side effects of abortion in teenagers

Just so you know,
Everyone has their on choice to get an abortion, or not to. Personally, I found out i was pregnant... I also attend college, I dont pay for anything myself, except when i work over the summer. When i found out, i freaked, because having a child at my age, with no proper education, and no way of providing a safe and proper home for a child, i wouldnt bring a child into the world knowing its mother couldnt take care of it. Sorry. Also, my parents are very strict and believe i should have my education before I decide to even get married. and this i believe also. I wasn't planning on getting pregnant, infact i was taking birth control and still got pregnant. ..Now that i have had the abortion, i still believe it was the right decision to make. Granted, i am still in pain, and i have headaches all the time. I will make it. and I dont regret my decision.. if you live like with 'what if'... you live your life with regrets. and thats no way to live. be thankful for what you have...
just my advice but, make sure you research everything before you make your decision.. dont let others influence you.

I’m disgusted and hurt at some of the posts on here. Who has the right to judge what is right and wrong when it comes to abortion? Everyone has their own opinion but please, be a little tactful. Some of the people on here have been through hell and back having a termination, yet, some mindless individuals who haven’t got a clue what pain and hurt those that have had a termination go through, sitting behind their little PC screen writing drivel which they know nothing about!
I am 7 weeks pregnant and me and my boyfriend used contraception but I still fell pregnant. I have chose to have a termination because I can not give this baby the life it deserves. Nobody has the right to say I am “killing” this baby because technically, I am not. The foetus has no feelings until after 28 weeks and at the stage I am at… it is only tissue. Having that slight reassurance that I am not hurting the foetus gives me some hope. Some of you may disagree, and I expect most of you that do are those who have never been in this position, let alone similar. Well, I hope the judgemental ones never are because it is the most painful and heartbreaking experience that I will ever ensure but a decision I have had to make due to my personal circumstances which I do not have to go in to and explain to “some” (not all) of you shallow and selfish people.
I know this experience will be traumatising in the least and extremely heartbreaking and painful but I know it’s the decision which is right for me.

The ddesision is up to you you have the right to do whatever it is that you want to do with or to your unborn child. However when that question is aroused it always tends to raise some thoughts that could really hurt you and if you want the best advice talk to your mother i just had to tell my mom that i was sexually active and pregnant and she took it horribly at first but after a couple of days everything was okay and now our relationship is stronger than ever because i feel that i can actually come to her and tell her waht is going on with me and my body. And to be totally honest with you i was going to have my boyfriend sneak and get the money then i was going to sneak and get the abortion then i was going to sneak and hide the side effects for a couple of days but threre is only so much sneaking that you can do in one day. Now my mother understands what i am going trhrough i no longer hide things like throwing up and hatiing the smell of her cigarettes. I am scheduled for the abortion next tuesday and i think that it is prbably the best decision i have mad so far

Oh by the way just to let the people out there who are idiots know..... an abortion is killing an unborn child. wheather you use protection or not and got pregnant any how it happened for a reason. It doesn't matter if you in school or too young or whatever the excuse my be, there are other options. And whoever believes that a baby doesn't have a heartbeat until 28 days ummmmm do some more research, I found out I was pregnant with twins at 2 weeks and heard both of their heart beats. So that's that. By the way not to brag but I am a mother of 6 and I had my first when I was in high school, I finished and now I am going to college. It's possilbe to have kids and get an education so how bout we start using a different excuse. as for anything else just to let you know that if your going to have sex there is always that possiblity that you will get pregnant, so if your not responsible enough to take care of a kid than don't have sex. It's as easy as that.
Bottom line grow up and if you don't want the baby give it to some one who does, DON'T MURDER IT!!!!!!!

In my opinion abortion is wrong. You can justify it all you want to. It is killing a human being. We were once eggs too but we evolved. If your parents decided to get an abortion you would not be here expressing your thoughts on abortion. If anything abortion is an outlet. "I made you but have no time to care for you so I'm going to kill you." Murdering a child in the womb is the same as murdering a 5 yr old or a 20 yr old.



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God you people are stupid, All of you that are so pro abortion need to wake up and smell the coffee...Abortion is not just wrong it is in its form murder. Like one person has said before me..you CAN go get an education after having kids..Some people act like its the end of the world. It's not just the beginning of a new chapter. But apparently the world is filled with woman who can't "Deal with it". All of you need to suck it up and stop complaining and killing babies and start living. It also bothers me how some of you ladies can have an abortion and shake it off like its nothing. All of you in some way shape or form brought it on to urself. So shut up, stop complaining and trying to make the world feel sorry feel for you. Im oh so tired of hearing about people complaing about their pain after abortion. Think about what if you were that dead baby sitting there in a plastic bag on some cold doctors table wondering why you didnt get a chance at life...then come back and complain about your pain that you self inflicted some more.

You know what...You shouldnt judge people who have had abortions because what if you were in their position and had to have one? You wouldnt be saying the stupid ignorant stuff your saying know. Some people do not have choices. So You need to stop running your mouth. Yeah its fine if your against it, but dont come on here saying how people murdered their baby. I had to go thru a year of highschool with ppl calling me a babykiller. yeah it didnt feel too great. Yes I regret it and have these what if thoughts, but i was too young and my mother made me. It hurts to know that theres ppl out here in this world that does not give a s%$* about how they make some people feel. So yeah please dont come on here to judge. Its hard enough for ppl to go thru the pain mentally and physically after they had one. Maybe they need some advice or someone to talk to, but no people like you sit here and tell them stuff that they shouldnt have to here. esp. from you or anyone else. So stop please!! Just think about this before YOU OR ANYONE ELSE WANT TO POST A MESSAGE LIKE THAT ON THIS SUBJECT THAT TRY AND HELP GIRLS COPE WITH THEIR PAIN, JUST THINK IF YOU OR YOUR GIRLFRIEND GOT PREGNANT AND PARENTS MADE YOU OR YOU COULD NOT GIVE THE BABY THE LIFE IT DESERVES. WHAT WOULD YOU SERIOUSLYY DO??????? THINK ABOUT IT YOU MOTHER f****r!!!!!!! SORRY SOME PEOPLE CANT BE AS PERFECT AS YOU ARE. IM PRETTY SURE THAT YOUVE DONE WORSE THINGS. BUT JUST WANT SOMETHING TO DO SO YOU GET ON HERE. YOU WORTHLESS COLDHEARTED as****e! f**k YOU AND ALL THE OTHER PEOPLE WHO JUST WANT TO HURT OTHERS!!!! f**k OFF!!!!

Abortion can be killing depending how far along ur pregnancy is...I had an abortion 1 wk ago...I am still in horrible pain...I did it for me my boyfriend and my parents...me and my boyfriend are starting college together..we are only 18..I love him and had sooooo many doubts of not having somethng which came out of that love... but u have to think about the baby also..I want my baby to have the best life ever.. I can't even take care of myself...my mom does it all..my bf was behind me 100%...I do not regret what I did bcuz just yesterday my dad told me that if I got pregnant that would kill him...I felt HORRIBLE..my dad is my world...so u see dnt just come here to hurt ppls feelings..when ur in our position ull know exzctly how it feels...its not so easy...

i argree with girls when they say that abortions are sometimes the right thing to do. I mean im 16 (17 in three months) and i went through with an abortion just a week ago. Does this mean im a bad person aswell...all because i knew my family would be upset with my actions of getting myself pregnant...Some familys dont mind this from there teen daughters but hay everyones different..
Say if a young girl gets rapped and she then falls pregnant, is she still a horrible and heartless person for getting rid ??? ....
Neways i was just writing to say to all the young girls out there that have had or are having an abortion try not to get to upset or let what people say to you get to you!...
You will get through it :-)
And to all them woman that think abortion is bad..just because you might be able to cope and look after the baby doesnt mean others can or will...

Wow there are some very harsh attitudes on here. I have always been against abortion and while I do agree that it is killing your baby, I somehow foung myself in a bad predicament and ended up having an abortion about a year ago, and I regret it horribly but once its done thats it you can't take it back. Was it the best decision for me? Probably, but will it haunt me forever? yes, until the day I die, so how can anyone really judge someone for it? For most of us we will punish ourselves enough without having judgemental people who have probably never been in that situation making it even worse. And whoever posted that a baby only has feeling after 28 weeks is an id**t because now with the all of todays medical advances preemies up to 22 weeks can survive outside the womb so that is not accurate at all. I know that all sounds very contradictory but like I said I was always pro life and while I did have an abortion it was at 5 weeks, I think anything past the first trimester is just wrong because like I said now babies can survive as early as 22 weeks so if you have to do it at least do it early. My parting words: Its not the two children I have that keep me awake at night, its the one I don't.

im about to have an abortiona and yeah i wish i wouldnt have to do it my ex can support me and the baby and my parents dont want to. It is so hard and when people come and act like its nothing its even worse i have to live with this for the rest of my life that i have killed my first child. I know that after this i dont want to have children anymore or get married i hate myself for this and any girl or women who have to make a dicison like this do not really do not listen to other people they are not making this dicision for you and they dont have to live with it you have to. I feel very guilty but i know right now it is the right thing to do it hurts soooo much and is so hard think twice before u make any dicision. i wish every girl women good luck and a good friend that you can talk to !!!

I cant believe yall would be so judgemental. everyone who thinks its murder well wut the hell about people who got raped or diseases. your being so F-ing judgemental. your trying to take our 1st amendment right away well here's some news: It aint going anywhere. so f$#% that. :-D

I have taken a pregnancy test this morning, as i was feeling sick the past weekend and vomitting in the bathroom, but because it was after a big night, i just thought it was a bad hangover, but then found out it was actually morning sickness...I really want this baby if i am, but the problem is i already have two babies under 3 years old and i love them to death, but financial wise i know we can raise another one, because at the same time my husband and i just only turned 21, but we are doing just fine. Its just the fact of what other people will say about us. Im also scared that i might not be able to get all my kids the things that they will need while growing up because my husband and i have to work and support them. i work so hard now just to get my two kids everything they need, but im lacking the spending time with them which i feel bad about and love it when i have a dayoff or take the kids on a family holiday. Im just confused, i really want to keep this baby even though im only 5weeks, but i dont know whether it is the right choice. i know for a fact that god has blessed us once again and i dont know how i would feel if i aborted this child. if you could help me out with some words of wisdom, pls email me _[removed]_
cheers

I am not replying to this topic to judge anyone, but right off the bat I should mention that I sway to the side of pro-life. However, I see where some girls are coming from when they make the decision to have an abortion. Your just about to start college, maybe your still in high school, maybe your family is really religious and would be so upset if they found out you were pregnant. I don't know what your situation is, all I know is that producing and giving life (whether planned or not) is one of the most amazing things a women has to offer. Before you yourself were even born God had a plan for you. I'm not here to run some religious junk down your throats. But first off I want to let you all know that you are so special and unquiely created. God has a purpose and plan for everyone, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. He is the one who gives life, and I believe life is also His to take. There are always other options then having an abortion. Think for a minute who that newly conceived baby inside of you really is. Maybe they are the person to find a cure for aids, or maybe they are one of those people who just grow up to be an amazing leader and have a heart for everyone. Everyone has different circumstances, but I don't believe we have the right to take away the life of another human being. Scientists have even studied this: A fully grown human has 46 chromosones (this is what makes up our DNA and makes us who we are- our personality, color of hair, what we enjoy to eat). Well a sperm has 23 chromosones and so does an egg...when those to meet and conception happens...boom a 46 chromosone fetus has been created. And you can say to yourself that it's not a human yet, but genetically its been proven that scientist can not tell the difference in DNA between the small fetus (with 46 chromosones) and a fully grown human. Once conception happens, all the plans God has for that person; there soul, mind, and spirit....is placed into them and they have begun the process of growing inside the mothers whom so that they can properly function when they are ready to be born.

I just hope you would consider this if you are thinking about getting an abortion. Every life is valued...the world has made it seem like you only get your vaule from material goods and by the way you look. However, God loves you and made you valuable before even conception happened. He knew how he wanted to make you (and that doesn't just deal with your physical features), He knew what kind of personality he wanted you to have, and where He wanted your life to go. Even if you have to give your baby up for adoption, please at least let it have a chance at life and a chance to fulifll its destiny. You have no idea what that little fetus could end up doing for the world.

urg. im so confused. i dont know what to do. I'm trying to do all my research so i can find a conclusion and figure out what to do, but i'm not getting any closer to finding my answer. There are so many different points of views and i dont know what to do. I have the support of my boyfriend but not from my parents. My mother has threatened to kick me out of the house and to drop me and the baby out of her life forever. It's either loose my baby or loose my mother and my family. What is a girl to do? I've read my stuff on the abortion process and i dont have the heart to do it to my baby. i wish that i was brave enough to be able to do it, but i'm just so scared. i dont want to have any regrets in the future. i need help. i dont know what to do and i dont want my child to have to pay for it. Its almost three months now and time is running short. i cant wait any longer and i still dont know what to do. i've also become pretty attatched to this baby already and i dont want to let it go but i also have to think about what is best for it. im still in high school, and im going to have to juggle school, work, and raising the baby. I want to give it the full attention it deserves. I know i will have the support of my boyfriend and his family... but i feel like i cant do it without my mom's help and support. Advise... anyone? ... Please?? i need to make a decision... and soon... it's growing fast.. and i dont want to make this any harder then it already is... i let the situation get out of control and now im so lost.... =[[