I'm a 16 year old female, a virgin and have been masturbating since I was 12. However, I can only remember a couple occasions doing so. Lately, I've been doing it every night or every other night. Though its nice, I've never climaxed. I've even had a boyfriend finger me and nothing happened (he CLAIMED he knew what he was doing and I think you can assume that to be the truth). I guess I'm unusually tight "down there", too (it hurts quite a bit to use more than two fingers, but I can fit three. However, I also have very thin fingers and tiny hands). I've tried inserting my fingers and I like that the best, but it can be a little painful. I'm tried simulation with my fingers on my clitoris and I HATE it! It hurts really bad and just makes me feel like I have to urinate.
I've read that it isn't uncommon for woman to not have the ability to climax. That seriously frightens me! I'd hate to miss out! Is it possible I'm one of these girls? How can I tell? Also, I'm very afraid of stretching myself out and feeling loose with all this masturbation by the time I DO have sex (years and years from now, of course...). How long will it take to stretch myself? I may be "tiny", but with doing it as often as I have, I wouldn't be surprised if I was a little "bigger" before I ever got to have sexual intercourse.
Wow, I sure do just keep typing and typing. Sorry about that!
I've read that it isn't uncommon for woman to not have the ability to climax. That seriously frightens me! I'd hate to miss out! Is it possible I'm one of these girls? How can I tell? Also, I'm very afraid of stretching myself out and feeling loose with all this masturbation by the time I DO have sex (years and years from now, of course...). How long will it take to stretch myself? I may be "tiny", but with doing it as often as I have, I wouldn't be surprised if I was a little "bigger" before I ever got to have sexual intercourse.
Wow, I sure do just keep typing and typing. Sorry about that!
Mix6 :-)
You seem to have more then one problem and they are all connected to each other. I will sart at the beginning and try to help. :-P
Starting out a 12 is not uncommon, I know of a girl who started about age 6 or 7.
The statement "I can only remember a couble of times..." well, is that true? or are you in the before sleep mode, where we can not remember too much at that time?
To be able to climax, %-) is to find a sensitive point in your body and stimulate it to the climax. you may have more than one. sometimes like using the clotoris to its benefit, but not every person will have a climax all the time. (even boys! they may shoot a clear liquid, but the seman may not have been there) :$
What works for one person will not work for another, so your "boyfriend" may have done it with someone else, but it takes work, practice and patience to work on you. :-P
So being a virgin has a part in it. I think you only use pads, not tampons, o.O so you have not trained your mussels to expand out, but they will it time. :-| Use small items, like mini bananas or cucumbers, hair brush handles, with condoms on them.... things that will not harm your vulva & vagina.
So here is this part, :-) Make proper time to enjoy your time with yourself. Don't rush yourself. Breath deeper as you go farther into it. Always use a towel at the place you wish to enjoy yourself at, this keeps the area clean, :$ Go pee before starting out evey time. Now today go out and buy a tube of personal vaginal lube, some condoms & tampons & tissues from a dollar store or discount store, and look around for items in the store that may be small enough as your fingers, and
Start using the lube by placing a gob ;-) on the entrance of the vagina & on your fingers, then slowly start to rub away, at the entrance, then go move your fingers just inside the vagina. Keep this going, and add medium size items, 3 fingers, then to four of your fingers, use the tampons during your periods: this does not make you a non-virgin; only a male penis can do that !
You should work on this until you can place your four finger inside. they to go inside and up against the pubic bone, where the "g spot is, but for you, you will need to have more time to get there. You have all the time you want. this is a life long journey with yourself to be done any time you wish to. There is nothing wrong with it, so teach your daughter how too.... (Your sons will find out on their own.) Tell me how this works out for you :-D
RT
Now on your boyfriend: you may become active with him, and still remain a virgin. But any time his semen is at "your door", you may became pregnant, so that is why you need to have the condoms around, for you!
So try to find on how they feel and the best ones for your comfort -
You seem to have more then one problem and they are all connected to each other. I will sart at the beginning and try to help. :-P
Starting out a 12 is not uncommon, I know of a girl who started about age 6 or 7.
The statement "I can only remember a couble of times..." well, is that true? or are you in the before sleep mode, where we can not remember too much at that time?
To be able to climax, %-) is to find a sensitive point in your body and stimulate it to the climax. you may have more than one. sometimes like using the clotoris to its benefit, but not every person will have a climax all the time. (even boys! they may shoot a clear liquid, but the seman may not have been there) :$
What works for one person will not work for another, so your "boyfriend" may have done it with someone else, but it takes work, practice and patience to work on you. :-P
So being a virgin has a part in it. I think you only use pads, not tampons, o.O so you have not trained your mussels to expand out, but they will it time. :-| Use small items, like mini bananas or cucumbers, hair brush handles, with condoms on them.... things that will not harm your vulva & vagina.
So here is this part, :-) Make proper time to enjoy your time with yourself. Don't rush yourself. Breath deeper as you go farther into it. Always use a towel at the place you wish to enjoy yourself at, this keeps the area clean, :$ Go pee before starting out evey time. Now today go out and buy a tube of personal vaginal lube, some condoms & tampons & tissues from a dollar store or discount store, and look around for items in the store that may be small enough as your fingers, and
Start using the lube by placing a gob ;-) on the entrance of the vagina & on your fingers, then slowly start to rub away, at the entrance, then go move your fingers just inside the vagina. Keep this going, and add medium size items, 3 fingers, then to four of your fingers, use the tampons during your periods: this does not make you a non-virgin; only a male penis can do that !
You should work on this until you can place your four finger inside. they to go inside and up against the pubic bone, where the "g spot is, but for you, you will need to have more time to get there. You have all the time you want. this is a life long journey with yourself to be done any time you wish to. There is nothing wrong with it, so teach your daughter how too.... (Your sons will find out on their own.) Tell me how this works out for you :-D
RT
Now on your boyfriend: you may become active with him, and still remain a virgin. But any time his semen is at "your door", you may became pregnant, so that is why you need to have the condoms around, for you!
So try to find on how they feel and the best ones for your comfort -
Try using a vibrator.
i have tried using a butt vibe and helps alot
Although individuals vary, it is pretty well known that the focus of most women's attention during masturbation is the clitoris. If you are finding that direct stimulation of the clit is too intense, try indirect... try circling it, try stroking it, try wiggling around it.
And most important of all, make sure that it is lubricated... with waterbased lube...KY....personal lubricant... jelly... something.
My wife tells me just a little bit of artificial lubricant makes all the difference in the world to her enjoyment!
Also, though so women enjoy inserting into the vagina, it doesn't necessarily take more than one finger to find the pleasure spot. I can't imaging inserting FOUR fingers, unless you're unusally loose or large, or you are the one doing the insertion and you like the feeling of fullness or cramming.
Usually, the G spot can be found on the top "roof" of the vagina, the size of a quarter, and easily stroked with a "come here" type motion of the finger when inserted. But, to each their own!
And most important of all, make sure that it is lubricated... with waterbased lube...KY....personal lubricant... jelly... something.
My wife tells me just a little bit of artificial lubricant makes all the difference in the world to her enjoyment!
Also, though so women enjoy inserting into the vagina, it doesn't necessarily take more than one finger to find the pleasure spot. I can't imaging inserting FOUR fingers, unless you're unusally loose or large, or you are the one doing the insertion and you like the feeling of fullness or cramming.
Usually, the G spot can be found on the top "roof" of the vagina, the size of a quarter, and easily stroked with a "come here" type motion of the finger when inserted. But, to each their own!
the clear liquid we squirt out is called pre cum...pre cum is released to let the body know it is ready for sex. it clears your system so that the "semen" can pass through.
Hello, I'm 15. I started mastabayting when I was about 4 or 5 that I remeber. My Mum says I started when I was about 2. She read somewhere that some babies actually mastabayt in their mummys womb (of corse they don't know what they are doing, just that it feels nice. I read somewhere too that when baby girls are naked and playing on the floor, and they rock about , they are rubbing their vulva lips from the rocking and it rubs on their tiny clits. When they do it, they giggle and sometimes touch themselves 'Down There', because it feels nice.
I really started to Enjoy it and actually knew what I was doing when I was about 8 or 9. Up until then, I just knew that It felt really NICE. When I was about 10, my Older Sister found out that I was Mastabayting and she told me why we do it and how to do it properly so it's more fun. She is 3 years older than I am. My mum knows that I mastabayt all the time (every day). Sometimes she walks in on me when I'm doing it and just turns away and tells me to sing out when I'm finished.
Anyway, I think you are trying to Rush Things and thats why it hurts and you can't Climax. You are too Dry too. Also don't just try and stick your fingers in straight away. Wet your fingers with Saliva and rub the palm of yor hand on the Bump above your Slit in a circular motion and rub your wet finger (the big one) along your slit as you rub. At the same time, rub the two fingers (that are on each side of big finger) back and forth across the Vulva each side of your Slit, as you rub the big WET FINGER (Keep all fingers wet with saliva). Gently rub your Clit with the big finger as you rub along your Slit. Start SLOW and SOFT. Then Go A Little Bit Faster. After a while, makeing sure fingers are REALLY WET, start to insert The BIG WET FINGER into your Vagina ..... little bit at first (about 20 or 30 times real slow. Keep Rubbing Round & Round with Palm of your Hand on your Bump above your Slit and stroking the Vulva each side of Slit. After this start pushing your big finger Deeper a little bit every 20 or 30 times you push in and out. Start to get faser after about 8 or 10 times every time you get deeper. Do this until you have it all the way in and keep getting faster until you Climax.
Good Luck.
:)
I really started to Enjoy it and actually knew what I was doing when I was about 8 or 9. Up until then, I just knew that It felt really NICE. When I was about 10, my Older Sister found out that I was Mastabayting and she told me why we do it and how to do it properly so it's more fun. She is 3 years older than I am. My mum knows that I mastabayt all the time (every day). Sometimes she walks in on me when I'm doing it and just turns away and tells me to sing out when I'm finished.
Anyway, I think you are trying to Rush Things and thats why it hurts and you can't Climax. You are too Dry too. Also don't just try and stick your fingers in straight away. Wet your fingers with Saliva and rub the palm of yor hand on the Bump above your Slit in a circular motion and rub your wet finger (the big one) along your slit as you rub. At the same time, rub the two fingers (that are on each side of big finger) back and forth across the Vulva each side of your Slit, as you rub the big WET FINGER (Keep all fingers wet with saliva). Gently rub your Clit with the big finger as you rub along your Slit. Start SLOW and SOFT. Then Go A Little Bit Faster. After a while, makeing sure fingers are REALLY WET, start to insert The BIG WET FINGER into your Vagina ..... little bit at first (about 20 or 30 times real slow. Keep Rubbing Round & Round with Palm of your Hand on your Bump above your Slit and stroking the Vulva each side of Slit. After this start pushing your big finger Deeper a little bit every 20 or 30 times you push in and out. Start to get faser after about 8 or 10 times every time you get deeper. Do this until you have it all the way in and keep getting faster until you Climax.
Good Luck.
:)
Since you have been masturbating since 12 and you already know what feels good you may just not be aware of what your orgasm is. It's not the same for all girls and there are things you will learn as you experiment with your body that make the good feelings last longer.(one is to pace yourself it takes the average girl 20 min or longer of foreplay before comftable insertion of the penis, give your self foreplay)
I remember an experence with a friend when she was 12. She didn't like the idea of masturbating because she said it hurt and was uncomftable especially her clit(she showed me where it hurt) so she used me to help her masturbate by sitting on on my erection with her lips neaseled between my penis and she would rock back n forth till she felt really good. her breathing got realy heavy and she was very wet so when she asked me why she couldn't cum I looked at her and asked her why she thinks she didn't. She had been talking to a lot of older girls and they told her what it was supose to feel like and she concluded that she wasn't cuming. You need to ask yourself if you can answer yes to these questions. #1 while masturbating does your breathing start out shallow and as you progress does it get heaver and faster. #2 does the amount of wetness increase as you masturbate. #3 While fingering yourself can you reach the bottom of your vagina but as you finger yourself longer you can no loner feel the bottom. And #4 do you ever feel involuntary movement from the vagina such as a slightt pulsating feeling or twitching. If you answered yes to these questions you may already be orgasming and just not realize it. Plus after masturbating do you feel satisfied or are you still turned on?
As to a remedy to the clitious problem you have to realize that the clit is too sensitive do be touch directly untill you have ben aroused for awhile. I sugest indirect clitoal stimulation done by rubbing the mound just above the clit and working your way to the outer lips around the clit and take it as far as you can stand it. (some girls enjoy the pain/pleasure of direct stimulation )
To answer your question about being too loose because you dtick 3 fingers inside I wouldn't let it concern you. I had a girlfrind who was 16 and she wanted to experinent with fisting and her vagina felt just as tight as it did before she started fisting herself.
One thing you never mentioned in your question was what you thought about while masturbating. Being a virgin does limit what you can draw upon for fantacy while masturbating but one thing is real that becoming orgasmic starts in your mind not your vagina. A famous quote from a movie watch once is when a boy asked a woman if there was a special place a guy could touch a girl and she would get excited, she replied yes there was her mind. So find a spicy novel One that appeals to you strip down get in bed and concentrate on what your ready and eventual your finger will find there way to you vagina and not make it a race to have the mind blowing orgasm you think you should be having and after awhile you will find what your looking for.
I remember an experence with a friend when she was 12. She didn't like the idea of masturbating because she said it hurt and was uncomftable especially her clit(she showed me where it hurt) so she used me to help her masturbate by sitting on on my erection with her lips neaseled between my penis and she would rock back n forth till she felt really good. her breathing got realy heavy and she was very wet so when she asked me why she couldn't cum I looked at her and asked her why she thinks she didn't. She had been talking to a lot of older girls and they told her what it was supose to feel like and she concluded that she wasn't cuming. You need to ask yourself if you can answer yes to these questions. #1 while masturbating does your breathing start out shallow and as you progress does it get heaver and faster. #2 does the amount of wetness increase as you masturbate. #3 While fingering yourself can you reach the bottom of your vagina but as you finger yourself longer you can no loner feel the bottom. And #4 do you ever feel involuntary movement from the vagina such as a slightt pulsating feeling or twitching. If you answered yes to these questions you may already be orgasming and just not realize it. Plus after masturbating do you feel satisfied or are you still turned on?
As to a remedy to the clitious problem you have to realize that the clit is too sensitive do be touch directly untill you have ben aroused for awhile. I sugest indirect clitoal stimulation done by rubbing the mound just above the clit and working your way to the outer lips around the clit and take it as far as you can stand it. (some girls enjoy the pain/pleasure of direct stimulation )
To answer your question about being too loose because you dtick 3 fingers inside I wouldn't let it concern you. I had a girlfrind who was 16 and she wanted to experinent with fisting and her vagina felt just as tight as it did before she started fisting herself.
One thing you never mentioned in your question was what you thought about while masturbating. Being a virgin does limit what you can draw upon for fantacy while masturbating but one thing is real that becoming orgasmic starts in your mind not your vagina. A famous quote from a movie watch once is when a boy asked a woman if there was a special place a guy could touch a girl and she would get excited, she replied yes there was her mind. So find a spicy novel One that appeals to you strip down get in bed and concentrate on what your ready and eventual your finger will find there way to you vagina and not make it a race to have the mind blowing orgasm you think you should be having and after awhile you will find what your looking for.
I like yourr response, i tried this and it worked! :)
i found this very helpful as i am also having the same problems
Hello, i have the same problem with my clit, i cant touch it directly, but i dont get much pleasure from fingering myself.
what i do is wear a pair of night pants and take my four fingers kinda in the middle over my clit and upper vagina and push down however hard i want, and rub vertically and move my hips.
for me it only takes a few minutes to orgasm,
play around with it :-)
<3 hope i helped a little
what i do is wear a pair of night pants and take my four fingers kinda in the middle over my clit and upper vagina and push down however hard i want, and rub vertically and move my hips.
for me it only takes a few minutes to orgasm,
play around with it :-)
<3 hope i helped a little
That sounds super sexi, I do that with my penis and dog
i am a 14 year old girl and i have just started mastuerbating , i find watching porn helps sometimes and i use saliva as a lube. I use an old hair brush handle.
I have not yet climaxed but i have just started
i rub my clit but after a while it gets to sensitive.
I have not yet climaxed but i have just started
i rub my clit but after a while it gets to sensitive.
Your really screwed up, go see a counser if your having your dog satisfy you. And to that original post I used to have that problem as the second post said get lube and because your tight use 2-3 tooth brushes taped at the top then put putty at the end then condom and youl be orgasmic in no time goodluck
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