First of all the pill is a very good form of birth control but of course nothing in %100 so you might want to look into a second form of birth control as a second line of defense. Possibly condoms for him or for her, a diaphragm , or some type of spermacide. Also it would help for you to know your cycle, you know when your period should arrive and how late you may be. It might be perfectly normal for you to have a variation of a couple of days from one month to the next. I admire you for taking the initiative to learn about your choices now as a sexually active teen. The more you know YOURSELF the more likely you will be able to make the decision that is right for you if faced with an un-planned pregnancy. The abortion/adoption debate will never end, and I don't believe that there really is an absolutely right answer. It's all about choice, if a woman is PRESSURED into having an abortion when she doesn't want to it is very damaging to the psyche. The same is true for adoption, if the woman is FORCED to or GIVEN NO OTHER OPTION but to carry to term and doesn't want the baby, or can't be a mom yet, that too is very damaging. Both scenarios can lead to a lifetime of regret and resentment.
I had an abortion about a year ago. My circumstances, to many people, would have appeared ideal, but they weren't. My husband of 10 years supported any decision I made, and took care of me after the abortion. We are still together and are looking forward to conceiving a WANTED child under the best of conditions that we can provide. Of course there are risks involved in having a surgical abortion or a medical abortion, but there are risks involved in pregnancy as well. There are people that would have you believe that having an abortion causes all sorts of health problems from clinical depression to infertility or even death, all this with out taking in to consideration the many other women that have had abortions and are not left clinically insane from guilt or dead. As if those are the only 2 acceptable options after an abortion. There are also people that would have you believe that abortion providers are evil, callous, and just can't wait to kill as many babies as possible. I went to Planned Parenthood and the staff was most warm and kind, I was counseled on my options, both adoption and abortion, and the doctor was gentle, informative, and understanding. The bottom line is, any choice that you make for your body you will have to live with. Nobody should make any of those decisions for you, adoption, abortion, or parenting, if you know YOURSELF you can make the right decision.
I had an abortion about a year ago. My circumstances, to many people, would have appeared ideal, but they weren't. My husband of 10 years supported any decision I made, and took care of me after the abortion. We are still together and are looking forward to conceiving a WANTED child under the best of conditions that we can provide. Of course there are risks involved in having a surgical abortion or a medical abortion, but there are risks involved in pregnancy as well. There are people that would have you believe that having an abortion causes all sorts of health problems from clinical depression to infertility or even death, all this with out taking in to consideration the many other women that have had abortions and are not left clinically insane from guilt or dead. As if those are the only 2 acceptable options after an abortion. There are also people that would have you believe that abortion providers are evil, callous, and just can't wait to kill as many babies as possible. I went to Planned Parenthood and the staff was most warm and kind, I was counseled on my options, both adoption and abortion, and the doctor was gentle, informative, and understanding. The bottom line is, any choice that you make for your body you will have to live with. Nobody should make any of those decisions for you, adoption, abortion, or parenting, if you know YOURSELF you can make the right decision.
It's shameful that pro-life websites can publish negative abortion stories to their heart's content, while most women who've had positive experiences are kept quiet by the stigma attached to it. The emotion most commonly reported after an abortion is relief. There's nothing wrong with feeling grief or regret after an abortion, but most women do not experience this.
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It's got hundreds of positive abortion stories, all written by women who do not regret their choice.
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***edited by moderator*** web addresses not allowed has both positive and negative stories, although there seem to be more positive stories than negative ones.
I hope those websites are helpful. At the end of the day, only you can make the decision. Listen to your heart, choose what's right for you, and you shouldn't have to regret it.
Check out ***edited by moderator*** web addresses not allowed
It's got hundreds of positive abortion stories, all written by women who do not regret their choice.
Also see ***edited by moderator*** web addresses not allowed
It's just starting out, but it's also quite useful.
***edited by moderator*** web addresses not allowed has both positive and negative stories, although there seem to be more positive stories than negative ones.
I hope those websites are helpful. At the end of the day, only you can make the decision. Listen to your heart, choose what's right for you, and you shouldn't have to regret it.
Kat, Please, Please consider adoption for your child if you truly are not ready. There are so many woman, myself included, that suffer from infertility that are ready and would love to give a child a home.
KAT BROWN wrote:
im sorry to say this but abortion is bad! anyone can be a mum but having an abortion is killing an innocent baby who hasnt had a chance to life for no reason! i am 14 and had an abortion 2 weeks ago but i loved my baby and it was my dad who told me it was for the best but now i miss my pregnant tummy and i want my baby back! PLEASE PLEASE dont have an abortion its the worst mistake you will ever make!!
POSITIVE STORY RIGHT HERE!
Hello all. I had an abortion about 3 weeks ago. I don't regret it one bit. I was in a serious relationship (or so I thought) for a year with the man I thought was the love of my life. We had a long distance relationship, and I went to visit him for the summer. We had a fight, he told me he wanted to be alone so I bought a plane ticket and left. When I arrived home, I realized my period was a bit late so I went to get a pregnancy test done. It was positive.
My whole life I had imagined that the day I found out I was pregnant, I was going to be happy. As soon as I heard the news, I started crying and yelling "I don't want it!". I was heartbroken enough by this man, I couldn't bear having his child. Even though I love him more than anything, he is a selfish person that only cares about himself. I decided not to tell him. Not to tell anyone. I only told my mother, and of course my gyn. (People are ignorant and always judge without knowing, nobody will know your reasons unless they are in your shoes) My mother supported me in the whole process. She took me to the gyn, and was next to me the whole time. I decided to get a medical abortion. I recommend it 100%! So I took the first pill in the office under the guidance of my gyn, then went home. The next day I took the other 4 pills orally. I had terrible cramps that day, and more blood that a normal heavy period for about 3 days. But it wasn't too bad, resembles a bad period. My gyn prescribed me an antibiotic (which you have to take to avoid infections) and a pain killer. It was all over within a week. I went back to the check up and the gyn showed me that my uterus was empty. I'm perfectly fine and my life is back to normal. Had I decided to keep the baby I would have been in trouble, I have no job, I am a full-time Grad School student with a future in front of me, who currently lives away from home, alone in a small student studio. Wishing to someday start a real family when the time is right, once I have a career and a loving husband.
first of all, your asleep & its completely painless. its like going to sleep and waking up. I felt nothing, i barley bled, and i had little pain in my stomach. I think your over reacting big time. Its been two days since my abortion and i feel normal. IF the choice is right for you and you have no support for this baby like i did, then abortion is the way to go. Also, the baby is NOT yet developed if you are under 10 weeks. Its as thin as paper and is not even 2cm.
I'm 19 and had an abortion earlier this year. The clinic I went to had a very nice staff and told me the entire process (not of the abortion, I chose not to know how that happens) they told me what each pill I took would do. as soon as I went to the room I fell asleep due to the pills. I woke up one time during the procedure and it felt like my organs were playing tug of war. after it was all done they Fed me crackers and juice and I was so drugged I couldnt hold my head up. I bled a watery blood for 6 weeks after. I was fine with my choice. BUT the regret that lays on my heart is horrific. there is not one day that goes by that I don't regret it or think about it. I still think I made the right choice but I wouldn't recommend it. the guilt is terrible.
Hey Doll
Im 20 and I had an abortion almost 5 months ago when I was 19. I was dating this guy for about 3 months until I turned up pregnant. No, we didn't use protection. You know those shows about teen pregnancy that are like "I didn't think it would happen to me"? I always thought people like that were dumb. But literally when I got pregnant I told my therapist the classic line of "I didn't think it could happen to me". If you don't use protection it'll happen to you. Don't be like me. Cover that thing up.
Anyways, when I found out I was pregnant I called my boyfriend and his joyous response was "Is there anything else you have to say because I have a ton of homework tonight" Classy, right? Then he texted me and said if I kept it he would break up with me (which that was not my deciding factor. Never compromise for someone lesser than you). The next 2 weeks were an awful blur, I had this thing growing inside of me and everyone telling me I wasn't ready, made me feel shitty because despite what anti abortion people believe, you will love that baby. A love like you've never felt before.
Anyways, I decided on having an abortion. My reasoning for it was I knew I'd have to rely on my parents and my dad has stage IV cancer so I didn't want to put that burden on them. Also, in my opinion, the whole point of parenting is to give your child a life that was better than your own and the best part of my childhood is the memories with my father so I couldn't give that child joy. So I had the abortion. Everyone at the clinic is soooooo nice. They know that all the ladies in there are going through something rough, they are gentle and kind. If you ever decide to have the surgical abortion, pay the extra for the pain meds. It's not the worst pain ever, but I wouldn't really consider it comfortable. Its like a two minute cramp. You'll have to stay in the clinic to rest awhile and then you'll leave. Or if you are like you, you'll go out and see your boyfriend doing drugs in the car. Like I said, classy.
Sorry for the story, Ive never really typed the story out so it was nice to vent.
But here's the deal, no one has sex crossing their fingers that 6 weeks later they can have an abortion and the second you see that positive on that pregnancy test, YOU have to sit down and think what YOU want to do. And it's so so so scary. No matter what you decide to do, all three of them are scary as hell. Every decision will make you sad, every decision will have regret and rewards, and every decision will involve tears, every decision you will have some sort of guilt.
Do I regret having my abortion? No I don't. Do I cry about it sometimes? Of course. I lost something. Do I imagine my what my life would be like if I had kept it? Everyday. I think about it everyday. What is the hardest for me is that I wasn't ready and because I decided I should have unprotected sex I had to give up my first pregnancy. But it was happened, I went to a therapist, got on antidepressants and I am sure everything is going to be ok. There are no positive stories of abortion because honestly no one is like "yeah, my abortion was great. I love unplanned pregnancies."
Abortions suck. they really do. But GOD if you wanna meet some strong, strong women, talk to the people who have actually had abortions. Because even though we may be scarred from our loss, we are stronger than most people. Why? Regret it or not, we made the decision because we knew we weren't ready, we knew that we loved that baby growing inside us so much that we didn't want to give them a life they didn't deserve. And that takes a strong, selfless woman to do. It's hard but what gets me through is knowing the day I do have a child i will love it so much more than I ever would have because I sacrificed for my future children so they can have an amazing life.
To wrap my story up, there is no positive abortion however what you do after it's done that will better yourself will be a positive. You have a chance to change your life, you made that decision partly for you, so what are you going to do with that gift. The only way abortion is wrong is if you have it and don't change anything about your life. Do something in honor child like volunteer or tutor (that's what I did)
and get the drugs when you have one
It is not fully developed at 10 weeks. You must be an id**t. Look it up. Example:lungs are not developed. I know because i got steroid injections for lung development while in preterm labor at 27 weeks. Another thing, it is not even viable before 22 weeks and doctors have no obligation to treat it if born before viability nor do they have the time to waste on something that Will not survive.
Abortion is different for everyone. No 2 procedures are the same. Period.
Abortion is different for everyone. No 2 procedures are the same. Period.
Hey i just had my abortion today im 15, and woot it came out good. First they took me in and.made me get into this bed they then made me fall asleep so i had no pain at all nothing. I woke up kinda loopy though because of the drug,. I wasn't bleeding but had mild cramping. They gave me a snack after and said i was ready.to go home.
ok lets not be dramatic here...yes you could die from having an abortion but you can die during child birth vaginal or c-section...and it is much more likely to die from child birth than an abortion....so yes lets be honest to the youth of today not one sided...yes it is painful awake but not unbearably and no where near what real child birth feels like...asleep is much easier..pain when you wake up is like menstrual cramps that are strong but gone for the most part with an over the counter pain pill such as aspirin, alive, or Tylenol. Mentally you may have pain with regret or what if's...however when you have a child you will also suffer emotional pain from the stress and the what if's of what your life would have been with out a child! The choice is not easy to make both have positives and negatives however for a young girl of 17 I think that an abortion is the most rational decision. Its not you that you need to think of it is the child you will bring into this world and what their life will amount to with what you can provide for them or if you can provide for them at all. I think that abstinence is really the most logical way to go...fun no...but very safe! I have had both forms of abortion done and I preferred to be awake...I think that everyone should have to be awake because will may think twice next time about having unprotected sex or sex before you are ready for the consequences that it would bring. I was 17 with the first one I had and then 26 with the second. The first time was because I was so young and in high school and the second time was because my husband and I were not ready for a second child at the time. I now have two children and I love them very much and yes I think time to time about the two other that I could have if my life but I also remember my life would not be my life if I would have had them. Good Luck!
Hello the positive element that is typically left out at the dinner table is IT'S YOUR BODY WOMEN. Their is no man or entity that can tell you that it's not. Their is no shame in what ever a woman decides to do with a vessel that has no soul. A baby can not live out side of the woman uterus, so let's see aah maybe we need a genius lucky for the viewing audience I am. Stupid people will tell you to suffer like isis that's a really good comparison of UN-Justice of women in a general unproved sense. The negative is people gossip, and people have no right too.