When you finger her do you use one or two fingers and does her vagina feel tight to enter?
Just give things plenty of time because she must love you because as you say if she didn't she would of left you.
If she had been a virgin and never had sex before or only a couple times then that could of been another reason why it was painful for her reconsidering your size.
I don't think she is hiding anything from you maybe just more embarrassed to say because she just wants to please you, the one thing you need to do is stop over thinking things because that Is one thing that will ruin the relationship between you.
Just treat her like I told you the other day to a romantic meal soft lighting and soft music and even some roses if you can afford them, treat her like the princess she is.
You need to stop being so possessive of her what has happened in her past can't be changed if you carry on like this you will lose her for sure, just forget about that and concentrate on your future together
Yes it probably does show in your body language that to are being a bit possessive towards her and as I said if you don't stop it you are going to loose her, nearly every female these days has a sexual past and a lot are also very independent woman that won't put up with a guy who's jealous of there past. Just forget about who has touched her body before you and respect her wish he she doesn't want to talk about what her and her ex did.
As I said a relationship doesn't have to be just about sex.
I am probably the only female responding to this question here. The same happened to me when I first started having sex at 13. My boyfriend is a lot older and was huge.
I think there are a few things you can try.
Try stretching her with your fingers. Make sure she is extremely well lubricated and that cane be if she is really very well aroused and is having an orgasm when you are about to penetrate. You can use lube as well which works extremely well but can get messy. Plenty of oral sex and foreplay will be of immense help. For penetration I guess it is best for the girl to squat and allow penetration as far as she likes and can handle. As she enjoys penetration you can gently push further in so you can penetrate her fully. Please make sure you make her orgasm before you start the process of penetration. She needs to relax and to be less apprehensive. It will work out. My boyfriend was very patient and it took all weekend the first time. He knew I was extremely young and wanted me to have the best first time experience ever. It was wonderful
It's not about keep trying until it gets better its about gaining her confidence in sex before trying again what is going to take time.
Yes your also both right about making her feel relaxed and to make sure she is wet enough as that Is the key factor as well as taking it slow when he penetrates her but until she can get through that barrier of not associating pain during intercourse she isn't going to relax properly, it's like most things if you have a bad experience your reluctant to try it again until you get enough reassurance it will be ok.
I don't know how old you both are now but you was extremely young to be having intercourse specially when your both still developing physically and mentally and having intercourse below the age of 16 is a criminal offence.
it is very important to have an understanding boyfriend. My guy being much older was very patient. He tried penetrating me several times but i was uncomfortable. I enjoyed the orgasms through oral and fingering but when it came to being penetrated it felt like I was going to rip. I was feeling so bad because I knew he wanted to do it and I felt so selfish for enjoying it without him and he was making me enjoy it by oral and rubbing my clitoris.
I had a huge orgasm and that enabled him penetrate me.
It wasn't as if it was not enjoyable. It was extremely enjoyable but I was also uncomfortable. It was all new to me. It was something I had never done. I was scared and anxious and wanting to make sure I dont screw up. There were so many mixed emotions.
Contrary to what others may think, it is not wrong to have sex at such an early age as long as the guy is not abusive. This is not rape as some may think. This was consensual. I agreed too even though I may have been young.
Remember nature has deemed it okay for me to have sex at 13ish. My instincts brought me to have sex. I trust nature NOT man made laws.
You did it at 11. I was turning 13. My bf was much much older than me. Yes he wanted sex. So did I. Guys our age want sex too. So how is it bad when the older guy wants sex. Doesnt make sense to me.
So please dont regret and dont let people make you feel guilty or make you regret your beautiful first experience.
When you say you were used, you are suggesting that somehow you had no brains. I dont think that is true. Yes there is an element of pressure to do it BUT we also had the opportunity to say no but we did it and enjoyed it a lot. Nothing bad about it