I feel sick when im near my girlfriend...why?

I'd like an answer to this as well.....I have the same issue of feeling sick to my stomach while around my girlfriend and I can't figure out why. Her scent isn't unpleasant or anything. Perhaps I'm allergic to her conditioner or my body doesnt agree with her pheromones or something....

have this issue too. and i am so thankful for having found this thread, really, ive been searching a lot, and always just found "oh well, it will go away" but nobody who ever had the same problem. have messed many relationships up because of that, but oh well, i believe in being able to fight this problem! if any of you who first posted has "gotten rid" of their problems with this, please tell us how ;-)

i get the same problem,i thought i was just weird so its nice to know there are other people out there with the same problem.i always get like this around guys just get really nervous and sometimes throw up,its quite embaressing really cuz have to make up stupid excuses and guys think i dont like them because i back off abit, only cause i feel ill around them and who wants to feel like that. its no win situation u want to be with them and you don't because you feel so ill. i found once i got to know the guy in the relationship this anxiety would settle down but i have had some breakups from having anxiety around them and have then had anxiety for a while after from the breakup.ive now been single for 3 years im 23 by the way, cause i just cant face feeling like that again i keep guys at a distance and am just hoping one day a guy will come along that i feel really comfortable around and maybe that means hes the one.wish there was more research into this tho put some peoples mind at ease.

Honestly I get this too. It sounds like Relationship Obsessive Compulsion Disorder. See a doctor, even if you go to a clinic.

I have found out that for me this probably has to do with the fact that for a part of my childhood I felt unloved by my parents; I do not even know why, but I did, and I feel this had a strong impact on me being comfortable around men, and being uncomfortable really letting a person into my life and loving that person in a different way than loving friends. However, I am positive this will go away, and I am stronlgy hoping it will go away soon. I wish you all good luck, try to find parts of the reason(s) why you feel like this, it will make it easier next time you get close to a person. Also, remind yourself everyday that you can fight this problem, and you will!!! I hope we'll all make it through this soon!

I have the same feeling, i just have to be around her, or even think about her, and i start feeling sick... It sucks because i have the same thing at parties, i only have to drink some alcohol and i'll start feeling nauseous. Today I had lunch with her and her mom, i couldn't eat, because i had the feeling i was going to puke... I don't know what to do, I tried calming myself down, but it doesn't help. I'm happy I'm not the only one that has this problem though. Good luck!

I know this is a really old post but anyway; I have the same problem as most of you have stated. Hopefully for some they are no longer haunted by this feeling. I can only offer a personal opinion, everyones situation is probably different but for me, I think I can narrow down two reasons as to why I feel this. (In my situation i mean) 1. I think one reason I felt this way is because in the past Ive had really bad situations in past relationships and even once before with her. I never trusted because I had been betrayed before and feared the time when it happened again. 2. I think the main reason I felt this way though was because I loved her with all my heart and knew in the end we could never truely be together. She didnt feel this way because there were things I was unable to tell her that stood in the way of us really being together. Knowing this, combined with all the love I had for her, everytime I seen her or talked to her or thought about her, I also thought about the ending of our relationship because I knew for a fact there was absolutely no way I could truely be with her. Loved her so much I didnt want to tell her, and just soaked up every bit of time i could get with her despite feeling so sick from knowing what lies in store for me in the future, all the pain and agony that awaited the departure.. Its been 2 years and sadly I still feel this way but I cant just leave her. Hurting her would just amplify the sick feeling... How can someone kill desire when desire itself burns in your soul?

I know this is a really old post but anyway; I have the same problem as most of you have stated. Hopefully for some they are no longer haunted by this feeling. I can only offer a personal opinion, everyones situation is probably different but for me, I think I can narrow down two reasons as to why I feel this. (In my situation i mean) 1. I think one reason I felt this way is because in the past Ive had really bad situations in past relationships and even once before with her. I never trusted because I had been betrayed before and feared the time when it happened again. 2. I think the main reason I felt this way though was because I loved her with all my heart and knew in the end we could never truely be together. She didnt feel this way because there were things I was unable to tell her that stood in the way of us really being together. Knowing this, combined with all the love I had for her, everytime I seen her or talked to her or thought about her, I also thought about the ending of our relationship because I knew for a fact there was absolutely no way I could truely be with her. Loved her so much I didnt want to tell her, and just soaked up every bit of time i could get with her despite feeling so sick from knowing what lies in store for me in the future, all the pain and agony that awaited the departure.. Its been 2 years and sadly I still feel this way but I cant just leave her. Hurting her would just amplify the sick feeling... How can someone kill desire when desire itself burns in your soul?

Hey, I'd just like to tell everyone my story because the same thing happened to me. I first met my girlfriend on holiday and we got on rly well and we kissed the day after we met and everything was great. The only thing was she (and me infact) was rly shy and we found it too uncomfortable to talk to each other the next day. And the same the next day. But we were on a bar crawl together and i saw her with some other guy's arm around her. And then it started. My stomach was churning and i felt like i was going to spew.... and i did (and no it wasnt the alcohol cos i had only have 3 drinks at this point). Later on that night, after keeping my distance from her, she came up to me and asked why i wasnt talking to her. I then asked her the same question. after a few seconds of staring at each other we kissed again. And the sick feeling was gone. The next time i felt the feeling again was right before i left to go home from the holiday. The same churning stomach and the same feeling of wanting to be sick. I said goodbye to her, and left. When i got home i started texting her. I missed her already even though i'd only know her a week. Everytime, i got a text from her, id get tht churning stomach again. The following week, after she had got back from holiday, me and my friends had been invited to a party by one of her friends and of course i went. Whn i was there i had no churning stomach, i was too excited about seeing her. When we were there we had a long talk about how we felt for each other, and wht we wanted in terms of a relationship. But the only thing was, a few months later i was moving away to go to uni, and we both knew tht. So we decide it would have to be all or nothing (i.e. we start going out, or we never speak again) because we didnt have any time to think about it. So we went for all. And it was great. We got on rly well, we met each others parents, and we were happy. But i thought... infact we both thought tht we couldnt make a long distance relationship work, so we had the idea tht, whn i moved to uni, we would have to say goodbye. And i think the thought of that is wht made me feel a bit sick every time ate something whn i was with her. And it was only whn i ate something around her that my stomach would churn. Until.... After a drunken night with one of my best friends we were talking about me and my girlfriend and i was telling him how much i didnt want to let her go. And i told him that i loved her. And this was the first time i had said it. The next day we were going out together and my stomach just started churning so badly i couldnt be around her anymore and i had to go home. Every time i saw her thereafter i would feel ill. Not just whn i was with her, but as soon as i woke up in the morning before i was going to see her i'd have this sick feeling. And i couldnt never eat anything around her cos i would just spew it back up. And this carried on for a while. Until one day we had a talk... about whn i moved away. I told her i didnt want to leave her, and tht i wanted to try and make a long distance relationship work. She was apprehensive at first but eventually agreed to try and make it work. And thn i started to feel a bit better. I was able to be around her without feeling sick and i could eat small things around her. I wasnt totally better but it wasnt as bad as it had been. And thn.. the night before i left to go to uni... she told me she couldnt be in a long distance relationship. And the sick feeling came rushing back with avengance. I managed to persuade her to give it a go. She reluctantly agreed. So after i moved to uni, things wernt going great. We hardly spoke for the first few days and every time id try to phone her she'd be 'busy'. She told me she was finding it rly had being away from me. And tht she didnt think it would work. The sick feeling stayed with me constantly for that first week. Even though i wasnt with her, i was thinking about her constantly and i made me feel sick. But we got through it. How? i rly dont know but we did. And here we are still together months later. And the sick feeling? Well, it stayed with me for a while. I still couldnt eat anything around her on my visits home and i still felt a bit ill whn i was near her. But it kept getting easier. Now im almost 'normal'. I dnt feel ill whn im around her anymore, and i can eat reasonably well until i start to get full and thn i need to stop. So im not perfect yet, but im getting there. I think it was all caused by the fact tht i was so crazy about her, the thought of me losing her just made me physically sick. Ive not had the best relationship history and eveytime iv felt strongly about a girl before iv ended up getting hurt. So i think because i had this girl as my own, i didnt want to let her go, and the thought of that is wht caused the sickness. Anyone who's going through wht iv been though, trust me, ur not the only one. It is horrible and i know u dnt think there is going to be an end to it. But ask urself why you feel like this. Is it because u ultimatly think u cant be together with who you love and thts wht is hurting you? Try telling thm how u feel. The first time i said 'i love you' to my girlfriend and she said it back, it was a huge step for me. Thts pretty much whn i started to stop feeling sick because i knew she loved me to and that i wasnt going to lose her. Im still with her today and i love her with all my heart. She means the world to me and i never want to leave her. I hope this helps anyone out there. You can beat this!!! I did. Good luck

You might possibly maybe have something I have. You would need to say in detail how you feel sick, but when I was out with my girlfriend, my nervousness that I might start messing things up often caused gastro eosophageal reflux, an I got quite sick. This causes stomach aches just below the ribcage, and can cause painful hiccups and a phlegm like substance to come up the throat. You might not have it, just a possibility.

Screw that I just saw the age I this topic :S

I have this too. All I know is it started when we were talking about sex(We're underage and still virgin) and we were talking about a time when we were just fooling around with each other and she said she just wanted to see how far I would go. It started right after that and I have no idea what's causing it.

Thank god its not just me! Ive been mates with this girl for a bout for months and i really like her and she likes me but we met up one day and i was sick to the though of her and when we met up i was sick, was well imbarrsed :-( Then since then ive been waking up around 5am when before i always got up at 11am at least and the thought of her makes me ill, cold, sick, i go hungry but cant eat incase im sick. She came round yesterday and before she turned up i was sick and didnt want her to come round because i didnt feel well, and she turned up and i was freezing, dizzy and felt sick. Any help or advise? What should i do?! Thanks.

I've had this exact same problem. I am 23 years old and had a crush on this girl for 4 years. At the age of 19 we started talking and in the begining i'd get so nauseous, couldn't eat. Etc.. 1 night we spent a whole night together and after she left i puked.. But even while with her i'd get nauseous, it later settled down and went awqy once i got to know her a bit better. 6 months into the relationship i broke up with her because she was too much for me . I felt like i didn't love her or something, and i was away from her for 2 weeks and didn't miss her. I then started getting annoyd with her and totaly cut all connections with her. I felt hurt too but prolly not as hurt as she felt. A year later i saw her again a few times and this feeling of nauseousness came back... I tried getting back together with her and to this day she refuses... We did hook up recently but that was it but before thag i would see her and i'd later be near the toilet puking it was so much for me to handle. In my opinion, i think that your subconcience is trying to tell u something, like keep away fro that person. Think of it in a metaphor, if u love something so much and ur absolutely sure about it then why get nervous? It could be ur extremely insecure but it still doesnt change the fact that this person is bringing out that reason to feel insecure. I don't believe in soulmates but i do believe that a person who you want to feel comfortable with should come automatically. Relationships are hard as it is. Anyways i hope this helped. Oh and for those of you who want to know about the girl, she stopped speaking to me(but she still likes me) but to this day i continue to feel nauseous and extremely doubtful of her. Good luck boys n girls.

Wow incredible I had no idea that anyone else in the world could get sick around their significant other. I can remember that first time I got sick because of a girl and it was the wierdest thing imaginable. We started making out and all of a suddent i was in the upstairs bathroom getting rid of the food i just ate. I couldnt explain it and to this day cannot explain it. I think it comes from a fear of commitment and an uncertain future about where events will take you with her. Ultimately (and quite naturally) you want to have sex with her however the process of making that happen is what scares me to death! Fear of the unknown i guess. My problem is that once an opportunity at a relationship presents itself I start to imagine EVERY possibly scenario and come up with conclusions on things before they even happen. I hate not knowing something therefore my mind starts to imagine and develop its own scenarios and expectations before ive even had a chance to experinece them and react in the moment. Call me crazy but i bet im not the only one who does this. I "psych" myself out. Could this be the one? Do i really like her? Is it worth my time to think about?....Am i giong to get sick around her? Once that last question gets into my head im done for. Seriously though reading this blog and knowing im not alone has been a tremendous help. It's that damn subconcious that you have no control over. I need to find a way to control these self destructive thoughts. Easier said then done.