I have a similar problem. I masturbate to porn all the time (don't even need to use vibrators) and within minutes I orgasm and it's amazing. I'll have sex with my boyfriend for 20-40 minutes and he even eats me out ... but I don't orgasm.... that is, when I'm sober.
I have had the best orgasms during sex, when I'm high!! Maybe this isn't your thing, but if you smoke a bit of mary jane before you have sex ... everything just becomes amplified and completely amazing! Getting eaten out when you are high ... you are in a different world!!
Even if it isn't your thing, I suggest trying it out... you will NOT regret i!
I've never been a very sexually active women, i'm 22 and i've been with my fiance for 4 years now and we have a great relationship and a beautiful daughter, bu lately we're having alot of problems in our relationship due to this issue.. He's the most i've ever been sexually active with, the only one i actually feel comfortable with, but he's never been able to get me off and i try extreemly hard to get the point across to him that it's not him it's me. However he feel emasculated and it's causing him to want attention from other women... I've tried toys and we've tried vibrators in the bedroom but i just can't seem to even masterbate infront of him and he takes it very personal... i need help i don't want this to be a reason our relationship goes to the shitter :( IM DESPERATE please help!!!
I am 46 and have always used vibrators and can orgasm up to 20 times in one sitting on my own. I do however rarely in fact I can honestly say only a couple of times in my life had an orgasm with a man. I fake them mostly as it's embarrassing. I have had a long marriage and many other boyfriends since separating 5 years ago. Anyone that can suggest something I would be delighted. I find the men are usually a bit heavy handed to be honest. I still love sex regardless but it really would be the icing on the cake.
I am 20 and started masturbating while I was 19.
My fiance and I have sex regularly and don't get me wrong it feels REALLY good and I cum.
But my true orgasm only happens when stimulating the clit. Whether he is going down on me, I am on top grinding against his pelvis or masturbating.
It is frustrating at times.
Hi, 20 years old.
I can't achieve an orgasm without a combination of penetration and cliterus stimulation. They don't have to be at the same exact time, it can alternate, whatever, but i can't orgasm with just one or the other. I couldn't get an orgasm with my boyfriend until i started experimenting with dildos and figured this out on my own and then told him straight what it was i needed. A lot of problems with sex come in with the man not knowing exactly what the girl needs and if the GIRL doesn't know what she needs either then its pretty impossible for her to get it.
The very first time that he rubbed my clit while we were having sex i immediately had an orgasm, that was the first one i'd had since we had started dating a year ago.
I think what is clouding every ones mind is how society views sex. Through porn and tv it flourishes sex. I am 21 and faced the same problem as everyone else. I started masturbating in 5th grade. It took a long time for me to get off, but as time passed i learned how to better controle myself and eventually learned that curling my toes and tensing my legs could make me achieve a lightning fast orgasm, I'm talking 30 seconds! Eventually i tried it standing up and it took a long time to get use to but i was eventually able to achieve orgasm in that position as well. Unfortunately for my husband (he is the only one i haven't faked orgasms with) he has to deal with my stretched out legs during missionary, that's the only way i can reach orgasm and he really has to hold in his. We have successfully orgasmed at the same time once in our 4 years of being together... And it was the most.... Amazing, breath taking... World stopping EXAUSTING moment i have ever had in my life and I would LOVE to repeat that moment but have had no luck. I am currently trying to masturbate in the doggy position to hopefully achieve orgasm during sex again. Anyways... This is a long rant, point is don't give up and for gods sake don't take porn and the media so seriously they are doing their job ACTING. And if the women didn't look like they were in euphoria every 5 seconds it wouldn't be "appealing" if you know what i mean. ;)
hello coming from a experience male your partner has to kno your body he has to feel your heat no ur points and pressures to get were u need to be he has to hit it in the right spot and he has to touch the bottom of your cervix .you see alot of guys get in thinking they doing something and really they dont kno what there doing so its best your man figures out your body and hit u in your right spots such as tell him to suck on your g-spot and he has to comfortable and excited about u if hes not hes mind is not in you he just rying to get hes nut and saying the hell with you make sure all hes attention is on u make sure he moans when giving him head and during intercourse
I have the same problem and I'm 22 this year! My boyfriend of 7 months has openly managed to make me orgasm with his tongue never during sex none of my sexual partners have and I'm not proud of saying it but I have slept with a lot of people so I know it's not him help!
can't you try to masturbate moments before sex? i'm 19 and have the same problem. i feel better knowing i'm not the only one
So I think that your issue is not that your cant cum but your partner is not dolng a good enough job,. Obviously you can cum. However he is not getting it right. What you need to do is tell him what you need. What gets you off
POINTERS HOW TO GET HIM TO GET YOU OFF:
*So you have his penis in you.
*You need to be on top
*Tell him to put his hand between your legs and as he thrusts stroke your Clit and see how that goes .
*Take him in your hands and ensure his middle finger and his fore finger are gently stroking each side of your vagina . Make sure that he is kissing you at the entire time.