Why would you want to reject him? Do you like him enough to want to have sex with him? if the answer is yes, then go ahead and you dont need to ask anyone for validation. This is your body, your need and your birth right. No one else has any ownership over that and only you must decide.
My only worry is that because he is so young, you may not have the best experience because guys at that age are really awkward and dont know how to please a girl. I believe that your first time must be the best. You deserve that and we should never compromise on that.
Just make sure there is plenty of foreplay, you have somewhere nice and private so you have the privacy, that he does a lot of oral sex on you and makes you orgasm even before he penetrates you and that you use a lot of lube to assist him penetrating you.
Also make sure you are taking precautions against pregnancy ( pill and condoms ) and that he isnt suffering from STDs. But if it is his first then I am sure he is clean.
Oral sex, mutual masturbation, clitoral stimulation ( him sucking on it, massaging it, fingering ) are a must.
Enjoy. Let us know how it goes
I lost my virginity at the same age and I completely do not regret it. However, mine had been consensual. You were intoxicated which is considered rape since he was sober... I had done tons of research and talked to multiple adults about when is the “right time”. The truth is, as long as it’s protected and a healthy relationship, when you feel like it is time and the person deserves that part of you... give it. I feel like society has got too stuck up on the idea of “losing” your virginity... you’re not losing anything but in fact can open you to a whole new life and adventures with your partner.
The only reason the OP felt remorseful or depressed (or even believed she should be in a relationship with the boy she lost her virginity with!) is because she was raised in a culture which infantilises, re t ards the self-educational ability of, and generally insults, young people of both genders. I wish I had lost my (proper) virginity at that age - if I had gained the confidence to approach someone for sex, and got it, I'm in no doubt it would have been good for me, it would have enabled me to overcome my inhibitions, grow back my self-belief, earlier.
i was 14 years old when i lost my virginity and i seriously regret it. it was a terrible mistake as a stupid teenager and it still bothers me. my first boyfriend in high school i dated for only 8 months and it wasnt a great relationship but he told me he loved me so i believed that i loved him too. he was 2 years older than me and was not a virgin. we never even talked to each other about having sex. i remember a mutual friend of ours had asked me if i ever talked to him about it because he had already wanted to be sexual with me. before that it wasnt on my mind at all but i started to feel pressured and i felt that i had to have sex with him so we could stay together. i figured if i was going to lose my virginity it should be with him because i thought we were in love. i ended up giving away my virginity after only 3 months of dating and we had sex multiple times through the rest of our relationship. a part of me always felt guilty and ashamed but at the time i believed it was okay. i never felt like i was completely into it as much as i should have been and now i know it's because i never really wanted to have sex in the first place. i felt so much pressure and i was so young. letting someone take something so precious from me was a horrible mistake and that is something i have to live with for the rest of my life. as a teenager, i thought i was making the right decision. now i wish i had somebody to talk to before doing that to myself.
You didnt have a good experience because the guy was inept and selfish. Happens when you have sex with inexperienced guys.
If you weren't into it then you should not have had sex. You did and now you whinge.
Remember sex isnt bad, neither is losing your virginity. Sex is fun and very enjoyable. The experience can be so good and I can tell you from my own experience with a much older guy, I enjoyed the entire time I was having sex with this guy. I was 13ish when I had my very first experience. The guy was a master. He took his time, made sure I was not anxious, helped me relax and took his time with foreplay and oral sex and I had numerous orgasms even before he sexually penetrated me. I wanted more. I didnt feel bad or guilty like you feel. I kept going back to him for more and more and I never came to any harm and he was a gentleman.
why were you made to wear these things at 14??
And, your boyfriend got turned on by these?
I really can't believe what I am reading.
im 14 and i just lost my virginity to this guy. i wasnt on any pills, but he used a condom so i think im fine. but i feel the same as you do.. i feel like im living a lie.. i cant tell my parents cause they would beat the c**p outta me and i dont even think i can trust any of my friends (which means they probablyyy arent good friends). i told myself that i was going to wait for someone that i truly loved and trusted but i guess thats not gonna happen. im not even in high school yet and i just had sex with a guy in the "woods". i dont really know who i am anymore... i used to be this straight a student who did everything her parents wanted her to do and helped out at church on the weekends.the girl who did everything she was told. never argued never broke any rules, i was the "perfect daughter". now im the girl who actually fights back and doesnt take sh*t from people. i started vaping and sucking off random dudes for nic... my life is a total mess... and part of me likes it cause i feel free but another part of me just feels like... maybe this is bad... i mean, for the first time in my life, i actually feel happy and i feel good about myself cause im being me, but i also have to then pretend to be someone else in front of my parents and other people. its like im living a double life. and thats really stressful. so i understand how you feel. and you know, i dont think theres anything wrong with what your doing, as long as your happy and its not hurting you (mentally and/or physically). but from what im reading here, your not and its hurting you... all im gonna say is, im here to talk if you ever need me. even if i barely know you. and your probably never gonna see this comment anyways, but here is my discord PrincetonGirl818#8023 im here if you ever need :) - iggy
Thats okay to feel that way. This is the result of the guilt that has been instilled in you.
Sex is normal and natural and okay to do. The thing is that you need to be careful and you must make sure you dont get pregnant or STDs.
I am glad you feel good about being yourself. That's great and sounds like you can hadle the sex which you seem to like and enjoy.
I started very early too and I didnt regret it. I enjoyed it thoroughly. I used to think my orgasms were feelings of love and I became so addicted to those sensations, feelings and emotions that went with sex and having orgasms. I had a much older guy who I loved and who actually looked after me and made sure I came to no harm. I was lucky. He was the best thing that happened to me and a true confidence booster. He would make sure my grades didnt suffer and I began topping my class. You need to take precautions and make sure you dont fall pregnant.
I would advise you to stop vaping. Just be careful of sucking off random guys. Now that will get you into problems. If you dont know the guys and who they have slept with sucking off those random guys could see you contracting STDs and that would be disastrous. So these are things to be careful about.
Make sure your grades do well and you can still do all the good things you do at church. Having sex does not make you a monster. Remember, God created you to have sex.
If you want to you could slowly confide in your parents and tell them you have been sexually active. Thats if your folks are broad minded. Good luck!