BlueKat I think you couldn't be more wrong. You can't make yourself be attracted to somebody you're not attracted to. Women love to assume there's no science in sexual attraction and that men should be able to make themselves aroused on a whim just by thinking about. If your man is older than 18, he needs to think you're pretty. It's amazing that women will never suggest that other women try to work out or look good from r their man - I guarantee there is some woman out there that is gorgeous that would love to be with your man. But he f*****g wants to be with you. Just got other gym guys. This doesn't go for you women that are overweight by only 10 or 20 lbs., your man is an as****e.
I am in the same boat. My husband literally crushes me (like can’t breath) when having sex missionary, when I straddle him it’s like I have to do the splits as his legs and body are too wide, then doggy, well needless to say I have ligament damage in my sacrum joints. This latest injury though has woken him up to the fact he is more than double my weight (he’s 140kg and I’m 60kg). I joke that he is breaking me, and he literally is. I flat out refuse sex now. Yet he just thinks I’m being a b***h. Can’t win!
Physical attraction is s very important
To sexual relations. We cant pretend it doesnt matter. Relatinships is work, so if you want sex. Take care of your body
And health! You owe that to your partner! You are in fantasy land if you think physical attraction doesnt matter
To sexual relations. We cant pretend it doesnt matter. Relatinships is work, so if you want sex. Take care of your body
And health! You owe that to your partner! You are in fantasy land if you think physical attraction doesnt matter
Have yourself an affair. Find someone who desires you.You'll be a lot happier. You don't need anti depressants , You need some good penis !!!
15 pounds!?! Come on!
Well women feel exactly the same when they have a husband who has a fat belly that gets in the way. It is a real turn off.
Take up walking and cut out the junk. Eat healthy food only.
Take up walking and cut out the junk. Eat healthy food only.
Why are there so many fat selfish men out there? Tell him to sleep in the spare bed until he loses the weight and is less rude.
I feel just like this
I've been battling this for a few years now. My husband was about 120kg when I met him and it was one of the reasons why I wasn't sure I wanted to go out with him as I'd previously been with guys of a normal weight. Still, I fell in love with him and it stopped bothering me. After 7 years he went to 210kg, finally got a gastric sleeve and went down to 180kg. He was happy to get the surgery so he could then eat anything and as much as he wanted of it. Wrong attitude. He doesn't exercise, still eats way too much and I'm worried his stomach has expanded again and will continue to do so, because he just eats too much still! Sex sucks because I can't feel anything and I resent him so much. Everything else in our relationship is great except for this and I don't know what to do. I've tried to be supportive and I've put on weight myself because I stopped caring about myself. Now trying to lose weight (only need to go down a couple of kg) I feel unmotivated because he's just constantly eating. I want to gain 100kg myself just so he sees what it feels like. We almost broke up because I cheated on him a few years ago because of it (and feel so horrible about it because he doesn't deserve that no matter what) and he said he'd do better but that didn't last long. So just putting up with it and trying my hardest not to judge him in case it makes it worse, if that even matters at this stage. I hate hating him for it and feel like a horrible person for what I've done and the things things I say to him sometimes like oh are you eating again, didn't you just eat?? I don't like this version of myself which I've become and don't know how to actually help him.
I hear you! Mine is about 80 lbs overweight now.... all in his stomach. I can barely find “it” and it doesn’t stay in. We used to have a very active intimate life; now not so much and it bums me right out
If your wife lost the weight, could you get the feelings back?
You sir are an as****e. Divorce her and let her move on she at least deserves that.
And you lady are a total b***h. He deserves someone better than you.
Oh wow you only gained 15 pounds in four years. That is amazing!! and you have had children too. I hope that htings have worked out for you.
I'm in the same boat was told verbally that he has to drink in order to have sex with me" and that really hurt. I have gained quite a bit more than you. We adopted a little boy so I cant even blame it on baby weight LOL. He was almost 4 and had a traumatic past and I developed a pattern of stress eating to cope with his trauma and reactions and I have been basically doing everything for my son too and left my job for him too :( So I kind of fell that when I do lose my weight which I will I will leave him. I cannot understand how people can be so shallow. I connect emotionally and while intimacy is important to me saying hurtful things, while true, will not motivate me . More like motivate me for divorce. I've also managed to get my Masters degree and will graduate in 5 weeks.
I'm in the same boat was told verbally that he has to drink in order to have sex with me" and that really hurt. I have gained quite a bit more than you. We adopted a little boy so I cant even blame it on baby weight LOL. He was almost 4 and had a traumatic past and I developed a pattern of stress eating to cope with his trauma and reactions and I have been basically doing everything for my son too and left my job for him too :( So I kind of fell that when I do lose my weight which I will I will leave him. I cannot understand how people can be so shallow. I connect emotionally and while intimacy is important to me saying hurtful things, while true, will not motivate me . More like motivate me for divorce. I've also managed to get my Masters degree and will graduate in 5 weeks.
I died laughing at this comment. This is me and my spouse in a nutshell in a way. I weigh 130, he weighs around 350-380. I'm 5'4 and he is 6'5. I love my big guy by the way. We are both over 30. Yes he has a wide body that I must straddle and yes my legs are sore sometimes afterwards. However, I don't mind. I switch between straddling him and bouncing up and down on it using my leg muscles. Sometimes I do become a little tired of being on top all the time. The only other position we can do is doggy style and I get tired of this too. So, our sex life consists of 2 positions. He absolutely refuses to get on top of me because he says, I don't want to crush you. Also, partially because he uses a lot of his energy to hold himself up in order to not crush me and it causes his body to tense and tire. So he can never finish in that position. My plan of action... Buy a sex swing! Make love on a table or dresser. This way he can still be on top without being on top. I love it when his tall body hovers over me, fat and all. Yes, he has man boobs and a big stomach, I need to push up a bit to reach his you know what. But... I don't care! He also has a sexy deep voice that resonates deep within my spirit whenever he talks. He has long arms and long fingers that I love to grab on to. He has a very humble demeanor and it's hard to get him upset. Is his weight ideal? No. However, neither is mine. I prefer to weigh 155. Unfortunately my metabolism makes this extremely difficult to maintain. He accepts my petiteness and I accept his fatness. Because at the end of the day, there are other things about him that turn me on and off. Does he smell good? does he caress your body right? can his package hit all the right spots? Is he good to you? Think of something! Try to work around the weight. It's not that bad.