WOW... YOU BLEW
MY MIND
I say if the two of you are really in love with each other then, who cares what others think. So what if your family rejects the relationship. It is your relationship not theirs. Be happy! Life is too short.
I read most of the posts and I am glad to know that I am not the only one who fell in love with a younger man. I met him when he was 33 and I was 66. Although I could not have given him a family, I still have been there for him in his trying times. He did finally get married. I don't know how long it is going to last because the relationship is very rocky because he has a very demanding and bossy wife but he got his children and that is what he wanted. I will always have a soft spot for him. We just talk occasionally but I don't want to get mixed up with him in that way because he is now married. My conclusion, love has no boundries, we are all human beings. It could happen to any of us. What I would hope for is that one day society changes and just as men can have younger women, we can do the same. I hope that we as women can one day break that barrier and that people will be comfortable with this type of relationship. We are all living a secret life, so why doesn't society just learn to accept it, maybe it wouldin another 20 years. I don't know if I will be around then to see that change.
my friends judge and im sure society will too...but, the 21 one year old is treating me better than my ex did in 20 years, i am 46. i am amazed at how can suxh a young man be more mature opne and honest than a Masters degreed psyco! at the end of the day...its your life....LIVE IT> also i think they come in to our lives to heal some severe damage!
I am in love with a man who, when we first met, was convinced we are the same age. I was convinced he had to be much older than hs actual chronological age. We are just in the process of getting to know each other via emails and phone conversations. He knows the month and day I was born but assumes it is the same year as his date of birth, only he is 6 months older than me. So not true. However, children is not an isuue. He has 3, one already grown and 2 younger children which makes me very happy as I always wanted more children and wished I could meet a single Dad. At some point I will have to tell him that people often mistake me for 15-20 years younger but I can not tolerate the sun and have a baby face. I am afraid of the future and if we even have one but I am going to take that leap and hope the net will be provided. I have dealt with so much heart break and disappoint where men are concerned that even if we are not together forever, I would rather have a short time with a man 18 years younger than me than no time at all. He is 40, I am 58...no one would guess my age and would peg him in his late 40's or early 50's. I also believe it is a woman's perogative to change her mind, her hair, her weight, her age and to change the world!
This is all sooo familiar to me. I am 40, and my friend is 24. We click so well, and i I am a giver so he is spoiled and gets alot of attention that women his age dont give... . I treat him so good, he treats me special. But for him, his anxiety towards what other people think overpower any future... i know he cares for me. I know he would in a heartbeat be with me. But because of society he will not live the rest of his life with critizm. We have talked about it many times. So i enjoy what i have right now, and I hope it will last for some time yet. The only way we would work he said is to move away. And who knows maybe that will happen someday.... but for now i must stay hidden... and pretend to be his brothers friend to keep the attention off him. It is sad, how society judges every individual... age, weight, looks, skin, rich, poor. etc...
I'm in the same situation. I was trying to figure out ways to break up with him because I'm almost 48, he just turned 31. He is sooo into me. I never had anyone love me like that before but I feared his family would give him a difficult time and I don't want to see him go through struggles with his family. My friends are against it too and demand the sooner I break it off, the better. But I feel I will never have love like this ever again, so I was at a crossroads. However, I saw an advice column that said by age 30 a man is just that, a man, not a young boy, therefore he has matured and has had enough relationship experiences to make rational decisions and that it is indeed love. While at the same time, previous to dating him I got frustrated with dating men in my age group who can not get over baggage and I had to clean up the messes their Mothers, Ex-spouses & Ex-girlfriends made, so I figured about 5 years younger man would be ideal for me, however, I had no idea how wonderful dating this 31 year old would be! I can't get enough of him!
OMG I"m in love with a 30yrs old and I'm going on 46yrs old. I'm fallin in love with him and it's only been a couple of months we live together and at first worked with each other, that now has changed. I'm havin so much fun in this relationship and he is so attentive, kind, and gentle. Im just feed up with old men they are always tired and talk about meds. and aches and pains lol. But my man is so fine and has alot of tatoos and has been in jail, but I don't care i love him for being him and don't care what people think, and besides I look like I'm 35yrs. old so ladies have fun and enjoy life!
No there is nothing wrong with you . Just the society we live in.....
Congratulations for your upcoming wedding.
This post gave me courage. I am 45 and I am falling in love with a 27 years old Muslin, married man. we live in different countries, but he communicate everyday. His marriage was arranged and non of them, he or his wife are happy and the are living in separate houses. We met just one but our communication and connection is so deep that is beyond our understanding. His family has money and he is part of the family business. I am a professional, divorced woman, mother of 2. BTW my son is 2 years younger than him. He knows everything about me, but as much as he says he does not care he knows his family will oppose. At this point he's planning to live everything to come to live with me. I feel I love him, but I cannot stop thinking about all our differences.
I'm crying to hear your story. I'm 35 and in love with a 23 year old man. He said that if I'm the kind of woman that he's been looking for but because we're 12 years different so we can't be together. But I love him very much and he ever said that if i were younger he would marry me right now. and that's impossible. It's so painful.