I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

I just shortened your post a bit. But. Can I just say that what you describe is exactly what I do? When that last question comes up in my mind (ie Am I going to get sick?), I'm done! I too think it is a fear of the unexperienced and probably of commitment. It is weird, but it can become better. I wrote a post some time ago and I can honestly say that reading all posts (and especially yours!!!) has made me feel a lot better.How thankful I am that this post is here. And I thought I was alone with that problem.

wow, thankyou everyone, knowing that im not the only one somehow makes it a little better. ive got a HUGE crush on this girl, a girl who i used to be fine around, until i realised i liked her, then everything changed, i began to feel physically sick whenever im around her or talking to her on the phone, to a point where i have actually been sick a few times simply because i had a converstion with her on the phone! i felt like a complete idiot, i think she might like me, which is the annoying thing, i feel i have to tell her that i like her soon, before i lose my chance! ive always had anxiety and social issues, where i feel ill and am somethimes sick when out or about to go out, its nice to give it a name now, 'agoraphobia' it seems to make sense now, i wish everybody on this page and with the same problem the best of luck and thankyou all!

Hey, I'm 19 and madly in love, she means the world to me. whenever we hang out or are around other people things are great, some of our greatest moments are in a cinema (not sex tho), but when the time comes to say goodbye, or the chance to finally make love with her arises i get the worst sick feeling, which hav actualy caused me to throw up on numerous occasion (one time in the taxi to hers lol), so we havent reached that level yet. We've discussed the possibility that its me being nervous, but i mainly use the excuse that i felt sick earlier, hence why i wasn't eating (i also get loss of apetiite cos im worried ill spew). Im 100% sure its not food or illness, cos i never feel fully sick, just like im gonna spew. After reading some responses by others i plan to try n distract myself if im feeling sick, one reply i read raised the point that he felt sick when the chance to have sex came up, but when he actually had it he felt fine. so next chance i plan to just try to distract myself, but my hopes arent high. if anyone has any ideas (that isn't psychologist or doctors) please let me know.. :/ Thanks R

I was in the same position as all of you. It really sucks. You feel fine, but the minute that you are about to be with her for the day/night your stomach turns, start to sweat, and feel like you are about to be sick. I have the perfect solution. It doesn't require any medicine. More than likely it's anxiety. Here it is..... --Just tell her, be blunt with her. If she loves you she will understand. It's what love does to you. It makes you nervous and makes you worry about doing something wrong or saying something that will make her angry with you. She's not going to think you're stupid, she will appreciate that you are being honest and it will let her know that you care about her, a lot-- Telling her this will take all the weight off your shoulders and take the anxiety away. Everything I just told you is what I did. Trust me, it works, and if any of you try this you'll see the feeling of relief that you get.

Guys. Seriously, are you all so dim? You are LOVE sick! Its that nervous feeling that churns your stomach, where you lose your appetite and get huge butterflies replacing it. You are not ill, you are just deeply in love :-)

ok i think i have found the solution to all of our sick problems. i have had this feeling with every girl i have ever gone out with and it has made me given up on them. well the girl i am with right now i absolutly love her with all i have in my heart and couldnt imagine doing that to her. so i have battling with it for two weeks. i feel nasious all day like i am hella nervous. during the first week this made me go crazy and i actually almost broke up with my girlfriend because of it which probably would have made me wanna end my life also. well i have had alot of family help and im still batlling with it but its getting much better. this feeling u cant think of why its happening because it will drive u to a decision u dont wanna do well this is the secret to my success. this feeling came because u had gotten bored with ur girlfriende with out knowing it and its usually triggered by something new in ur life like school or a ex or a girl u found attractive. when we are in love they are the only thing they can think about and thats called a honeymoon stage because every one else is oblivious to us and after we come out of that stage we all of a sudden find our girlfriends boring when we arent with them and that makes u nacious because now it makes u think you gotta break up with them because its no longer exciting. this is just down time you guys and it will get more exciting. well thats reality you guys and all of a sudden our girlfriends arent the only things in our life. we love the honeymoon stage because its full of excitement when u r with her and love and caring well when that ends we think that we had lost the love and caring and the need to have her constantly with you but it is still there hence getting mad when u see her with another guy and stuff like that. i have been in the honeymoon stage for a year you guys and getting out of that hit me hard. i am still with the love of my life and its getting better so dont think this feeling wont go away. it does and this is the first time i have actually tried tried to get through it so i did it first try u guys its kinda hard because it is all in your head the feelings and needs if u believe you can get through it u will. i wissh all of the luck to you guys and if u want more info here is my email. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed ** Please read our Terms of Use

I went through the same thing. I had been going out with my boyfriend for a little over a year and I loved him very much, but during the last month or so I kept getting this awful feeling in my stomach when we talked or I thought about him. At first it came in waves but eventually it was constant. I couldn't take it anymore and I broke up with him. We are still friends but whenever I talk to him for awhile or think about him I still get that feeling. I'm hoping the feeling will eventually go away and we can try again but I can't be with him with that feeling. The fact that I'm fifteen might also be an issue. I'm just glad I'm not alone :-)

I have the same feeling about this guy, except the problem is that we aren't even dating! We had been hooking up for a while and I told him I didn't want to be "friends with benefits" so he had to choose between dating or just being friends. Of course, being the guy that he is, he is afraid of commitment and doesn't want to be tied down with anyone so he chose just being friends. This broke my heart more than I ever thought it would and now whenever I think about him or talk to him or talk about him I feel sick to my stomach. Sometimes I even throw up or start to gag. It's the most awful feeling. I've lost my appetite completely and have lost 10 pounds in the last week or so. Sometimes the sickness goes away, but most of the time it completely takes over my life. I wish there was some easy fix but so far nothing has helped me.

i feel the same too. an so does the person im seeing, its a kind of panic, like your just about to sit an exam. i think i have figured it out.. i think its that you love the person sooo much, that you cant understand it. and its excitement that your feelig not sickness. i think its love :-D

Its weird because I get that feeling with everyone single person I date be it a girl or a boy. And i have recently been in a relationship with this guy that is 5 years older than me; I'm 19 and I love him to death. It was quick and I feel the feeling coming but it hasnt yet and I dont want to worry for nothing if it isnt going to happen but I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I just dont know what to do because I feel this feeling coming and I dont know how to keep it at bay. The reason all my other relationships has ended was because of that. I broke up with every person I have ever been in a relationship with.... And I dont want to be the cause of he end of the rest of my love life. Someone please help me or email me at ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed ** Please read our Terms of Use :?

Im 23 years old now and first got the feeling of nausea (in the pit of my stomach), and the increasing inability to sleep/relax about 5 years ago when i was in my first 'serious' relationship. You try and put it out of your head but then the thought of her pops in and that 'dreaded' feeling returns. I had to end things at the time because of this which i do regret doing. I feel as though if i'd have shared all of this with her, things would slowly get better (a problem shared is a problem halved etc). So anyway, in the last few weeks i have been seeing a new girl (who ive been crazy about for quite a while). We spent the night together 3 days ago which was great but the next day i felt worse than ever and had to go to the Doctors the following Monday to see if there was anything that can be done to help me. He prescribes some mild 'beta-blockers' to try and help relax me a bit but so far i find no difference. I am going to try and explain to this girl how i feel when i get close to her so its is out in the open, and hopefully things may bet better. So glad i found this forum, i thought i was the only one who felt like this, especially when you're out with frineds and the seemingly have no problem with starting relationships etc. Thanks.

hey you guys i'm the guy that talked about the honey moon stage and everything. i still stand by it i'm still dealing with the feeling its alot alot better though. umm i just wanna tell you guys that you can beat it i know the feeling is just terrible that we get with that special somebody and i think that our relationships with those girls change from being inlove to a friendship loove that people feel when they get married. like we no longer feel that immense need to be with that girl and kiss her and hold her and look at her but it turned into a best friend relationship. this isnt bad it happens to every one and i think because we have never tried to get by it that we are afraid because it is new to us and we are afraid. i hope you all dont make mistakes with your girlfriends because those feelings is becausee your relationships became much more mature and we dont know how to deal with it. if you guys dont take control of it now you never will and it will cause you to be single forever. seriously you guys i thought when i first got the feeling that i was loosing feelings for her and that was a way for my mind to say i'm doin something bad by staying with her but then i thought about it. my girlfriend you guys seriously is perfect to me we have only got in one fight after a year of us going out and it wasnt that bad. she literally is the girl i dreamt about. if u guys have questions email me its fppinc at rocketmail. com at is suppose to be that at sign but it wont show it if i do. lol oh and u guys i am still trying to tie up loose ends in this feeling and i was woundering if you guys make alot of future plans with these girls like living together and stuff? i have another thought what it might be and that is that we make this whole image of us together in the future in our heads and that we like it so much that it makes us blind to what they are actually like and we want those things to happen so bad and because we arent doin it right away its causin the feeling because it is not perfect. its just a thought i red on a post on a different site. love peace and happieness to all of you i know what you are going through trust me i have had it bad.

srry you guys my email is ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private e-mails not allowed ** Please read our Terms of Use not fppinc. lol oh and i would also like to add that its not us getting bored with our girlfriends its us needing to do more than just to look at her and touch her.

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Hey guys. i have exactly the same problem as all of you. I love my girlfriend so much. We've only been together 4 months, except i know she's absolutely perfect for me.... all this started about 2 months ago now though, when i started seeing her as more than a friend... I'd go see her and feel absolutely terrible, and sometimes it would even get to the extent where i would vomit. I couldn't eat properly, concentrate, it led to serious periods of depression. I would have thoughts afterward doubting myself even though i know i love her. negative thoughts would overtake me and i'd be convinced they were true. I saw a psychologist and to be honest, she was absolutely useless. She reffered me to a doctor for anti-depressants, which i've been on for 2 months or so.. now i don't get as anxious, but i still have thoughts that seem to rip apart my mind.. No-one understands me, and im so glad i found this post because i love my girlfriend and i never want to lose her..