's an educated woman but the means nothing when it comes to parenting. I opened the window nearest to where the screaming was happening and stuck a small battery operated radio in there set to a news channel and turned it up to full volume. I waited about fifteen minutes for this stupid parent to get the message. Then I turned it off. I know she is huffing and puffing right now but I really don't care. I suggest you get inventive and make yourself annoying. Talking to these dumb cows is of no use.