Flat out, he needs to make sure you are ready. That your vaginal fluids are flowing enough to make sex easier. Honestly, I don't think you are getting enough foreplay to be relaxed for the occasion. You don't say how long you have been married, but sometimes guys just don't "get" the fact that women need tenderness and built up desire before sex. Our bodies just don't operate like theirs do. So, I'd say, why don't YOU take the reigns? If you aren't ready when HE enters you, then you need to do what helps you to get more stimulated. Be on top for a change, do felatio, or even insist on 69 after some other foreplay. NEVER be embarrassed to use your own fingers for your own stimulation during foreplay (this will also help you to check your wetness prior to sex) , then, climb on top of him and YOU insert his penis when you are ready. This way, you can have natural ,smooth sex without worry.
hey poochipie,
I hoped you could help me out,
I got a girlfriend, and she is still a virgin, and i have read some stories about girls that it can hurt alot for a girl to lose virginity, and i am really scared to hurt her, and dont really know what to do with it, and hoped you maybe had some tips for me?
it probally will and nothing you can do bout it
ok so this is very embarising to talk about but i couldnt say this to my mom so why not on line where no one will know who i am
any way
so last night i lost my virginity it totaly came out of the blue ..in a way we talked about it but i always talked about it with guys and it never happend but it tottaly happend with him i really liked him i only knew him for like humm a week ? but i was falling head over heels for him and we had sex and we totaly were not to gether like i said it just happend he didnt think to put on a condom and neither did i.. we started getting in to it and blah blah im not going in to detail cuz that is weird ...i don tknow if he cumed in side me he said he pulled out befor that could happen im really connfussed someone help my stamac hurt so much the morning after and i did bleed a lil luckly no where we "did it"..i dont know im so confussed??:|
this is not to reply to tell how to make a gal feel better m here to tell the gals who r depressd about loosing virginity.....i m from india n here rituals r kinda strict about having pre matital sex we r not even allowed to b in relation but tym has changed n youngsters r ignoring what we r taught m not saying its bad but the only thing m concerned of is the mentality which most of the gal posses that their bf can do anything with them jst for sake of love n even when he comes out to b a cheater they jst sit n cry thinking they r used or try to get them love again thru sex....plz i request u dont give anyone the ryt to play with ur lyf if he left u dont make it easy for him or else he will do the same with sm1else too
PS- M A BOY N STILL I DO BELIEVE THAT GALS R NOT THINGS THAT THEY CAN B USED N IF THEY R USED THEN WE BOYS R ALSO USED.
N NOW ABOUT BEING GETTING MARRIED IF A MAN TRULY LOVES U IT DOESNT MATTER U R VIRGIN OR NOT UNTILL U R HONEST WITH HIM
PS-IF A GUY SAY HE WILL LEAVE U IF GAL REFUSES TO HAVE SEX OR SAY HE IS NOT SATISFIED THATS WHY HE IS GOING I M READY TO WRITE ON A STAMP PAPER HE NEVER LOVED U M IN REL FOR 3 YR N WE R VIRGIN N WE R NOT GOING TO HAVE SEX EVEN AFTR MARRIAGE UNTILL SHE ISNT READY AS SHE IS VERY MUCH AFRAID OF BLEEDING......I MAY SOUND STUPID BUT THATS THE TRUTH BETTER NOT TO LOOSE IT BEFORE MARRIAGE N IF U DO DONT LET ANY ONE SAY U R USED COZ U ALL R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL CREATION OF GOD N HOW CAN U SAY THAT THE GUY U WILL GET MARRIED TO WILL B A VIRGIN HIMSELF.....:-)A GUY CAN ACCEPT A GAL BUT A TRUE MAN CAN ACCEPT HER BY FORGETTING HER PASR TAKE CARE N BE LOVED:-):-)
Me and my gf want to have sex. and I want her to feel pain for the least time possible. i am also a virgin. would it be better for me to go all the way in fast or be slow? is there a position that makes it easier? I know lube and foreplay are important. (and yes she is on the pill and I have condoms so no danger there)
i am 21 and my gf is 20
we are planning to have sex
it would be first time for both of us
i am worried about what will happen,i have heard that it will pain for the first time but i really want to minimize that pain.
we have already indulged in foreplay and we know each other very well.
Yes you're still virgin.....
I am 24, and lost my virginity on my wedding night!!! Oh my gosh, it was awesome! My husband was so sweet and concerned, he did everything so gently! It did hurt a bit, and I let him know, and it almost seemed like the fact that I was in pain hurt him more than it hurt me! But it was epic. We did it the next couple of nights in a row too, and it hurt less and less until the forth night, when it didn't hurt at all! Woot!
I love my husband, and he likes cookies, and I like milk. Yumm. We will be happy together forever!
hy h r u can u tell me any medicen tubes for retarn vergenty becuse i lose my vorgenty but i wish again i am vorgen becuse this is gud for me can u tell me any creme medicen anything else
Does anyone know if sports such as Cheerleading and others can help my first time actually feel better. If you do Thankyou in advance
Ill tell you right of the bad, I'm a girl and this may sound weird but, the first time me and my bf had sex I was great you have got to make sure she is wet enough, if you don't stimulate her enough she won't be to wet and it won't feel good when you put it in, and even worse when you start to move. Just remember that stimulation is the key to making sure she enjoys it, hope this helps
Hello my name is destiny im now 18 about to be 19 i ben with this guy named ryan ever since i was 15 i love him to death and im ready to give.it.up to him we have done oral he used his fingers on me before heres the problem im scared because hes mixed and hes well built down there i have a fear sompthing will hapen because hea huge and im so.tight im verry nervous and i was hoping that you guys could give me some advice to make it less dicomforting for myself and him because hes scared he will hurt me
I'm 28 and haven't yet done intercourse. Though i was in a relationship when was 24, for about 3yrs, we kissed, hugged, made love but he never pushed me for a sex cz he cared for me & knew that he won't be able to marry me (class difference & his parents) Anyways, in short, we talked over phone and shared our feelings, we used to had phone sex. He used to ask me to put some thick marker in my vagina or finger it which i always afraid of doing. Once i did, and i found milky red liquid on white body of board marker which was very shocking for me cz i didn't feel a single threshold of pain.. marker was 0.25" in diameter and went 2-3" inside....
I'm a medicine professional and so i came to know that it happened cz of friction with vaginal mucosal walls. So girls if you ever come across such situation nothing to worry at all.
Once you lose your virginity (break the hymen) it can't be re grown. Don't worry though, if he truly loves you it shouldn't matter. He is choosing to marry you.