My boyfriend would rather masterbate than have sex with me!

What can change a man. To want real p***y then his hand. I have thick thighs slim wast fat ass. Nice titties why don't he want me. Every time I leave he is at it. He sleeps all day because he stays up late and waits for me to fall a sleep so he can beat 90 going north. It's making me really hate him.

Omg this is my current situation right now I just dont understand how in the morning I try to orally please him is refused then goes and jerks off in the bathroom?

my boyfriend hardly ever has sex with me, maybe once a week twice but only if i initiate.
i found him on tinder and seen his searxh history filled with porn. when he finally decided to talk to me he told me and assured me he would never go out and cheat on me and that hes just curious and turned on.
he said he cant help but feel sexually attracted to other women. he used the words "i cant help but feel the need to put my load in as many women as possible. its almost primal." he said he loves and cares about me and we work perfectly in a relationship in every way apart from sex but he also contridicts himself sometimes by telling me he just needs to f**k someone else then he will be turned on for me.. he also says he dosnt want to hurt me..
i decided to let the realtionship be open even tho i myself dont have any desire or need to sleep with someone else..
he went on a date with a girl and came back. he said there was no spark but he managed to kiss her at the end of the night and he said that made him really turned on for me.
he said he needs to feel sexual and kissing her made him feel less sexually trapped.
i guess i just dont know what to do. i feel gross. i dont feel like he loves me at all.
hes addicted to porn and is constantly wanting sex from everyone but his girlfriend.
weve been open for 3 weeks now. he hasnt slept with anyone else.
hes moody and i dont know what to do.
i want sex but i guess he just got bored of me

My boyfriend did the same thing and when I told him I want intimacy and love he told me I had that with my husband but I left him. That was harsh I guess he was saying that because he doesn't want the same things . Hes just using me and he also told me that he cant get his when we sleep together and he was never attracted to me in that way. So I assume the sex was just to keep me around. Men are users and a lot of them just want to put there penis in everything they see and some of them use you through sex. I'm sorry your man rather beat his penis. It doesn't mean something's wrong with you it just means that men are pigs but if you do it your in the wrong

My boyfriend did the same thing and when I told him I want intimacy and love he told me I had that with my husband but I left him. That was harsh I guess he was saying that because he doesn't want the same things . Hes just using me and he also told me that he cant get his when we sleep together and he was never attracted to me in that way. So I assume the sex was just to keep me around. Men are users and a lot of them just want to put there penis in everything they see and some of them use you through sex. I'm sorry your man rather beat his penis. It doesn't mean something's wrong with you it just means that men are pigs but if you do it your in the wrong

It’s great that you will just masterbate instead of
Cheat, that’s awesome. My guy will sty up all night while I work and then be super tired when it’s time foer me to sleep and instead of sleeping in bed with me, will stay up until I go to sleep, watch porn and Jack off to anal sex videos. He doesn’t Do it to videos with standard sex, just anal. I keep telling him I want sex, I am a virgin to anal, but once a week we will
Have sex and I’ll try to do anal, it won’t work I’m a virgin, but once a week is not enough. I try to grab at him, play with him to get sex, but he just don’t give in easily, and when he does it’s that once a week. It’s the worse relationship I’ve ever had, but I keep trying to make it work and I’m tired of watching, waiting and determine when he’s going to realize to please me. Who had known I need to leave a man for lack of sex ??? Guys any ideas ?

Hi

It sounds like your boyfriend might prefer to be in a relationship with another guy.
Everything you said in your post sounds like he is really not into woman and has no consideration for you and cares very little about how you feel.

I just want to say that I am thankful for this blog because now I am 100% positive that I am not alone, that I am not the problem. We are not the problem, selfish addicted boys are to blame!

Mine guy started watching anal porn all the time because it causes issues for me. So we only do anal maybe 2 times a year, so in the mean time he watches porn and will masturbate... it has become a major problem because when we do have sex, he cant stay hard and/or cant get off.... i do not think he is gay, he just has an anal fetish that i cant keep up with... ive been with my man for 18 years and we are still tryin to figure it out.. i think i just need yo leave because i dont get my needs satisfied and he has tried to not watch porn, he might make it a few weeks without it but then it starts again.. it is a vicious cycle that he wont seek therapy for, so its never going to end. I am going to have to end my relationship, i wish this problem wouldve started whrn we first got together cause it wouldve been easier to leave.. good luck

Offer to jerk him off instead, convince him he can be more comfortable with you even if it's not during sex, maybe he's watching something he's not sure you'd be into or he's just having his alone time, some guys just need to nut

I know it sucks I have one like that and I'm ready to get rid of them I'm sorry I'm just tough I don't tolerate that

Beat this one. When we get started being intimate we get all hot and heavy he gets a hard-on and then says I have to run and use the bathroom jerks off comes back and now he's not interested in having anything to do with me because he already ejaculated how do you like that

Not acceptable behavior

The one thing I can't stand hearing is that people say quote oh masturbating is normal I say oh yeah well go masturbate and don't have a girlfriend leave me alone that's my answer not acceptable.

I don't think it's your breasts, thighs, butt or waist, it's easier and less emotional to interact with porn than you.
Can you help him take the initiative more often and say taking the initiative would make me feel more appreciated, attractive, loved and cared for.
See if he wants to go to a sex therapist to get to the deeper issues.