I am 29 and can't orgasm during sex unless he heavily stimulates my clitoris and my nipples... I've been married for 6 years and together for 11 years so we are beyond comfortable... Unfortunately g-spot stimulation can't make me orgasm...what I did find that helps is a vibrating cockring that helps with nipple stimulation... I ride my hubby while he licks my nipples and I can finally cum like that. XD
One thing I have to add is ... orgasms with a vibrator are far more intense than with penetration alone.
One thing I have to add is ... orgasms with a vibrator are far more intense than with penetration alone.
i am 17 and i have the same problem, i have done my resarch and its not because we are "broken" or that we have something wrong with us its that every woman is different. It takes 20 minutes for an average woman to reach climax. Clitoral stimulation to get things going is a good way to slowly buikld up that orgasm feeling. Then just have sex and have fun. less that 25% of woman cannot have an orgasm during intercourse. The chances are higher when clitoral stimulation is added to the equation. Just try whatever makes you feel good, dont try to fake an orgasm because thats not fun for you. Tell your partner what is happening, and hopefully he/she will understand. Sex is a proccess and no one is perfect at it the first time around or even the 12th time around. These things take time and practice.
I have the same problem! Grrr! I can only climax on my own. Sadly :-(
Hello, I'm 20 and I have never had and orgasm during sex. After the first time of having sex in a day, the second time my vagina tends to become dry and it gets really irritated easily. Lubrication works for a while but soon it gets dry again.
The guy I have been dating probably gives the best oral sex and is the best sex that I've ever had and he always gets me RIGHT THERE and I feel so close but it never happens. I don't lose it or anything but somehow its just never enough to push me over the top. Eventaully one of us will become frustrated and give up.
Also I think that I may be having a problem with latex. I have heard rumors about women who use condoms a lot becomming more prone to becomming alergic to them. I haven't really explored the world of birth control meathods but I would appreciate opinions about which is the best (Spermacide, nuva rings, etc.).
Getting back to the topic issue, I believe that it's either a physical or mental issue I'm dealing with. We try so many different things but nothing seems to work. I know that a few people have suggested relaxing and it really does help if you can do it but its not enough.
If anyone has ANY suggestions (I know ther have been none yet, though) PLEASE post them! Thanks.
The guy I have been dating probably gives the best oral sex and is the best sex that I've ever had and he always gets me RIGHT THERE and I feel so close but it never happens. I don't lose it or anything but somehow its just never enough to push me over the top. Eventaully one of us will become frustrated and give up.
Also I think that I may be having a problem with latex. I have heard rumors about women who use condoms a lot becomming more prone to becomming alergic to them. I haven't really explored the world of birth control meathods but I would appreciate opinions about which is the best (Spermacide, nuva rings, etc.).
Getting back to the topic issue, I believe that it's either a physical or mental issue I'm dealing with. We try so many different things but nothing seems to work. I know that a few people have suggested relaxing and it really does help if you can do it but its not enough.
If anyone has ANY suggestions (I know ther have been none yet, though) PLEASE post them! Thanks.
Don't worry about it. Does it bother your partner? I also started masterbating at a very young age and I couldn't orgasm during sex till I met my husband but even now most of the time I can't. It bothers him more then me. It's funny cause most of the time I'm worried about him cumming and I think that is what makes me not. I think alot of it is being totally comftorable with your partner and relaxing. My husband is the only one that has been able to make me orgasm by penetration and clit stimulation and fingering. I only get off now when he gets his or when he asks me to. LOL He likes listening too me. ;-) Just relax and not worry about it. Atleast you know you CAN orgasm and does it really matter how?
I also have problems with this I was 20 when i was last sexually active...and i masturbate quite frequently myself...from what i can understand through most of my research on sex in general is that alot of women can not get off vaginally but if you want to be sure trying with different positions can be useful...i have learned that if a guy inserts from behind it can bear more pressure on the vaginal wall at the deep that most women find their "g spot"...if you arent to keen on behind reverse cowgirl can cause this type of deep penetration as well.....now if this doesnt work i would now suggest trying to simulate your clitoris...you can get direct contact by riding him...straddling him and sitting up...not only does this create a great visual for the guy but he can also enjoy you taking control...while riding him your clitoris will rub against him causing similar stimulation to that of a vibrator..............................Now an experiment you can try if you believe its stress causing your malfunction: and this one is REALLY easy get drunk really drunk...one good side to alcohol is that its confidence in a glass and helps you forget alot of worries...(not promoting alcohol consumption here..lol) try sex in this situation and if it works ..well you know where to go from there
50-60% of women dont have orgasms with intercourse alone. They have to stimulate their clitoris while having sex. Our vagina doesnt have many nerve endings because thats where we also have children. However, our clitoris has as many nerve endings as a man's penis does. Tryteasing your clit with a few fingers while intercourse && you should have no problem. I used to suffer from this same thing.
same with me but not really a problem. i just rub my clit at the same time as having sex with my partner and acheive orgasm that way, and it's better than when on my own because of the extra stimulation i get from him (: it's no problem at all, we just both understand it to be that way and do what we can
Faking it works for me. It usually builds the pleasure then I actually orgasm. But I've been with the same partner for 3 years now so I'm pretty comfortable anyway.
i'm 14. (young, i know). and i can't seem to orgasm either >:( it's caused some real big problems in my relationship too. but i do try hard. i can orgasm when i masturbate. just not when me and my boyfriend have sex... i started young. i've been masturbating for YEARS. and now i feel like i've masturbated to the point where i can't orgasm in sex...:-(
I'm 16 and have been freaking out about this, I thought I had a serious problem. good to know I'm not the only girl in this world that this happens to. thanks for all the advice! :-)
Im seventeen and i used to have no problem orgasming during sex. as long as my clit was massaged while i was doing the work and id have ammmmaaazing orgasms. one day i was really in the mood and masterbated. i reached an orgasm but since thn i cant retreive orgams during sex. hell whn i masterbate i have to do it a certain way or it wont work. idk whts wrong. i dont want my bf to feel like hes not doing a great job. he is, hes great. but i miss the orgasms. after awhile hving sex and not orgasming i get the sexual headaches. im on seventeen i mean cmon. i want this to stop. wht do i do. relaxing doesnt do anything...im glad im not the only one but i want to have an orgasm during sex again. its not the same always doing it yourself...
Hi,
I also can only orgasm from masterbation not sex. I need to play with myself while having sex in order to achive climax. It is very fustrating and I wish that I could have an orgasm from sex alone.
Orgasm from intercourse is one of the most amazing feelings and is way better than a clitoral orgasm. It took me 8 months to have an orgasm with my first partner and it was amazing. You have to train yourself by squeezing your vaginal muscles and letting the sensation build up. You literally have to teach yourself if youve never had one. Dont give up!
Typically women cannot achieve an orgasm during sex because of the position of the clitoris. If your clitoris has an unusually large hood over it, it can not be stimulated during coitus or normal sex with a male. Most female orgasms are clitoral which means that the clitoris needs stimulation to orgasm. Nothing is wrong. You may need to educate your sex partner on where your clitoris is located and how best to stimulate it. Stimulating the clitoris prior to intromission or inserting the penis may help you achieve an orgasm during sex. The best choice, however, is to educate your sex partner on your sexual anotomy. Just thrusting inside your vagina will not in itself provide you the stimulation for an orgasm. There are positions where you can stimulate your clitoris during sex or your partner can stimulate it during sex. Of course perhaps the best way to orgasm is for your partner to uses is mouth. Licking your vagina and clitoris can be very stimulating causing you to orgasm. Once again, educate each other on your sexual anotomy and pleasure spots.