I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

I just started having those exact same feelings and it feels awful. Yes distracting yourself helps but it’s not a permanent solution. I’ve found that re-obsessing over my girlfriend helps. Before I started getting those feelings, we had just talked about marriage and I think it gave me anxiety even though I’ve wanted to marry her for a while. I’ve been trying my best to talk to her like we always have because it allows me to obsess over her again and be excited about marriage or wherever our relationship takes us. I hope this helps.

Thank you som much dude, I'm 14 and I've had sexual interactions before and never got nervous. I recently started dating a girl who likes to be the dominant one and when I think of her, and get nauseous I just use your advice. It helps so much, seriously thanks alot.

I had the exact same problem when I was with my now ex girlfriend. We were together for 7 months and after this time I started to get sick feelings when I was around her. I loved her with every part of my being but I didn't understand how I felt so ill everytime I was with her. I have acid reflux so when my girlfriend asked me why I'd always feel sick I'd blame that. About 11 months in she broke up with me and to this day I still kinda love her. But looking back at the only pictures and messages I had with her it makes me still feel sick.

Didn’t anyone find out what this?

I've felt this too, you arent alone. Been involved with my gf for almost a year now, we didnt start dating though till after 7 months of talking, fighting eachother out before we knew what we were getting into, it only started happening after not seeing her for 2 months because of corona. just recently we were sleeping together and I felt so sick that I actually had to go to the bathroom and throw up, she felt so bad but I told her it was okay. It's just an overwhelming feeling, ever heard of the term "butterflies"? Its a normal thing and sometimes when you feel so close to someone, butterflies can even make you sick. I hope this helped but trust me theres nothing wrong with it, butterflies dont have to go away but if you want them to I think the more time you spend with her the better itll be

I've felt this too, you arent alone. Been involved with my gf for almost a year now, we didnt start dating though till after 7 months of talking, fighting eachother out before we knew what we were getting into, it only started happening after not seeing her for 2 months because of corona. just recently we were sleeping together and I felt so sick that I actually had to go to the bathroom and throw up, she felt so bad but I told her it was okay. It's just an overwhelming feeling, ever heard of the term "butterflies"? Its a normal thing and sometimes when you feel so close to someone, butterflies can even make you sick. I hope this helped but trust me theres nothing wrong with it, butterflies dont have to go away but if you want them to I think the more time you spend with her the better itll be

My girlfriend of 1 year and 9 months broke up at 1 year and 8months. Ever since we have got back together I have self diagnosed myself with developing anxiety. I get so anxious/nervous/sick to my stomach/horrible butterflies everytime I’m with here and I don’t know what or why this is. I love her so much and know that I want to stay in this relationship but everytime I’m with her I feel this way and even more so when we start to be intimate. She was the one who broke up with me so I have also been thinking that maybe I’m just still very heart broken and need time to heal. I feel like I have jumped back into the relationship trying to act like nothing happened. I also have just started Acutane/isotropin acne medicine and don’t know if that could Be causing any of these symptoms. please help I need this to go away.

I struggle with this issue also. I don’t understand it and it is very terrible. i almost dated my girlfriend for a year. And got sick one time in the beginning of the relationship for a few months I could not eat a healthy amount. And after that I’m as fine. We broke up and got back together and I felt preaty good for the most part after we got back together. We took a break from ah hung out for a long time from the carona virus. And after that we started hanging out a lot again and I got super sick when I would go visit her or if she was coming over to my house. I vomited 2 times in 3 days. And felt sick. Than I broke up with her. It will give u some instant relief. But it has been two weeks since we have been broken up and I saw her today and I still didn’t feel like eating. It is super sad. But try not to break up

Hi everyone, Glad I found this page, that I found other people with similar problems. I don't want to give advice, but I do want to share my journey with you all. It might shed some light on the issue for someone else. When I was about 9, my parents split up, and I was forced to move to a school system where my peers were pretty violent and abusive on a regular basis. A few years went by, and we finally moved out of that school system. By that time, I developed a strong attachment to my mom, so much so that I would get nauseous anytime she left for the weekend. When she came back, I'd be fine. After a few more years and a few more moves, life felt more secure, and I never felt the nausea again in this circumstance. Years went by. I had trouble with relationships in high school, with nothing ever really clicking. College comes along, and things got interesting. Most of my "relationships" were one night stands. One relationship lasted a few weeks and ultimately ended with me telling her that I felt empty inside, despite feeling strong sexual attraction. Then I met someone else a few months later and hooked up with her early on in the relationship. Immediately, something seemed off: it was like I had a barrier in my head, something that stopped me from feeling certain feelings that should've been there. Not long after that, I became really down about the relationship - almost breaking up with her. Instead of listening to what my body was telling me, I push through it. We stayed together for several years, and it was turbulent: yes, I THOUGHT I loved her very much, and part of me certainly did; but I also had raging outbursts regularly directed at inanimate objects, and we sent through several more occasions where I nearly broke up with her. Mind you, as the relationship went on, my nausea grew more intense. First, started out just in the morning. Then it would stay with me all day. Then it became an all day, every day, affair. Finally, it got to the point of the most intense abdominal cramping I've ever had, so I went to the hospital - only for the doc to tell me it was GERD. Four years after we started seeing each other, we broke up. We had done so much together, experienced so much together. We were attached at the hip. So, as you can imagine, this was the second most traumatic thing I'd experienced in my life. Suddenly, all of my security and safety was gone. Just like when I was younger. My nausea never left me fully. It calmed down after the relationship ended, but it's been with me ever since. Always coming back with great intensity around someone I'm attracted to. I've also been severely depressed ever since that break up. I've tried almost everything: meditation, which caused heart issues and disorientation; psychotherapy, talk therapy, EMDR, hypnosis, CBT - all without any significant or lasting impact. Antidepressants helped with the nausea, but like with the meditation, they caused hallucinations, heart issues, and disorientation. Psychedelics on my own didn't help... But they gave me insight. After doing a boat load of research into nausea (as part of a medical diagnosis, Functional Dyspepsia) and the endocrine and central nervous systems (along with coming to terms with my past chronic traumas), it became clear to me that the issues of my past were still with me and causing some very distinct physiological health problems. Imbalances in the endocrine system - especially with serotonin - can cause the vegas nerve (the nerve going from the back of the head, down the spine) to transmit improperly and further cause neurotransmitter problems in the gut. The relationship also seems to work the reverse, too, and probably at the same time. All in all, I came to the conclusion that my mind was broken and affecting my gut and my head. That's what I think ultimately happened: my mind was broken when I was younger, I became attached to the only person who seemed to provide any safety for me, I got into a relationship with someone, that relationship secrewed with my original attachment, I formed a new attachment with someone who couldn't provide that safety in my mind, and everything's been messed up ever since. That's my story and insights into my own issue. Maybe it's relatable. Maybe it'll give someone some much needed insight. Thanks for listening. Peace be with you all. Note: I'm not advocating or advising the use of any substance. Please be careful when taking antidepressants or psychedelics. Never take them together. Always dig into the available info before taking anything.

What happened? I’m suffering from this bad

I need to know what happened please tell me how you dealt with it I’m in the same place

I've been in this situation when I was young and it followed me from girlfriend to girlfriend. The way I got over it was to channel my thought on other things like career, sport, friends anything that made me happy and especially positive. Think of it like this, its like a small tree starting to grow. The small tree is your worries of getting sick and feeling sick. You blame everything from a stomach ulcer to what if you die from this. Then the tree starts growing branches, these branches are other worries that are created from this main worry. IE what if I get sick around her, what if I can't eat around her, what if I can't have a relationship with anyone because I will feel like getting sick and all the other thought that go on in your head. These are called negative thoughts. You will have other relationships and you will have no problems with eating around them just at this moment in time you are nervous around this particular person. Be positive, look for other things in your life to focus on and do not put that person so high up on your priority list. You have to start looking after you and loving yourself. If you can look at the person as a friend a good friend and just enjoy their company. Learn to be relaxed around them and read up about mediation and breeding techniques, these are very important. Your health is your wealth and you are the most important person to you so relax and love yourself. If you can't get over this with this person there are plenty more fish in the sea. Alway start a relationship as a friend so as you are more comfortable with the relationship. At the moment you are having anxiety learn up about anxiety as one third of the population suffer from this. It is very easy to cure as I did by reading up and educating yourself on all aspects of anxiety. I'm nearly 50 and was married for 17 years I am now in a relationship for the past 4 years and yes I was very nervous when going out on the first few dates with my partner but again I relaxed, did my breath techniques and slowly developed the relationship. I love the woman but she is not on the top of my priority list. Myself and my three Sons are. Hope this helps. Emmet

Are you still with her ?

To everyone on this list… the issue is a hormone called cortisol. Your body produces it when you are under stress. It causes your arteries to constrict, and stops your normal digestion activities so the body can prepare to defend itself. In this case, being in love with someone is eustress (good stress) but your body is reacting strongly in the same manner. It is “love sickness”. The good news is, you are feeling this way because you really like the person in your life, The bad news is you like them so much it is giving you a stomach ache. There is nothing wrong with you or them, it is just your body being so excited about them it is dumping a cocktail of hormones into your system in response to them. These hormones (norepinephrine, oxytocin, serotonin, etc.) make you feel high, foggy, happy, sick… welcome to the physio-chemical side of love. I wish I knew this when I was younger. I had such a hard time with relationships because that sick meant something was wrong with what I was doing, which I superstitiously interpreted in a bunch of ridiculous ways, when in fact it is all normal, your body is just supercharging itself when you are around this person. For me, meditation/mindfulness is helpful, since it can ground my thoughts, reduce my stress and my churning stomach, and bring me to focus on the present. Both the time, and the gift that is in front of me. Have fun loving your person. There is nothing wrong with you.

It may have nothing to do with your girlfriend but something physical like a slow brewing ulcer or some other type of stomach issue.... that gets aggravated by being either excited or anxious.... anxiety medication may help whatever it is as well... See a doctor.