You're doing the right thing by keeping the baby. I can feel that you have inner strength from god this time. This is his plan for you. I know you've got some obstacles facing you, but those will all get taken care of by god , because you are following his plan, even though it's the harder path. There will be so many rewards for you and your baby because you chose life for him or her. I will be thinking and praying for you and hope you keep your baby!
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No one ever regrets 'not having an abortion.' But I truly believe most regret aborting a fetus and ending a life, the life of their child.
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There is no God. I would have never said that two years ago. I am now educated on where our idiology of God our Christian understanding of God came from. I now relize that we are not judged by a Higher Power, but we ourselves are our judge. And we can live in hell or we can choice to live in a understanding of reality. Which can be a state of happiness, wholeness.You are not damned. There is no after life only what is now. We can damn ourselves though by defeating thoughts. Keeping us from full awareness of reality. By being stuck in our own heads thinking so much on what if or whys.I understand you I did it too. It sucks, it is so very painful. But somehow we have to learn to accept the choice that we made.We have to be strong. And not forget, but chose to not let guilt fill our lives, we have to nurture our own mental state. Have you ever read the book "The Power of Now" by Eckart Tolle I just started reading it and it is really helping me. I used to be fundamental Christian I am now just a person on this planet floating in outer space with the relization that we are all on the same planet together. And none of use really know what the hell is going on. Religion is just a way that people cope with not knowing what is going on.Why are we alive on this planet. I know thats some deep sh.. but its my reality.:)
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I'm very sorry to read everyone's personal and emotional experiences with this difficult decision. It's been one week since I found out I was about 3 weeks pregnant and the shock has yet to subside. I am 25, in a wonderful committed relationship with someone who is so supportive and ready for this. I've graduated University, but planned on going back to continue my degree in the fall. I love to travel, and I can't help but think how my life will change. I feel so insensitive, angry, and shocked. I called today for a consult at the hospital for an abortion (non surgical if it is still early) but I also have an apt with an OB next month, depending on what I decide to do. I feel so insensitive and feel like I can't imagine how my life will change. I keep thinking shallow negative thoughts when I try and focus on the positive.
I feel very alone and do not know which way to go. If anyone could share their experiences in relation to what i'm going through, or offer some guidance on either choice it would be of great help.
Thank you.
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Amy, I would not recommend abortion. I had one two years ago and was very confident I was doing the right thing. After it was over, I had instant feelings of deep regret which I still have. you do NOT know how you will react until its over and will have to live with those feelings forever. if you have a baby, the typical feelings are joy, happiness, love. you may not feel those until the baby is born. besides...people travel and do lots of exciting things with children and even babies, you just have to plan a bit more.
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First of all, I would like to know the extent methodology used in the Norway case study. Secondly, in case any woman contemplating abortion reads this, numerous other studies have shown the exact opposite of this study done in Norway (I will direct you to the Guttmacher Institute). I have had two abortions, and while my decisions have been difficult and sad, I have no regrets, no ongoing mental anguish. Abortion is intensely personal and is not a decision to be made on a whim. With that said, my husband and I now have bright futures, futures in which we can raise our beautiful future children in financially stable, loving homes.
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I had an abortion two weeks ago at 14 weeks through a medical procedure and I've just turned 15. I feel as though it is the biggest mistake of my life and regret it with my whole heart. I know and have kind of learned to accept that it was ultimately my decision even though my brother, sister and Dad said they would move out if I had continued my pregnancy and the father of my baby was eighteen when it was conceived and I was only fourteen so the police got involved and him and his family wanted nothing to do with it. I cry alone every day at how much of a pathetic coward I have been and I have always been a strong, confident person. Only now I feel as though I never want children and I can never forgive myself for this. I wish I had seen all these messages before my procedure and then it would have been clear to me as at the beginning I was decided that I wanted to continue with my pregnancy. Not only now do I not eat, sleep and always cry. I know my life is ruined and I even feel as though I am not worthy of life anymore. I just don't know what to do or how to deal with this. This is a cry for help 3
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Am 22 now just found out yesterday that am pregnant and am scared. It's crazy to even think about it, i love kids i really do but am not ready. Am in my first job, it's been over a year now but it demands a lot from me and i can't move around like this, am scared i will loose it then what, my parents are not able to raise it and this is not what i would have wanted either. My boyfriend of almost 7 years is very supportive, he will go by what i decide but deep down he really wants to keep it. From yesterdays ultra sound am about 4-5weeks. Abortion is illegal in Africa but is till have a doc who can do that, spoke with him today morning and he is waiting for my final decision...i really feel like my life is over and am so screwed!
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I had an abortion 1 week ago. I also have 2 children from a previous relationship. My partner who I have been with for a year and a half told me that it was not ment 2 happen it was wrong.. We had so many debates because obviously having her inside me I begun 2 love ehr deeply. I told him I wanted 2 keep my baby but he turned around and said noway its not happening and would stop talking 2 me. When I agreed 2 have a termination we were ok. Towards the end of the pregnancy I put my foot down and said I was going 2 keep her he said it was ok and that he would be here for the baby but didnot want a relationship with me. I was so scared 2 go through this pregnancy by myself and selfishly put my self before my child. Everthing just seemed 2 difficult now I look back it would have been ok. I thought it would be ok, abortion is just looked at as ok and not 2 much of a big deal. I have friends who have had terminations and they are fine. I was not, I couldnt get over the pain and the guilt I was feeling. I am normally such a strong person. I have not stooped crying since it has happend. I think about her and miss her terribly.. The first thing I saw when I got her after the termination was her tiny arm and little finger nails.. I cant 4 gve myself. Abortion is terrible and there are always options out there. I am so scared knowing I have 2 deal with this 4 the rest of my life.. Knowing every november would have been her birthday. Knowing that If I had been a stronger person I would have not regretted keeping her 1 bit. I want my baby so bad and I hate myself now and 4 evr. I feel dirty and a pathtic excuse of a human being. Please anyone how do I get through?
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All I can say is don't do it u will experience not only grief, anger, sadness, etc. but u can't take it back and the what if's will kill u inside for years it is so not worth it! Choose life! I wish I did! Worst thing I ever did and don't listen to other people cause they are not the ones that have to carry the burden the rest of their lives!! But u will!! Please cancel ur apt and go see ur doc and just look at the ultrasound! And I'f it is still not what u want to do....then have it and give him or her to me no questions asked. There are so many other alternate routes to take just please cancel the abortion apt!! Hope I helped perswaded u to think twice about what ur doing!!!
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I had a abortion from the man I loved and every time we argue he bring it up Ladies please think before you have a abortion I wish I was pregnant now!!!
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I know how you feel I had an abortion when I was 19 and still think about it now aged 33. And now I am in the same position my husband and I have two children and are pregnant with our third. He does not want it but I feel as though it's my last chance to have another baby. Both our children were early and I have had post natal depression with both of them. Life is just getting better and I understand why he does not want it but he won't even discuss it with me. I think you are very brave ave it's not a decision to take lightly.
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If it feels wrong to you it most likely is. Many women who get an abortion, their boyfriend leaves them shortly after. Don't go based on what your told to do because the decision ends up affecting mainly you and your unborn child. Don't let other people tell you what they think is right because it won't impact them.
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