what losing your virginity at fourteen does to you.

was it worth it

The diapers and plastic pants and undershirt are worn under the communion dresses to represent the girls purity and innocence of when they were baptized as babies.Some parishes require the girls to wear them and at some others it is a tradition to wear them.Yes teen boys do get very turned on and aroused by seeing them on their girlfriends under their communion dresses.

Okay, this is something very new to me. Is this for the Catholics or all christians in general?

You're not impure, you're human. God still loves you and whether or not you know it, not being a virgin anymore doesn't mean you're a horrible person. It just means that you've made mistakes like all of us and it happened. If I'm going to be honest, I think the first guy who did it may have raped you knowingly. Sexual assault is when someone touches another person in a sexual manner without their consent. He knew you were drunk and when you're drunk, your can't think clearly and aren't in a mentally stable enough place to give consent. See here in this article (Teen Vogue, 2017): "There are a few things people are missing when they ask these questions. First, there are differences between tipsy and incapacitated by alcohol. Of course if you're at all unsure it's best to wait until everyone's sober. But in general, someone who is slurring their words, stumbling, unable to be coherent, or obviously passed out, is too drunk to consent. Additionally, we often mistake issues of alcohol and consent for being about not knowing how drunk someone is. The reality is that people can use alcohol like a date rape drug. That means someone will either push alcohol on someone or seek out an extremely intoxicated person with the intention of taking advantage of that intoxication to cross boundaries. It’s very common for someone to use alcohol as a way to lower someone’s boundaries or ability to consent. Pushing alcohol on someone to the point where they’re incapacitated (slurring words, stumbling, don’t remember what happens the next day) is particularly insidious because it leads to victim blaming people who were drunk when they were assaulted."

Going back to your situation, I think 1. it's best to have sex when you're already married to this guy because if you wait for marriage, a time where both of you are fully willing to commit to each other in front of other people, then it will make you feel much safer and reassured that he isn't going to leave you. and depending on your beliefs, it might make you feel good or less guilty about doing it because having sex as a married couple isn't sinful in any regard. (for me at least).
If you have sex with him again and he leaves you, it might make it be more painful because it may seem as though he left taking a part of you you trusted him with. anyways, even if you are married, both of you still have the rights to respect each other, meaning no one should be feeling forced or uncomfortable during it. and yes, ofc you can wait until you feel like it. just because you're married doesn't mean your partner has "ownership rights" right? that's quite gross. Going back to your mom, you should definitely tell her. It will break her heart at first but she should know. as your mother who cares for you, I am absolutely sure she would rather have you crying with her and being comforted later than you having to keep it all to yourself while she watches in oblivion. She wants to help you. and just because she'll be hurt finding out you're not a virgin, doesn't mean she will hate you. absolutely not! in fact, after the pain of finding out, she'll be there with you, updated about your life, comforting you and hugging you and telling you that it's going to be okay. as your mother, it's her job to be updated of your life and help you when you need her. she's there so please just tell her. her support will lift you up in the long run as well. and keep praying. i don't know if you're religious or not but i can tell you that there's a God who cares even if you don't feel it and that God is Jesus. thank you and i hope you have a good day today

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To Danielle-It is done in Catholic parishes,but not all of them! It is how the parish views purity and abstinance before marriage and in general.I have heard tho of a couple mentions of girls in some orthodox church having to wear white dresses and a diaper for confirmation.

Thank you. I didnt know this was and still is the practice.

I’m 14 and I lost my virginity two nights ago. My parents are really strict and don’t want me dating anyone right now because of past mistakes I’ve made with a boy being manipulative. But then I met this guy and he’s so sweet and wanted to get to know me. So as we got to know eachother I started frequently sneaking out to see him or lying to my parents about where I was so I could be with him. He had previously hinted that he did want to have sex but never straight out said it. Then the other night I had snuck out and we were together and he asked if I was ready and I said yes. So he drove me to a little wooded place where no one could see us and we did it in the backseat. We both consented and wanted to do it but I just feel so guilty about it. And my parents don’t know anything about it. And I feel unclean. But i don’t know if it was wrong or not or if I should feel like this

Nothing wrong about having sex and wanting to do it. It is not dirty for you to feel unclean. I think your guilt is working overtime. You like each other, he is sweet and you got to know each other and you both consented. Thats great. It is not wrong to want to be intimate with the one you like/love/have a crush on. Sex is best enjoyed when you do it with the one you fancy.
My only question is if you took precautions and if you are on the pill or if he used a condom.
Presumably, he is older for him to be able to driving a car. No problem with that too BUT just make sure you dont get him into trouble if you believe you both want to be together for a while.
I had a much older boyfriend too when I lost my virginity at 13ish and it was the best thing to have happened to me. We just made sure we kept it quiet so no one found out and we had so much fun.
Please get rid of the guilt. Guilt can be damaging and is a useless emotion. You have done nothing wrong. Just enjoy yourselves BUT please dont fall pregnant. That would be disastrous and you will get the guy in trouble. Tell me, why do you think it is wrong? and, why do you feel dirty?? Is it with you being very religious?? I always say " it doesnt matter if you feel ready or not BUT it is very important to be prepared for when it happens, so you dont fall pregnant"

Weed, sex, and being rebellious as hell? Then don't change a thing, Girl.

I was 11 when i made my First Holy Communion and my parish required all of us girls to wear a cloth diaper and rubberpants with white tights and an under shirt under our communion dresses.

I honestly cant believe this. Just find this very unusual and unnecessary. I mean, what the church imposes on young girls. 

I agree BUT it is important to also keep safe and to be prepared for when sex happens.

The diapers and plastic pants are worn under the communion dresses to represent the girls purity of her baptism as an infant.

wasnt aware of such a practice. Thanks for clarifying. Must be uncomfortable especially if they are made out of plastic - sweaty and unhealthy. Just awful!!