I have masterbation problems.

Hi, first I wanna say that yes, you can get an infection wiping in the direction of your bum to your vag...cause the poo particles can get inside and cause infection, but I have to say that I have been wiping the wrong way my whole entire life...my mom always told me that I was wiping the wrong way and that I could get infection, but ever since I could make up my own mind, I've always like wiping the other way best. And I haven't had a single infection all my life. I am now 21. But I never wipe that when after taking a poop, cause as you could imagine that would be a total mess. So, if you think about it, if your wiping from the front after only taking a pee, why would you have to wipe your bum also, so really, it couldn't cause infection. To answer your other question about sticking your finger from your bum to your vagina, yes, that can cause an infection too. Although, being 21 having experience in sex I have to admit, that I have had sex where my boyfriend would go from my vagina to my ass, then to my ass, to my vagina. And I have never gotten an infection, but it is not safe. It is a risk you take. But it is not life threatening or anything like that. As far as when you stick something inside your vagina, it might hurt because you have never had sex before. No sure if you have or not, but you didn't say, so I am just assuming that you haven't had sex yet. Your first time will hurt just a little, kinda like you said, being sore. And depending on what you use to stick into yourself. You shouldn't use anything sharp that could cut inside. Including your fingernails, they should always be cut, and clean. And the other question, when I was around your age, I did the same thing. I looked at myself in the mirror, and while looking inside the hole, I noticed these little things that circled all around my hole. I wouldn't say that were pointy, as in pointy like a knife, but they were kinda sticking out like little...i don't know what, but those are normal. Lots of woman have them. And to find your clitoris, looking down at your vagina, the first thing you find, by touching around. Your clit is the small bump that sticks out a little at the very beginning of your vagina. The if you feel down more towards the hole, you will find the first hole is where you pee from, which you cannot stick your finger inside it is soooo small, then comes your vagina, then the little patch of skin before your assh*le. At your age in school, you will usually have health class soon. No sure, it's different in all schools. But soon enough you will see all kinds of diagrams of the vagina...like this one.....

http://faculty.washington.edu/alexbert/MEDEX/Fall/ExternalFemale.JPG

right click, and drag with your computer mouse to copy and paste this website, and you will see the picture

It will show you where the clit is (clitoris) and where it says (urethra opening) that's where you pee out of. I remember when I was your age, I had no idea that even was there. I use to think that my vagina was where I peed from. So one day, this is real embarrassing, I put my hands down there when I was peeing, and finally found the hole where we pee from. So, we actually have three holes down there...it's still weird to me now. And of course you will see where your vagina and your butt is (anus).

As far as masturbating. Like you said in your post, people say to rub the clit. If you use your middle finger, or whatever finger is comfortable to you, to place onto you clit, which you can do by spreading your lips down there open, or you can just work your way to it, either one, doesn't matter...but massage your clit with your finger by putting a little bit of pressure down while you rotate your finger into a circle pattern. If you clench you vagina while doing that, as like when you clench down to stop yourself from peeing. It brings on orgasm. It might take awhile to actually orgasm, while rubbing it should start to feel good, and it should get better and better while you rub. And eventually you will reach orgasm. And you will know, cause it kinda feels like a great bursting sensation down there. Also while doing that, you can try and point your toes to the sky, as in like having your toes reach for something. Now remember while doing this to let go, and just have fun trying. Don't get yourself all frustrated by waiting, and thinking..."geez when is this ever gonna happen?" And DON'T GIVE UP! Cause if you keep waiting, and waiting, you might just wanna give up, and then orgasm will never happen. I know that that still happens to me. I'll be having sex with my boyfriend, and he will be close to orgasm, and I won't be, so I'll be just thinking about it the whole time, and it never happens, and then if stops being fun. So, just have fun...and let me know what you thought about my reply. Here are a couple more websites to read about masturbation, maybe they might help- Jill

GOOD LUCK! And let me know if I helped out any!

oh em gee THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH.....u were awsome! and yea we did talk about sex in 6th grade it was soo boring.........-cough-untill they started talking about boys-cough- o_o....heh lol xD by the way u were great help but u no how they say to "spread your legs?" well wene i do that and start rubbing my clit it starts to get dry is that just cuz of the air around?bcuz once it gets dry it doesnt rlly feel "pleasurable" but rlly do you "stick" something up your vigina hole inorder to masterbate? but wut i rlly wnted to say is that YOU WERE ARWZUM HELP! I RLLY APPREATIAT IT! THNKS

U don't have to spread your legs if you don't want too...I don't, and yeah, it can get dry because of the air, but your clit does not get wet, you vag should as you go, and if it's dry try using a little bit of spit if your comfortable. And yeah, sometimes I use something to put in me to masturbate, and I rub my clit at the same time. And honestly, to let you in on something...not all woman can orgasm through penetration. I know I don't. If I just have sex, and don't rub my clit, I WILL NOT have an orgasm. Some woman just can't. It's a perfectly common thing. So usually when I masturbate I'm just stimulating my clit to orgasm....so don't ever think that theres anything wrong with your down stairs area...because the womans "downstairs" is a verry confusing thing. The only way to figure out what turns you on, is to feel around yourself. Awweee...and thank u so0o much for thinking I was awesome...I'm so glad to help. And hey if you ever have any other questions about anything, just ask me k! ....-Jill

another thing is im kinda afraid to cuz it hurts when i try im scared >=o i wish i wasnt cuz i REALY REALY wanna get that "pleasure" i just need ALOT of motivation but im not saying u werent any help i meen like u were GREAT help! =D im just still a lttle afraid :$

Yes it is wheres itd located u need my to make it feel good