Abortion regret 'lasts for years'

We are not perfect. So please learn to forgive yourself
We have all incarnated on Earth to learn our lessons. And you have learnt this lesson well.
God is all about forgiveness.

Sit in prayer and ask God to give you forgiveness
Ask The baby for forgiveness and offer your forgiveness.
Speak to the Baby soul and ask the Angels to take the soul
to Heaven after healing the traumas caused by the pregnancy
Ask your body to be healed too,
Then chant the Mantra
OM SAI RAMA OM SAI RAMA OM SAI RAMA
for about 20 mins and do this for a period of 7 days
I will pray for you too.
For I see you as a good soul
Bless you.

Amarjit

i did the most horrible thing I could of ever of done two days ago, August 31,2010 at about 8:35 am. I had an abortion, and it is the worst thing i have ever done. I wish i can take it back. Just last night i was fixing my hair and i just started screaming and crying yelling " Give me my baby back" like somebody stole it from me. but no nobody took it, i signed the papers to have it aborted and i dont think i will ever be the same.

When i first found out i was pregnant i was excited and knew that i was going to keep it. My boyfriend is the one that suggested we have an abortion, because i was just starting school i was 19 and he was jsut starting school as well, we talked about it constituly for a month, i then decided that maybe it was the right thing to do. So on that day we left the house at 6 in the morning, we drove 45 mintues to get there, he left because he had class and i told him i didnt want him missing it. so i filled out the paperwork, did the sonogram, which they didnt even let me see, i did the short counseling session, then i went back into the room, got up on the table, and bawled while a nurse was holding my hand, i didnt have any sedation, so i could fee everything. The thing that hurts me the most was after it was done i walked outside and waited on the bench for my boyfriend which i thought he would be a couplek of hours, but i only waited for about 15 mintues and i saw him pull up, he was comign to tell me not to do it, he thought it wouldnt of been done by then, but it was. And i can never take it back. I jsut feel so lonely like something is missing. i just want my baby back.

I was only 15 when I fell pregnant....
I realised I couldnt have had a baby at that age, I had no money was already living in a 3 bedroom house with four people and the father was cheating on me while I was to sick to get out of bed each day. When my mum found out I was pregnant she made it clear shed support me with what ever choice I made and I told her straight out abortion thinking it was the right thing and what she wanted to hear and for atleast 1-2 weeks both my mum and my dad( who wasnt living with me due to parents braking up) were always saying they would do what ever I wanted and keept asking if I really wanted the abortion. One day my dad had said he wasnt ready for being a grandpa and that convinced me even more to go through with an abortion.
I went to a womens clinic had a meeting with a doctor there and organised a date for the abortion and I was dead set on going through with it. Id spend so many weeks throwing up all day every day and hadnt eaten for atleast a week at one point because I couldnt see the point if i was going to throw up.
It came to the day and I can remember it so well id spent the hole trip in the back seat of my car with mum and dad infront throwing up id gotten there and I was the youngest there, most the people had their husbands there with them but there I was just 15. I remember trying to get into the gown and sitting on the warm bed, my dad went in with me while I was getting put to sleep he held my hand and told me I was very brave, I saw a tear go down his face. When I got out I felt fine, I didnt feel different but I felt releaved that I didnt have so much to deal with. I was fine for at max a year and then I started crying myself to sleep everynight thinking I killed my baby... to this day I regret it with all my heart and my boyfriend I have now said I had no choice, but why? My boyfriend doesnt see how much pain I go through. Sometimes Ill love spending time with my 2 yr old cousin just thinkin id have a 2-3 yr old now but others I cant bear to see children, Its like a knife stabbing me deep in the chest. If I was told it would cause this much pain I would have walked out that clinic. I can never forgive myself.

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I have just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant and I'm 25. I am confused, sad, alone, and lost. I slept with a friend of mine that I randomly ran into over the summer. I knew the minute conception happened. I kept getting the feeling that I was positive I was pregnant over the last couple of weeks. I called the father/friend today and at first he was totally freaked out but he called me back and apologized. He was so sweet about it, he said he would help me in any way that he could and I told him I was going to make an appointment to have an abortion. I could hear the relief in his voice and it made me sad. The more I think about it I'm not sure I would ever be able to forgive myself if I abort this child. I know this child's life would be filled with all the love in the world and money isn't an issue. The only problem I see is that we wouldn't be together as a couple and that would hurt me. I would want the baby to have both parents living under the same roof. The fact that he is such a nice guy is what is really not helping me. What do I do?

my boyfriend and i made love on aug21...and ii started spotting the next day..but my cycle was supposed to come that day,but instead the spotting was on and off for about 2 1/2 days...then my cycle actually showed up 5
days late. I have had terrible headaches cramps breast tenderness dizzines for the last 3wks.! Also, i have been eating more and getting very hungry alot lately and i am exhausted all the time. I had an unsual cold, flu symptoms,and diarrhea during this time. Now my cycle is supposed to come by the 15th...although it should've been today but it came late last month..I have taken two tests and they both came back negative...then i started cramping in the middle of intercourse recently.!Can someone please give me some feedback

In February 2010 something changed... Being stupid and not using any form of BC except the fact my BF had a vasectomy, I got pregnant. I didn't know. I had my yearly exam aprox one week after conceiving and I guess I wasn't pregnant enough for it to come up at the appt. Three months of in my face symptoms and I never clued in... Heartburn, horribly emotional, no period... I thought it was stress. I was unemployed, my BF was deploying, my ex husband always on my case. My bf deployed and I had a job interview... For some reason I finally clued in and decided to get a pregnancy test... I was sure it would be negative. Even with my son It was negative... But no... I was in shock. How could I be pregnant... My bf had a vasectomy I couldn't be... But I was. Oh yeah I am a mechanic and after 5 months of no work I was told that day that I got the job... I had to tell my bf... I was so scared... I knew I had done nothing wrong and he is the love of my life and all my life i have been accused of things I haven't done. kind of a curse for me. I was even arrested at 15 charged with 4 felonies that i did not commit. Thankfully by some stroke of luck I was cleared. My bf and I tell each other everything... I waited nervously and anxiously for him to get online. I dreaded every minute that went by... I could only put myself in his shoes and that was scary. i thought for sure he would hate me, jump to conclusions, not believe that I didn't cheat. But once again I was in shock.... He said calm down, lets talk. He used his phone call to call and talk to me in person and we talked. I think every woman has the right to choose but I told myself I would NEVER have one. Not me. But someone else was controlling the words coming out of my mouth and i suggested it. My son had major complications in euturo and I almost died... I told my bf all this and asked what to do. He said he couldn't make the decision for me but would be there no matter what I chose... After a day he was in the Abortion Mindset... said he would pay for it... After a day I was having second thoughts but couldn't tell him.... I didn't tell him until I was already at the clinic... I had hours of waiting. I could have walked out anytime. I was a wreck... crying and breaking down.... He reminded why I chose what I did so i stayed... I had seen the ultrasound of my 3 month old baby multiple times at that point... I knew it was healthy... I knew i was fine...but I stayed... They checked my blood for anemia... I am severly anemic and the nurse said I couldn't do this... I begged her to let me stay. I gave her 50 dollars... back to the waiting room I went. 1 hour later I was crying and yelling at that same nurse to just let me get it over with... Finally I was on the table... Cold alone and waiting... still can turn back. The doctor came in. She sat down and grabbed her tools.... I bawled... It was the absolute worse thing I could experience... She finished and left the room... while I was still laying there an young nurse I guess needed to check something... I hate her for that.... I saw the baby I had just killed... the baby I saw kicking and rolling over just 7 hours before... f**k I hate her for that... Why couldn't she wait until I was out of the room? I cried for the rest of the weekend. Come monday i put on my poker face and started y new job... I was the only girl working for them out of 75 guys... I couldn't be a blubbering mess....

My so thoughtful boyfriend stopped me from talking about it with him... I had to forget it he said... He wasn't there. He was 7000 miles away. He said later we'll talk later... He got home 4 months later.... I had been having nightmares... wasn't sleeping wasn't eating... and He still would not talk about it. I can't talk about it... All my friends are either pregnant or just had there babies and mine would be 2 and 1/2 months old now... And its not. I can't get away from it. I am constantly depressed, underweight even though I'm eating, always sick, sleep deprived... My bf left me on my birthday, called me crazy... hmm I wonder why. I am a well grounded person. I am not emotional I don't cry and I fix big trucks for therapy... But I am diff now...

I have no regrets none whatsoever in my life except this one. If I could go back to that day I would walk out of the clinic. Please, If you are considering abortion please read everything you can on it and don't tell yourself you'll be ok afterwards... expect the worst from yourself and fight it... whatever you use for justification, keep telling yourself that... keep justifying it...If you can't do that then I don't suggest abortion.

I had an abortion in December 2009 at the age of 19. It was through stupidity and carelessness that I got pregnant (drinking too much and having a one night stand, not using a condom thinking 'It won't happen to me, I won't get pregnant').
As soon as I found out I knew straight away what I wanted to do. I wasn't emotionally or economically ready to bring another life into this world and care for it, I was still childlike myself and just a student with no steady job and no boyfriend to help. Both my Mum and my Sister had a child before the age of 18 and I didn't want to fall into the same situation as them of having a child too young. The thought of giving a child up for adoption was more distessing to me than having an abortion, the thought of having this baby inside me fo 9 months and then giving it away and having no contact with it for 18 years+ (or worse never having any contact with the child) so I just knew I wanted to have an abortion.
I still feel it was the right thing to do, I've been able to carry on at university and with my life but I do have those days whee I think to myself 'what if..' you know like what if I had kept my child, how different would my life be? Would I have a better or worse life? Was that my only chance of having a child? And sometimes I do feel the odd feeling of regret, like maybe having the child would have added some perspective to my life and would have made me grow up and be more responsible than I am. Although I've seen people I've been to school with having kids and having experience of young mothers in the family I know it was the right thing to do and if I had the opportunity to go back I would still make the same choice and I don't feel guilty about thinking like this even though there are women in this world who would give up anything to have a child of their own.
Anyway the reason I'm writing here is to help those who may be deciding whether or not to have an abortion, it's your choice and if you feel it's the right thing for you then don't feel guilty or bad - it's your choice after all, also you have other options (keeping the child or giving it up for adoption) and if for whatever reason you do feel depressed or anything similar to this, if you have the abortion, go get help from your doctor or talk about it to other people, don't suffer in silence!
I hope this has helped.

I am nearly 7 weeks pregnant. i dont know what to do, this baby has been on my mind since i found out i was pregnant. this was a very unplanned pregnancy and i just dont know what to do. i am 22 years old and my boyfriend of nearly 5 years wants nothing to do with this baby, he wants me to terminate this pregnancy asap. So i am very undecisive of what i want, i cant stand the fact of killing my baby but at the same time i am not ready for a child and the fact my partner has no intrest of wanting it im just lost as to what i should do as i would need his support if i were to keep it. I thought i had made up my mind (partly) that i wanted to proceed with abortion so i went to the doctors tonight (a few hours ago) and got the referal to a hospital, of course the doctor once again tried to talk me out of it and really wants me to think this through as he can tell abortion isnt truly what i want. The second i told the doctor i want to go ahead with abortion as we are not ready for a child i just started to cry and couldnt stop from them and have hardly stopped since i left that doctors clinic. I feel so terrible! I am heart broken when a dog or cat is euthanised at a pound who is pregnant (laws in australia state they must be euthanised for some rediculous reason) but im willing to kill my own flesh and blood..? i know if i proceed with this i will regret it forever and it will tear me up im sure of it. I need advice.. i have only told 2 people that i am pregnant so i havnt really talked my options through with anyone.. i just dont know what to do :(

Maybe there are so many guilty women because there are so many people out there who are so quick to judge and condemn them and call them murderers for their choice when they don't even know what that person may have been going through.

For those of you who have had abortions a few years ago, and those who may be considering it I would like to say something. I am 51 yrs old and I had an abortion when I was 16 yrs old after already having a child. My reasoning really doesn't matter now but what I think does matter is the regret. Since this post is entitled regrets I just wanted to say that even after all of these years I have regrets. I currently have three children and eleven grand children whom I love very much. But I miss my baby! I often wonder what he would have been. His father was and still is a  good man and it was all my doing he had no idea I was going to do it. Which I guess I don't have to say distroyed our relationship. He is still in touch with our older child and grand children but I know he wonders as I do what our child would have been. For a long time afterwards I still had movement in my stomach that would make me scream with regret. 

I know this was posted 4 months ago, I just joined and really hope you kept your child.

Some people live to regret abortions, others live to regret not having abortions.  We have the right to do what is best for us, and we know what that is.  Letting someone else tell me not to have one, and letting what others would think influence my decision was the worst thing to do.  It should definitely remain legal because it is good for some.

I regret so much. It has been several years. I was 35 yrs old and already had children. My husband was being cruel. His mother was interfering in our life. I was under constant stress from the family problems. I told him I wanted an abortion and he did not agree. So, I secretly did it and told my husband that I lost the baby. So it has been 5 yrs and I have so much regret, I cannot even explain how much it hurts. I was not hurting at first. It took a few years. Now, I feel the pain all the time. I keep praying for forgiveness. I don't know if I am forgiven. I just feel an incredible pain. There is always a place in our house where our son belonged. (he was a boy and I was in my 2nd trimester). At family dinners, such as Thanksgiving, I can just imagine where he would be sitting. I wonder what his eye color would have been. What kinds of things would he have liked? What would he have asked Santa for this year? Would he be close friends with our other sons. He would have turned 5 last month. He has 7 yr old and 2 yr old brothers.  They all should be playing together. Instead, they don't even know their brother. All because I killed their brother. Some people will call themselves the worst mother ever, because they accidentally ran in to their child or served their child sour milk. But that is nothing compared to what I did. I killed my child. I don't think I will ever move on from this. Honestly, I don't deserve happiness. I am an evil person for what I did. I cannot forgive myself.

Listen to the song "Happy Birthday" by Flipsyde featuring Piper. 

Oh, Regretful, my heart went out to you as I was reading your post. I know you're really grieving and I wish I could reach out and give you a hug! And, as you can see from this thread, you're not alone. Many have been where you are and struggled to find healing after an abortion. And, I think it's always something that takes time. So, don't expect yourself to just "get over it." However, I do think that healing is possible. In fact, I think you're on the right track by reaching out for some support. So, along these lines, I wanted to suggest that you take this a step further and consider finding a support group for women in your shoes. I think this can make a huge difference. ***this post is edited by moderator *** *** private phone numbers not allowed*** Please read our Terms of Use