What do guys think about this?(labia minora)

I am a woman with the same exact physical trait.  I have never had any issue with any man seeing it as unattractive or a turn off, it is a sexual non-issue.  I do however occassionally have problems with certain clothing or certain types of physical exercise.  I've spoken with my OBGYN about it and discussed surgery but thus far I haven't found it to be necessary.  

My advice is this...love your body, love your sexuality.  Don't let some porn star version of what the "ideal" vulva looks like hinder you and your physical expression of love, lust and passion.   Your sexuality belongs to you and you alone.  Anyone who would judge you harshly for such a common and superficial trait isn't worth your time and certainly isn't worth sharing your sexuality with (plus they probably have "issues" that you're better off avoiding.)  In my experience, a kind and emotionally healthy man is going to be having too much fun to even notice until you point it out.  Enjoy!

hey pinkgem!! don't worry about the ignorant people that are on here and in the world... Most men and women don't know the basics of a vagina. They have myth of how things need to be and if its different a certain slang is associated with it. Most have underdeveloped Labia minora. There are men that wish to be with a woman with one. They are on the hunt for a woman that has them... just like me. I wish I knew when I meet a woman what she has or not... sad but true. 

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hello there I am a 17 year old girl and I have the same problem with all of you but since.. I started masturbating. I was not born with big labia, but when I got like 12 years old I started masturbating and since then I do that almost everyday.. Does anyone know if masturbation caused that "problem" ? And by the way I let guys to touch me down there but no one of them told me anything,never, I didn't mention it of course but they seemed like nothing happened and nothing weird had been seen,but it was always in the dark. I'm looking forward for replies thank you!

I know this is an old post, but I have to respond. The idea that the labia minora have no feelings except for pain is completely ludicrous! That is totally wrong and illogical. Why would evolution/ mother nature/ God/ whatever, design that area of the body to have a part that ONLY feels pain?? Why would a part that is touched, rubbed, and ground up against during sex only be able to feel pain? That's crazy, and just NOT TRUE. If you feel only pain when some part of your skin or body is touched, something is wrong.

The entire vulva is full of sensitive nerve endings, not just the clitoris (although obviously the clitoris has the most densely packed concentration of nerve endings by far). Cutting off or into the labia CUTS those nerve endings, and cutting nerve endings anywhere in the body absolutely can lead to issues with pain and sensation. For a doctor to say otherwise is misleading and borderline malpractice, in my eyes. Also, how can there not be loss of sensation if you just cut off some sensitive tissue? Didn't you just REDUCE the amount of tissue that feels sensation?

the larger the labia minora the better. Symmetry is not necessary, just large lips.

As a woman hits puberty, her labia minora grow and often darken in colour. This occurs regardless of masturbation.

If you were a man this would be the equivalent of having lopsided balls. My husband happens to have those and I could care less (from my experience most women don’t care either). I happen to have a fairly large lips down there and he loves them. He would literally snorkel all day long if I would let him, but alas we have a lot of other things to accomplish in life.

Go date and enjoy sex safely and do not worry about the unique beauty of your pretty peony!

Not as bad as dark or large labia, but definitely grounds for dismissal.