My 14 Year Old Daughter and 24 year old guy

Hold on, report him after you know who he is,unless he's a good person, them make your daughter break up with him. He could be a pedo or something. It's the best thing for your daughter. If they have sex, isn't 8 years older and older rape? I heard that from somewhere. My parents have talked to me about rape, ect. Talk to her about it, don't go behind her back. If you do, and she turns against you, try to talk to her. I know it is awkward and all, but it's a simple fact of life. My ex-friend dated a 24 year old guy, and she's 11! She went to the movies with her and her other friend and the guy. During the movie, she gave him a bj. I'm sorry but, I almost called the cops, but I didn't. I'm letting all of the things she does accumulate, and I will tell her mother. Any way, TALK to her. But please do no go behind her back. Good luck with it!

In modern society I feel as if the chances of a 24 year old and a 14 year old working it out properly emotionally is far and in between. Social experiences are too different. During the previous times this was much more common just due to the fact that all people had to mature at a faster rate or at least share most of the same experiences by the age of 14. The way our society is organized now, most people do not even start working and "level out" emotionally until they are out of college around the age of 22. Of course I would like to believe that there are rare instances where the 14 year old is much more mature for their age and the 24 year old is mature as well but like I said it is rare. Just jumping to the conclusion that the 24 year old is planning something and reporting him to the police is a rash and inappropriate I would say. Bring him/her in and have a talk with the 14 year old. Open dialog works most of the time.

who do you go to to report a22 year old guy, hanging around a 14 year old girl, and a37 yr. man with a 15 yr.old girl. buying them things? the police won't help, they say they have to catch them doing something.

Im in the same situation, but I reported him, he is going to get jail time

I understand where this woman is coming from, I have a 15 yr old daughter who got involved with a grown man while visiting with her father over the summer, I was outraged when I found out he took her innocence at the age of 14,  I had to turn him over to the police, What he did was more than wrong, besides, what happens when he is done with my daughter and starts praying on someone else's child? Its not just something about my daughter he found attractive and womanly, he saw a child innocent, pure who's mind body and emotions were controllable,  She is a victim even if she doesn't think it yet.

 I agree that when we are that young we are NOT old enough to make valuable or reasonable decisions about our future!! There is a reason why you are considered a child till the age of 21 and the age of consent isnt until 18 in most states,

Please protect your child and get her help if she needs it, My daughter is in a treatment facility right now cause he got her hooked on drugs and is suffering from severe depression because of the things he put in her head.......Please Do the right thing.

This isn't a common issue, it all depends on the man she is interested in, if hes an as****e (they come in all age, races and sizes people) then it could end up bad, but me personally, I'll give you some insight.

I'm 24, I'm a Virgin as I suffered most of my life with Social Anxiety Disorder preventing me from having any relationships. Recently it got better, and I started to come out of my shell. This one girl I kinda met (its online) is amazing, shes goregous, funny, kind, caring... She is what I envision happyness to be if it had a bodily form. When we first started talking she said she was 16, because she feared I wouldn't talk to her otherwise, and shes right... well, kind of. I would have spoken to her but never even considered her as a person I could be with.

I recently found out shes 14, and no no no. We haven't done anything yet, we haven't even met. But we are both crazy about eachother, at first I called things off as thats what the Social standard is, 24 year old with a 14 year old? Disgusting you all say!

Well here's some facts;

1. Shes been in more relationships than me
2. Females are 4 years ahead of Males in maturity, scientific fact.
3. Human beings are the only species to put an age restriction on love.
4. Society is far more strict on older males and younger females than older females and younger males, sexism is not something to be desired.


Now, I've told her that nothing will ever happen between us without her mothers consent (her father has passed). And if she gets that, I will work on my family and explain the situation. If her mother and my family understand our situation (the fact I'm about as emotionally mature as she is)

Then where does the problem really lie?

These laws are half baked and even a quite Wikipedia search shows Statutory Rape is mainly there to save time and money when prosecuting forced rape in minors. (look it up if this didnt make sense)


Anyway, my advice is you meet the guy. If he doesn't seem like a nice guy, perhaps consider reporting him. If he comes across as a nice bloke, just keep an eye on them. Like many who have posted here already have said, they started a relationship are similar ages and are now happily married.

its not illegal with parent consent. but im in the same situation im 14 and i was dating a 16 year old but he broke my heart i was in tears then my bestfriend who is 24 steped in an said he had always liked me alot. its not wrong as long as her mother is ok with it and the girl is happy u guys say she can protect her daughter from getting hurt? no, its going to happen weather yoou like or not and more thn once too. i would put her on birth controll and make sure condoms are used. tell ur daughter that she needs to come to you if she thinks she's ready to have sex so u can talk to her and ask her to give a good reson why she wants to gve it up to this guy. maybe they will last out and defie all the ods u guys are seting. ik im 14 but ive been through hella lot before the 24 year old in my life just trust me get invovled but dont controll it.. just be a mom and be there for her when she needs to talk abt stuff.. hope u the best with this.

i think you should not re port him cause that will mess up your realitonship with her,, but talk with her , keep your cool 

First of all the guy isnt a Paedophie. Paedophiles are attracted to prepubescent girls. Secondly this 14 yr old girl chose to fall in love with this guy and have a relationship. While this may sound bad, you all might be just jumping to conclusions. 24 years is not OLD ! She finds his company attractive. There is nothing wrong about falling in love. It is just that our society is brainwashed into believing that a younger girl going out with a much older guy is in some perverse way terribly bad. When you fall in love, rules dont govern your affections and desires. It just happens. As long as this guy is decent to the girl, what does it matter? Just make sure he doesnt make her pregnant or give her STDs and that NO drugs and alcohol are involved. Some girls find the companionship of older guys just very exciting and fulfilling. Guys their age dont interest them. 

wow.. it stinks of Paranoia and insecurity on your part.

kick her ass out it illegal that 24 she is a s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** s*** the guys needs to go to jail my big sister did not started dating when she was 17 thats illegal and wrong

I am 25 and in love with a 14 year old girl, she is more mature than any girl my age, and is the sweetest thing under the sun. I would never hurt her, or do anything to ruin her teen years. I treat her good, I do everything for her, we are genuinely in love, and who is to say that we cannot be together? I understand that a 10 year age gap can be disgusting, especially if the person is just trying to have sex with the minor. I didn't go after her, she came after me, and after days spent together, we fell in love. I feel we are soul mates, I've never had a woman treat me good, I've been mentally abused and cheated on by every girl I've ever been with. I will be with this girl until someone physically locks us away from eachother. I don't care about sex, or anything like it, I am just emotionally enraptured in her essence, in her being, in her soul, and she feels the same. It's a shame we have to hide it from everyone, its a shame we hardly get to see each other, it isn't fair that we can't shout from the rooftops our love, but a few bad apples have ruined the way our society thinks. I am a good man, and I treat her good, better than anyone ever could. Whoever thinks that I am wrong and should go to prison for being in love, YOU are wrong. I wish people understood.

This is happening a lot in modern society but the ones involved are keeping quiet because of the social anger that it attracts. I understand how you two could have fallen in love. Just be nice to her and make sure no one knows. This is between the two of you. Even if you both decide to have sex, just make sure you dont make her pregnant or infect her. I hope no drugs and stuff are involved. Love will triumph. Good luck.

well said Alicia. You cannot control who you fall in love with. I have been in that situation too. People keep saying older guys take advantage and manipulate your mind and stuff like that. Do they think we are dumb just because we are 13 and 14 and cannot handle such situations?? Yes I enjoyed being seduced when I was 13. I had this much older boyfriend. He was 29 but he treated me so well and cared for me. Yes he seduced me but it was the best 3 years of my life. I didnt tell my parents. I continued with school. I got great grades and he made sure I didnt get pregnant. He was a gentleman. He showed me affection and I experienced love. The sex was fabulous unlike what might have happened if I had sex with a guy my age. Guys my age dont interest me in the least. Go with your heart. Thats what i say.

I am now 42 and I got involved with a 23yr old ex con when I was 14 My family was loving God Bless my grandma she raised me and my mom but I got pregnant and married to him I was 14 he was abusive emotionally, physically at times The effects of that relationship followed me negatively my entire life my moms defense is I wanted be with Him of course he paid attention to me made me feel good about myself at first Anyway the point is I ended up using drugs later to kill emotional pain and mental effects this had Since I got a beautiful lil boy out relationship which at 14SAME I wasnt equipped be a Mom so that made me feel even more worthless I Am so happy know u are seeking help and advice PLZ KNOW SHE WILL END UP STUNTING HER MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH, LOSE HER YOUTH AND FOREVER BE MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY SCARRED at least I am I Have daughter now and I put him.6ft under if I had to keep him away from my child