How to deal with son's erections? He doesn't particularly hide them. Should I tell him to?

This is good advice and the sensitive way. Our son started to have his first erections when he was 9. Because he was so young we didn't say anything and also it was not often and not very important. But 2 years later he had started developing and we felt we had somehow missed the train. Nonetheless we told him to get dressed more often and he felt sorry because he was more at ease with his penis free but he obeyed. Now and then he would ask to be able to stay naked, say after a shower or on a Sunday and now we felt sorry and we often allowed him to do so. By the age of 14, he started to stay dressed out of his own will and by the age of 17 he started again to be naked freely but by that time his erections were already less frequent. We never had an argument about it and I feel that both sides understood each other.

To encourage more body positivity, the general nudist way to not bring attention to the erection. Politeness for the male is to cover up with their courtesy towel/blanket, hop in a pool, roll over if laying down, etc. Considering he's a teen and the act is likely not sexual, you could try to ignore it and let him go about his non-sexual activities, but that is entirely up to your comfort zone.

I agree with many of the people who have posted here. I'm a male in my early 20s and I owe my close and special relationship with my mother to how she raised me to view my body and how she took a special interest in it. Ever since I was a preteen, I would get erections and try to hide them. Naturally my mother noticed and explained to me that my penis was a beautiful and normal part of my body, and its behavior was completely natural. This was a real turning point for me, as it marked the beginning of a very open and accepting relationship with my family. We became honest with each other about our feelings, and we made sharing those feelings a very truthful and connecting experience. It wasn't long before my mother began masturbating me and making me ejaculate. Everyone in my family agreed it was normal and was an extension of our closeness. It was something we did out in the open with my family in our house, to remove the stigma and shame of it all. If we were watching television together for example, and I had an erection, I would simply stand up and get completely naked. Then I would go over and sit in my mother's lap and spread my legs for her, and she would reach around and begin masturbating my penis. Eventually I would ejaculate and she would catch my semen in her hands. She would go wash up, and we'd continue on watching whatever show was on. There was nothing embarrassing about it. She still tells me there's nothing that makes a family closer than a mother making her own son ejaculate and feeling the warmth of his sperm on her skin. I attribute our close family relationship to her guidance.

Yet, when a man is aroused by his adolescent daughter, he is tagged as a pedophile. If he married the woman who is a mother to his daughter then he was obviously attracted to her. His daughter, if she is anything like her mom, then he can and probably will be attracted to her.

What a wonderful mother you have to help you like that. More mothers shoulsd take her method.

I am 40 I went through this with my mother, I don't know your situation but my father was her high school sweet heart! became abusive controlling as the oldest son I saw the worst! your son thinks your the most perfect women in the world do not ruin that for your sake! it happened to me and my mother at first when I asked for something to feel close to her! because she said don't be the man your father is to women but was so busy trying for him she dint explain to me what a man should be like! he taught me about women and how to use them and I at 15 knew he was wrong my heart told my head I'm definitely different. Also my mother wanted me to experience a connection love not use girls growing up as points in a game to brag about! you are lucky you have a good natured man as a son! but most moms go wrong as soon as puberty and erections and affection show up! you want to help him but for once in your life as a mother your not thinking of him first and only your thinking of other peoples judgement! well different things happen between parents and there pride and joy and you won't get another chance to go back so think it through! I fought how I felt but my mother was the best thing I ever had and all wanted when I was scared or unsure was her touch or her breast to nurse and her to nurse on my manhood or rub it like she use to rub my back when I couldn't sleep! every night I was tucked in and I miss it as an adult as a teen her braless c or D cup breasts touching my bare chest through her night shirt in my room was the most comforting thing! I would be happy to explain all in detail and I urge you to think of him first open mindedly it is not sexual even though physicaly he gets erect its his feeling and respect of you as women that is making that happen!if you turn away or make him feel disgusted by it he will not understand how u raised him to love women and respect then to be rejected by the one women all men always love in there own way individually its different in every family.

yes well said! you nailed it!

Are you saying that your son is still naked at home? Going around with an erection? I find that quite bizarre. Most teenage boys are rather embarrassed by their bodies and certainly when they get an erection. Perhaps you have taught your son that nakedness is not to be embarrassed about and so he has taken things a step further. However you and your son personally feel about natural things like nakedness and not hiding erections the reality is that most of society does frown on those things. You need to talk to him about that fact or perhaps make it obvious that you are embarrassed by seeing that he is erect. Maybe just ask him "Wow, not again! How many times a day do you get a hard-on?" He will hate you for it but that should cause him to hide himself better.

Yes, the mom would make her son ejaculate. She would respond to his penis - especially when erect - the way she would with any other male she found attractive & sexually aroused by. It’s a natural reaction.

maybe you can help him

is there any chance we get this topic back on track? I hoped for help here but there's nothing here except weirdos. This is a serious problem though. Our son was not used to getting naked and going around naked when a child but of course he didn't hide either when coming out of the bathroom. Now that he's starting to get erect I'd have liked him to hide but I have the impression he's grown kind of proud of his penis and now after shower instead of going into his room and get dressed he comes down and has a bite or simply hangs around and then he goes. I asked him repeatedly to get dressed and he says "yes on my way" but in fact he stays for a couple of extra minutes and then goes. He only does this when erect or at least he's erect every time he does it. I don't want to argue with him but how can I bring him back to normal?

He wants you to see his erection. He is a typical boy and as such and like so many boys has a sexual attraction for you. You are the closest female in in life so it is natural that he is attracted to you. There is nothing wrong with your son and it is best just to ignore it. He will soon place his attraction to a girl his age.

i Guest How old is your son? It sounds like he is very comfortable with his body and has no issue with being seen naked with an erection. I think your right he is proud of his penis and being a boy he probably knows how your going to react and that is something he might just be finding funny. I think the telling him to go to his room and cover up is something that he will always want to push the limits on for awhile. Maybe just a calm discussion with might help reassure there is nothing wrong if he wants to go around naked but out of respect for you and others in the family if there are any. There has to be rules around where he goes around naked. Simply ask him to just stay in his room and ask him that if he does need to come down to grab a snack ask him to at least have his towel around him. I think he might be more agrreable to where he is allowed to be naked rather than just being told to go get dressed. It does sound like he is proud of his penis and likes to show it off so maybe working on where he does it might be a start. If he had a friend stay over would he still behave the same way? I think he really isn't doing anything wrong depending on his age and erections are a normal part of puberty. If he wants to be naked let him maybe just ask him to limit it to his room and ask him to please stop coming down stairs when he is naked.

It is totally normal for him to get erections and you should be careful not to make him feel bad about them.

That is true and some of us men like showing our big bulges