No more retrograde ejaculations!

Had to turp 2 years ago, many complication after the operation and they had to operate again, now my climax feels like nothing thanks to RE, it left me verry deprest and my wife is no longer intrested to have sex.

I had turp two years ago. Same thing. Forget about the pleasure, the main thing I still feel tense after the dry orgasm. I am tense, depressed and agitated all the time. And now my latest urologist, a kindly old man, says the fact that i still have to catheter twice a day means it was never an enlarged prostate to begin with. At least prior I could still have a full orgasm and relaxation. This young nasty mofo from a university medical center probably just needed some experience or money. And of course he never told me about the permanent re(dry orgasm) prior to the turp. I hope he has same surgery done on him or dies a long painful death(NOT A THREAT,

JUST venting my understandable emotional and physical torment).
thats what i feel like i am going through with re retrograde ejaculation: a long painful, but tension filled death. my life now feels worse than death. you would think they would have a reconstructive surgery or an implant or genetic regrowth of the vesical sphincter. I think that is the sphincter that is destroyed in turp. Prior to turp that sphincter closes off the bladder and allows you semen to go where its supposed to go: out your penis during orgasm....sigh. In addition turp or any prostate removal there is nerve connections that are cut which also contribute to these dreadful dry orgasms. And the worst of it all is you still have a libido, but no adequate relief. maybe if it keeps on permanently like this i should just have myself castrated...sigh. the guy at the top who got his jam coming out his penis after 6 months after turp is rare.

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Have the same problem, good climax gone, depressions, and my wife dos not like it eader, my urologist did not tell me that RE would be for the rest of my live, i'am despered, i hope my urologist gets it to.

I had a turp inflicted upon me 2 years ago and life is worse than death. My urolgist you couldn't get the time of day from. I was so desperate 21/2 years ago because I was having trouble emptying my bladder. First urologist would not give me preauthorization for a new intermittent catheter every time I needed to void. I was getting uti's all the time. Out of desperation I called a university hospital and ERROR! : I asked for first available appointment. I could not even walk I was in so much pain. So i get the aforementioned young jerk(i mean i am not exaggerating this guy was nasty). He never told me about post turp PERMANENT RE....I would much rather be where I was prior having to catheter several times a day. And anyway i still have to catheter!!! My third and current urologist tells me that it probably was never an enlarged prostate but that my bladder in "shot"(i.e. neurogenic). AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ONCE THE PROSTATE HAS BEEN RE-SECTIONED(=TURP). You would think in this day and age they would be able to construct a working prostate genetically or something. You see the prostate is not useless like many will doctors will tell you. It has much to do with making the semen. And there is a sphincter that is destroyed so that that your sperm goes into your bladder. In addition if you have a butcher like my surgeon there is nerve tissue that is destroyed. I was suffering another iatrogenic condition prior but that was psychiatric drug torture ptsd for decades and just when i was getting over that and starting to feel more at ease with women, than the bladder problem. LIFE HAS BEEN HELL!!! I'D FEEL BETTER OF DEAD. GOD WHAT A HORRIBLE LIFE INFLICTED ON ME AND OTHERS IN THIS SICK WORLD. POVERTY, WAR, STARVATION, ETC AND FOR PROFIT MEDICINE. THE WEALTHY RULE AND WILL DO ANYTHING TO KEEP IT THAT WAY.

I feel exactly the same. It has something to do with turps damaging the bladder neck. I have told several doctor that orgasms are not the same as they had told me. However, Ihave found no doctor capable repairing the bladder neck. If you find one please let me know. I live in west los angeles and I searched UCLA where the turp was performed as well a cedar Sinai and no one knows how to do it or claims it can't
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Rolandbrad, I'm curious what did your urologist say about indjecting collagen as a treatment for retrograde ejaculation? Do you know who and where they offer this procedure? Where can I learn more about this? Thank you in advance.

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Specifically, what 'laser' procedure did you have?  There are seemingly so many different types.  Also, did your ejaculations return on their own through months or healing after the prostate laser procedure or did you do some sort of medical or additional procedures to get it back?  Do you still have to take Flomax or any other pills along with the surgery you had?  To what do you attribute the fact that you can ejaculate again after the prostate procedure when all others are permanently runied from that?  I look forward to hearing your replies because I am considering getting something done very soon but the thought of retrograde ejaculation freaks me out.  I too am 62.  Thanks.

I totally get where you're coming from. I had my surgery in Atlanta, and my doctor was in and out of the room so quickly that it was hard to have a discussion with him. I feel as if I have no rights. Nothing I can do but deal with the retrograde problem.

Had mild BPH symptoms, doc did MRI, ultrasound and cystoscopy. Showed me during the cystscopy the enlargment areas and of course explained it wont get better on its on. He recommended the cooled TUMT called CoolTherm.

Sounds awful, with a microwave in a cathether, thermometer in your rear. All kinds of stuff on the web about pain blockers, tranquilizers etc. The process cooks away part of your prostate.

So I said okay, but no tranquilizers, pain block shots or whatever. I can stand anything for the half hour it takes.

Went in Tuesday AM at 9:30. left the office at 10:30. Really simple. Lidocaine to numb your urtehra for the microwave/cooling water/urine draining catheter. In goes the catheter, in goes the thermometer, lay back, they turn on the timer and you dont feel anything much. When its done, if you can pee, you leave without a catheter. Rest of the day, burns a bit when you pee, but had that before with the cystoscopy. 

Doc presribed tamsulosine to facilitate urine flow while my baked prostate shrinks back to normal size.  

Next morning. mind blowing orgasm, lots of precum (not bad for 66) and loads of well, load

If you dont wait too long for this procedure, its awesome

I'm also in fairfax VA. I'd love to hear from you guys regarding successful treatments to reverse retrograde ejeculate on. I wish I had known prior to surgery, I'd not have gone through with it. I had green light laser to treat BPH.

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i cannot ejaculate not even retrograde ejaculation as a result of a turp operation. how can i achieve some sort of satisfaction as this is a problem for me and my partner, i am continuously frustrated and there is no completion when we have sex or when i masturbate..

MY STORY EXACTLY INCLUDING THE YAANKED OUT!
BUT I CAN ADD : YANKED OUT SIDEWAYS!!
WONT GIVE UP HOPE YET .3 MONTHS AGO

Firstly I absolutely think the risk of retrograde ejaculation should be clearly outlined before surgery and post op counseling offered to those who need/want it. But I do have a positive story that may give hope to others coping with this I'm a woman whose partner has had retrograde ejaculation since Turp surgery for enlarged prostate (op was before we met). When he first described his RE to me (at that point we were just good friends) he felt exactly as others on here, depressed that his orgasms just weren't the same and he thought they never would be again. But with good communication; we talked openly and researched what actually happens in RE (i.e. sperm are re-directed into the bladder due to nerve damage to the muscles that normally close off bladder during ejaculation). We also learnt about the role of the brain in orgasm (male and female) and got our heads around the idea that male orgasm and ejaculation are 2 separate things and can happen independently (look up tantric sex - just to understand- they can be separate and that some people strive for this). Soon after he started to accept the changes as far less important and then to have mind blowing orgasms, nowadays he's completely accepting of his RE and actually sees it as positive, as it's helped him understand his body/ sexuality far better than before. When we began to research he was originally hoping for a cure (sudafed etc) but now he's not remotely interested, as he no longer feels there's a problem to be fixed. I know everyone is different, so this won't help everyone and some issues may be purely physical in cause but for many understanding and self-acceptance may be the key. It makes sense, I mean if someone feels they've been permanently broken by surgery, they're not gonna feel great about themselves and when it impacts on something as important and sensitive as sexuality, well it's not gonna help. But if you can get your head around the fact that - yes the surgery has changed something forever but that change need not be negative, it might be the start of understanding yourself and your sexuality better, and maybe you might just find yourself having better sex and relationships than ever before. Although i've not coped with RE myself, I have faced plenty of my own battles and know acceptance is key - life is a journey and we all face physical and emotional scars along the way that although we wouldn't choose them, make us who we are.

Forgot to say- part of the reason I posted is I feel very strongly that lots of surgery is being done (to men and women) without fully explaining the impact it can have on quality of life, relationships, sex. Doctors just tend to see a medical condition that needs fixing, they take into account any serious risks to health/ life but don't seem to consider how much impact surgery can have on other areas of peoples lives that may or may not be very important depending on the individual. Look up cervical cancer screening, lots of healthy young women have been `treated' (day clinic surgery) as a matter of course for mildly abnormal cells because a few may become cancer, even though most cases will regress on their own over time. We all have to inform ourselves and weigh up any risks before any surgery and decide for ourselves how bad the current situation is versus any possible outcomes, If we all fully understood the possible risks before surgery we'd cope better, as we'd be clear we'd made an informed decision that the surgery was worth the risks.