I Caught My 11 Year Old Humping Her Pellow?

I almost can't believe some of these answers!

Masturbation at any age can be normal. Kids experiment. It's what they do. Sometimes the experimentation leads to orgasm. Once that happens, for some reason there is an urge to repeat the experience. ;) Pillow humping works for your daughter. Unless she's doing it in public (highly unlikely, I'd imagine) there is nothing to be said.

 

The porn. A bit problematic. Once that cat is "out of the bag", so to speak, you probably can't get it back in. Flat-out "forbidding" it won't work; it sounds a ridiculous response. Like forbidding eating a certain food that someone likes. It's likely they're still going to try it when there is no-one aroud to supervise.

A better response would probably be to advise her that almost anything that is seen on any internet porn (or any porn at all, really) is totally unrealistic in terms of what girls (and boys) actually like, how they should be treated, and what is normal. Most of the stuff shown in porn isn't very normal. 

If I were her parent, I would not forbid her to watch it, but I would explain that because porn for under-eighteens is illegal in most areas, if I was aware she was watching it, I'd have to take steps to prevent that, and if she wanted to watch it without my knowing, it's up to her, but offer her the above cautions.

Porn is one of the activities that can become addictive. Probably less for girls than boys, but it maybe wouldn't hurt to caution her of that possibility, too.

 

Some of the replies above sound like they come out of the stone age. Perhaps they do.

Masturbating is said t o be normal..im13 I want to but if I get caught I don't know what would happen...if u do decide to let your daughter masturbate (you should so she won't feel like your disgusted..she probably won't listen once you get the urge u can't stop)the prom really helps. I guess 

 

 

show her how to really masturbate and do it next to/in front of her, you will have a extremely close connection with her. but tell her the porn is bad

tell her if she wants to watch porn, dont. just come to you.

It's normal accept for the porn part but she's master bating all girls do it some point in there life

Well, 11 is a little young for porn but don't yell I don't think you should take away her laptop. Try to tell her what you saw her do without Telling her. Just start talking to her about masturbation one day, explain how it's okay and she's not doing anything wrong by masturbating. Tell her that you know what she does. About the porn.....I think you should just talk to her about limits on the internet. Once again don't really say "I saw you watching porn and masturbating." Also DONT yell,if you yell at her she might feel unwelcome and think you don't love her. I'm not much older than her. She's 11 I'm 13. I don't watch porn and I don't masturbate, I'm waaay too scared and plus I know that my parents wouldn't understand. Don't let her think you don't love her and understand like what I think my parents would be like. You don't have to listen to me you're old enough to have a kid and I'm 2 years older than your kid.

It's ok she does this, it helps release stress and she is probably just exploring. Don't shout or take away the laptop. Maybe you could just imagine it never happened or tell her you know and that its ok as long as she sleeps at night.

Just have to say its all normal. Just be open and chat about everything casually. My pillows were very busy by that age too...lol! Explain the porn is interesting to see what goes where, but not something to get hooked into watching.

That's not a good advice

Yer so mean

Just leave her. porn is great for all ages 11 above plus humping the pillow just feels good for her it also helps as stress relief.

At the age of 11 your child will be getting ready for puberty soon.She will also be going through harmonal changes, which means her harmones are inceasing. Don't worry this is completly normal, I used to do the same. The best thing to do in this situation is to give her the talk. Tell her there is nothing wrong with her, and it is understandable. She can't help herself if her hormones are changing. You can also knock on her bedroom door and tell her you are coming in in a couple of minutes. To show her you respect her privacy. It's completly normal, but take away the orn she isn't ready for that.

Take the laptop and lock the website on the settings bar. I don't know how she would've known how to do that

It does relive stress so it's also good for her. Hormones increase and on her first "time" it won't hurt as much!

This is a from of natural masturbation and is normal it is a way to express the sexual desires and is better than actually having sex and can help the child with stress and hormonal issues please allow the child for when I was ten I did the same thing and I'm now 27 and has helped me throughout life