what losing your virginity at fourteen does to you.

I have found myself in your situation I'm in it right now.. But I'm not letting go of the one I first lost it to. Wait wait wait. That's all I can tell you. Wait wait. Let him Marty you first I know it's hard and you have already lost it but you will be happier if you wait.

I'm forteen and gay I lost my virginity a month ago and I'm fine about it doesn't need any justiforcation I'm happy with who I am I broke up with them the week after not because of that I just didn't like him and I don't feel like sex is that special just something you do to show people what they mean to you and how you feel like a card or a text just more sweaty you may not agree with me but you can't feel bad about doing something like that that is something to be ashamed of not having sex be who you are bruises and all

You over check you need to calm down go to the doctor if your worried but don't worry

I'm 14 and I lost my virginity too but I feel the same way and the only reason you feel bad is because u feel like there's a part of you missing and you can't talk about it because it makes u feel less of a person but its better to talk about to someone then to not

Hey, I'm 14 and still am a virgin but I felt as if I'm inspired with your story. I don't personally know you but all that remorse and guilt that's eating you up isn't a bad thing. It makes you good actually because you know your mistakes. When you are planning to bring this up to your parents, depending on their personalities or religion they would never hate you. Sure they be heartbroken but not at the fact that you've have sex at a young age but at the fact that you haven't been honest with them. So now is that time to be honest tell them everything you just wrote to use, make them understand your situation. Admit your mistakes, it's not a bad thing. If it goes down hill just know that you were brave to speak out and sure they are your parents they'll soon enough come with the terms. If they understand (which I know they would) tell them how you know the boy you are currently dating that your ready, or if your not completely up to you. You mentioned you love him and is special to you. So if you are not ready he would understand as well just like he did those months ago. Good luck although I know you won't need it! :)

You didn't have consensual sex when you were 14. If you barely remember most of it and he was sober. He took advantage of the fact you were drunk. That's not okay.

I'm fourteen at the moment and lost my virginity the other day.. I wasn't in a relationship with this boy,(he's fifteen) and I regret my decision because we did it unprotected as it was unplanned.. and the boy I did it with does drugs and had already had sex with other girls, I haven't told my parents because I'm so scared there reaction but I've told a few close friends....

well you made a wrong choice with the guy you chose. Doesnt mean that sex at 14 is bad. Sex is a normal and instinctive aspect of you and your needs. Sex at 14 is NOT wrong but you need to choose wisely, the guy you have sex with. SIMPLE!!!

Did it Hurt??

why would it hurt?? Geez if you are wet enough or you have used enough lube it DOESN'T hurt. Who ever told you sex for the first time hurts? It may hurt because you are not aroused enough or are nervous and anxious because of all the c**p you and society, parents and do gooders tell you and scare you. Sex is fun and never hurts. It is enjoyable if you are properly aroused, lubricated and relaxed. Have fun. Sex at 14 is NOT wrong. Choose the right partner. Age is immaterial as long as you are discreet.

ur a hoe

i had this friend, she lost her virginity at 13. she started drinking and sneaking out. She was a force to be reckoned with, crazy, but not yet off the charts. we became best friends in early 8th grade, and by October i was sending nudes photos because it made me seem cool to her. My name was getting around a little, but not like hers was. She lost her virginity in November that year. I started not to care what other people thought because I had this best friend who thought I was so cool. In December I decided to stop sending nudes, by January I smoked weed for the first time. By February I did it three times, and in late February I went over to my friend's house. This guy was her neighbor, and he was so interested in my best friend. So we were hanging out with him and we all three go back to his place. His parents were out. We abt had a three some until my friend confessed she had already had sex two times that week so she was "hurting" I hadn't gone through with it yet. Honestly I just did it to win her over. An hour later I felt terrible. It hit me what I had done. I couldn't tell anyone. No one knew. Only this friend and the guy. I later found out the guy I had lunch w/ my brother at the high school. I was so scared he had told him. Also after I had done it, I retracted from my friend. I felt torn. I blamed her some. I blamed myself the most. I couldn't talk to anyone. I still can't talk to anyone about it. I feel like I'm living a lie. My friend went and told everyone and I denied it so hard. I had always been this girl who people looked up to. so no one really believed it. I was good at lying too. That's why no one ever knew how bad I was hurting, how bad I was drowning. I was sinking, and no one noticed. I'm realizing right now I'm talking in past tense. I still feel guilt for it and shame, but I've never talked about it like this. It's sorta a relief. I was so lost and depressed. So numb. It got to the point where I felt nothing at all but everything at the same time. I'm still recovering and trying to run away from the past. I'm just taking it one day at a time.

Were you pregnant?

That sounds like my story... but now I am 23... reunions are fun

whats wrong with masturbation and why are you so scared that someone will find out? masturbation is so very normal and so commonly practised at your age and even earlier. I started masturbating when I was 10 and used to do it a lot. I even used things inside me and experimented a lot. It was fun and I could make myself orgasm all the time. Just be comfortable with your sexuality and enjoy masturbation. You dont have to feel ashamed of something normal.