WHAT IS REALLY GAY?? A guy having a relationship with someone of the same sex? Or a guy having sex with someone of the same gender (or with another guy?)
It's more than a relationship. It's in your brain - you don't find females sexually attractive - you just know that being with a male is the only one for you and nothing will change you or that.
Now, that being said, I am a bisexual female and I am very attracted to both men and women. But I've only ever had relationships with men, but I am fully aware of my attraction to women as well, so I do consider myself bisexual.
I cannot tell you whether or not you are gay, or bisexual, because only you can answer that for yourself. But how you describe your attractions, my best guest would be that you are indeed bisexual. But like I said, only you and your body know for sure.
I would say that whether you are “gay” or not is a matter of how you identify yourself – lots of people experiment with same-sex contact without actually being gay. If you were exclusively interested in other guys, you might consider yourself gay, but it sounds like you just have some exploration to do. Whatever you try, be sure to practice safe sex (i.e., cover up). To keep yourself in good shape, make sure to practice good hygiene, and you might consider a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to maintain a smooth, supple appearance
I have to agree with what you said I am a male bisexual have only had sex with girls but preffer boys not easy but to put a point on what I would say is. If you like to be with male friends it does not mean you are gay its your prefferance if you want to have sex with a guy and not with a girl then yes you are probably gay I consider myself gay because of how I feel but in reality I'm a hetrosexual bisexual man never had sex with a guy even though I hope one day I will
It is a matter of emotional feelings. I can have sex with either, but I want to be emotionally involved with a guy. When sex with a girl is over, then I'm done. There is no need to go back and carry on a relationship. Today some guys come out earlier than they used to, but the computer put everything available anytime you want it. Gay porn is sex, and guys get turned on by sex. It doesn't mean your gay. If you think about meeting or being with someone in gay porn, then you may be gay or bi. Watch the movie Kinsey, he was the first person to do studies on human sexuality. He says there is a scale from one to ten. And one end of the scale being straight and the other gay, there is a lot of space in between that people fit into. So don't try and put a Label on it. Think about where you fall on the scale. You can love a person without being sexual. The difference is which one do you care about loving you back. If you watch the movie and your favorite scene is the one with Chris O'Donnel naked, then you might be gay.
I am speaking from personal experience. TURN OFF THE PORN!!!!!! Porn affects your mind and leaves images that last for a LONG TIME. Also don't think you are homosexual because of these thoughts. You are only gay when you act on your feelings. Keep this in mind... You have a choice of whether or not you are homosexual. Ask yourself this... Is a gay person straight if he thinks about girls?
Well, I'm gay, and I have herosexual tendencies, but I'm still gay. You're most likely the opposite of me.
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I don't think that you are gay, but you might identify as bi. Let me explain from my own personal experience. I am gay, but when I was your age being gay was much more difficult and was not as widely accepted as it is now. I had sex with women and had girlfriends and I was even married. However, I always knew that I was gay probably from puberty. Sex is just sex and guys can be turned on by both men and women. You mentioned being in love once. How did that feel for you? You probably had butterflies in your stomach when you were around the girl, and your connection was not strictly physical, you also had an emotional connection. I get that same feeling around guys and don't get that from women. If you are physically attracted to guys, but have no interest in them emotionally, then I would say that you are more than likely straight. Just having sex with another guy does not mean that you are gay, lots of guys have sex with other guys, but are completely straight. Also wanted to comment on the anal stimulation. Just because you enjoy that does not mean you are gay either. The prostate gland is stimulated through the anus and can be very pleasurable. I don't really get into that much, but lost of straight guys have their girl stimulate through anal play. Just relax and enjoy sex. As you get older you will definitely identify as gay, straight, or bi. Who really cares one way or the other.
Stop worrying about what label to put on yourself and just go with what feels good. Sooner or later you will find what you like: girls, boys or both. Whatever it is is what you are: straight, gay or bi. And you can have a lot of fun on the way ;-)