I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

psionus · Newbie Joined: 28 Oct 2006 Posts: 3

Please help me, for i have tried everything i can think of without going to a doctor!!! For the past 3 months i have been phyically and mentally ill and im not sure why. The biggest symptom of all of this is that when im with my girlfriend whom i love with all my heart, i feel phyically sick to my stomach, and because of this i start thinking all kinds things like maybe i don't love her, or maybe im gay or something. These thought i more often then not I can't control and they will ravage me for hours. Sometimes i get these thoughts when i think about her or talk on the phone with her too, and i don't understand why. It's not just her though, sometimes i feel like this when im alone, or when im at work, and im not sure if its because i constantly think about her or bring her into my thoughts to try and show myself it just isn't her and its something else in my life causing it or what. Thing is though sometimes i feel sick around her, sometimes i don't, sometimes i feel more sick when im alone or at work and i feel fine around her. Lastly the only other symptom i seem to be having is regardless of wether im around her or not i haven't eaten well in 3 months either as food makes me nauseous when eating it sometimes and the thought of eating is an unpleasant one. I love my girlfriend with everything that i am and am willing to do anything (except give her up) to feel better...please if there is anyone out there who has been in my shoes or knows anything, your wisdom would be priceless. Thanks =)

Natalia · Supporter Joined: 27 Mar 2006 Posts: 359

If your feelings are sso strong like it seems ....from reading your post.....I would see a psychiatrist If I were you and have a little talk with a professional who may help you deal and understand your feelings.

There is nothing wrong with seeing a psychiatrist, i did it when I had problems with grief and when my mother started suffering from depression.

psionus · Newbie Joined: 28 Oct 2006 Posts: 3

I haven't got any health insurance though until the beginning of the year and even then i can only afford basic health car and prescriptions...unfortunatly mental health isn't covered =( I have been doing alot of research though and i think it might be some kind of anxiety, do you think that is a possibility?

Gapz · Newbie Joined: 20 Nov 2006 Posts: 1

psionus, i had the same problem as you! i had a year long relashionship last year with my girlfriend that i loved so much, most times when i thought of my heri felt very ill, when i was going to visit her i felt so sick, i loved her very much i couldnt understand what was wrong, i think its all in the mind, i sat and thought about other things during my sick times, and i was cured for a short while, when i knew we were going to have sex i felt sick again, but during sex i was completly normal, like i said, its all in the mind, try concentrate on other things for short periods of time, keep yourself busy. hope this helps!

Cheers
Gapz

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im quite young. only 17. but i sometimes feel like this as well. ive been with my girlfriend for just a little over 4 months (an insanely short time), but ive fallen completely in love with her. But i feel sick alot of the time. Its been this way for a little over a month now, and i dont know how serious you could take my advice, considering my age, but i came to the conclusion that im new to all this. ive been in love, or so i thought, before, but this is really different. im so worried about hurting her feelings, or pushing her away from me, or doing anything wrong. Its insane. I shouldn't be derpressed over these things, but i cant help it. I love her with all my heart, and want to be with her for the rest of my life. Its a very startling thought. I hope this helps

beglobal · Newbie Joined: 07 Dec 2006 Posts: 2

How long have you been dating her????? do you remember anything special or if something happened before you started feeling sick with her??????? have you tried being with some other girl to see if you feel the same things????????

Guest · Guest

my ex girlfriend [whom i love with all my heart and she loved me too] used to have the same problem when she was near me.. it started after the first month of our relationship.
but she couldnt deal with it so...we are still close friends and things are weird cuz she says she loves me, but she doesnt want to hurt me. i think that's very similar to what the other guy said here.
when we get to solve it ill let you know.
i think it has something to do with commitment and being immature..she is 17 and im 19.
who knows.
see if you can get analyzed or something like that.

good luck.

brikka · Newbie Joined: 31 Dec 2006 Posts: 2

you'll be alright, it's just a faze.

you just have to come to some understandings with yourself, who you are what you want etc. and whatever your descisions are, you have to accept them.

i personally don't think psychologists are much of any helpers for anything, what they gonna do prescribe you a bunch of medication and **** up your head?

be strong, confident, if you love her it's ok, you probably feel a little uneasy, and if its a deep relationship you might get overwhealmed at some things, but that's probably because your not used to it.

remember keep your head up and be confident, its all in you.

Jason04 · Newbie Joined: 03 Mar 2007 Posts: 1

Dude i have the exact same thing you have!...except i couldnt handle it anymore and i broke up with my girlfriend about 2 months ago...ive tried to blame it on how much i work and that i dont eat well seeing as at the time i was... but recently i havent been working as much and eat whenever...and i rarely get it when im by myself... but i still get that queasy feeling when i think about her or am around her..and its horrible because i want to be with her so bad but i just cant get over this stupid feeling...sometimes its smells that trigger it...i can just sit there and if shed walk by id catch a wiff and my stomach would start turning....it sounds horrible but i know exactly how youre feeling...i dont know what it is and all i want more than anything is relief...it sucks sooo much knowing that if you could youd spend all your time around them and be there for them but you phisically cant because of something so stupid...i need it to know what it is...and i need it to go away

psionus · Newbie Joined: 28 Oct 2006 Posts: 3

i know what you mean bro...i hate the fact that you are going through the same thing as i but its sorta good to know im not alone...thanks for the post =)

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