I had one over 25 years ago, and I am finding the pain to be worse now, than it was then. I wasn't that young, just plain stupid. I hate myself for choosing the father (who was against me having the baby) over a precious life. I am a Catholic, and have decided that I can no longer go to church as I feel I am constantly reminded of how badly I have sinned, even though I do feel God has forgiven me. I have been blessed with another daughter. I have another one, prior to the abortion. I could never, ever tell them what I have done. I will go to my grave bearing this incredible weight.
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Hello, your story is almost identical to mine. 13 yrs later (now 40), I feel that was my only chance. Your not alone. God bless
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It's not true about God having bigger things, I mean He does have bigger things to worry about. But He is a personal God. He does know you. I have almost the exact same story as you. I know I am being punished. Not in a hateful way. But because I deserve it. I did something that I knew was wrong because of my selfishness, because of social pressures, my alcoholism, and fear of the baby's defects. I was foolish and I'll repent the way I must.
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Someone that feels.the same as me, 10 years on I just hate myself......Im now 38, no man, no child & all I want is a family. It is still completely killing me inside. I cant help but think Im being punished for.doing what I did. Not many people know as I am ashamed. Wasnt in a great place at.the time & the father.really.didnt want another child.as.he already had 3 from 2 different women. I didnt tbink it would still be effecting me as.much as it is 10 years on
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I've just recently had a termination 4 days ago and I've regretted it from the moment I put them pills in my mouth. My partner pressured me and begged me to get a termination because he wasn't ready and his mum and dad would disown him I pleaded and said I'll raise the child alone and he promised he would make things better and we would get married and have a child the proper way after his parents got to know about us. Now he's distanced himself from me and i knew he was lying with all his promises and I believed him. I wish I could bring my baby back
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This one hits hard with me. I too was told "I HAD to have an abortion". There was no asking how I felt, or what I wanted. Just his own selfish need. He wouldn't be there for me, and I couldn't support a baby on my own... so he got his wish. I aborted and wish more than anything I could put him or her back. I feel like I terminated the one person in the world I was supposed to keep safe. :(
The would-have-been father didn't ask how the abortion went, and has not asked how I am feeling once since the procedure. I broke up with him because he clearly loves only himself. With the lost relationship and baby I feel so alone.
I know you wrote your comment a year ago, but I hope you have found some closure by now.
The would-have-been father didn't ask how the abortion went, and has not asked how I am feeling once since the procedure. I broke up with him because he clearly loves only himself. With the lost relationship and baby I feel so alone.
I know you wrote your comment a year ago, but I hope you have found some closure by now.
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Don't get an abortion. Pray Pray then pray more. You will regret it. Believe me. It may seem hard and you have a way out but that way out Will haunt you like when your 51 and your life is beyond great except for that.
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I have witnessed two of my sisters go through abortions. All I can say is it has ruined their lives. They are both clinically depressed and one is on medication as she is suicidal (although I understand not everyone suffers depression after abortion, but it is very likely to happen). Their current mental state has been related directly to unresolved grief due to their abortions by clinical psychologists - and they both do indeed feel their current depression is related to that part of their lives.
So they had either option a) get an abortion, face regret for life and ruin their lives with depression or b) ruin their lives by having a baby - which would be a difficult path but could bring unending joy one day... to be honest I think they would have regretted it either way (if they had the baby they would have thought they'd be much happier in their alternate childless life as they would have had no idea of the regret & depression they'd face).
If they could go back again though they would still choose abortion (at least that's what they tell me).
So... THEY WOULD PREFER DEPRESSION OVER HAVING AN INCONVENIENT CHILD.
Like f---
So they had either option a) get an abortion, face regret for life and ruin their lives with depression or b) ruin their lives by having a baby - which would be a difficult path but could bring unending joy one day... to be honest I think they would have regretted it either way (if they had the baby they would have thought they'd be much happier in their alternate childless life as they would have had no idea of the regret & depression they'd face).
If they could go back again though they would still choose abortion (at least that's what they tell me).
So... THEY WOULD PREFER DEPRESSION OVER HAVING AN INCONVENIENT CHILD.
Like f---
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I too hate myself and feel i am being punished. I can't believe that I had an abortion because my Mom tried to abort me but I lived, so I never thought I would have one. I regretted it immediately and the guilt and anguish was so intense and never went away. It has been very hard to live with myself. We would have been okay if only I had the faith. Now I am 47, single, childless, very sick and dying alone and SO full of regret. I never got pregnant again. It has been almost 25 years and it hurts worse than ever. Every single day over and over again, i am STILL so tormented about it. Don't have an abortion! Please don't end up like me! No one regrets their baby and it may be your ONLY chance to be a Mom!!!
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Hi Rachel. I hope you are past your pain. I find praying to God helps alot n everything happens for a reason. You will be a mom one day with right life partner and this pain will pass once u see your future baby. God bless
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I can only ask god for forgiveness each day i pray. I have a 7 yr old girl beautiful but had abortion for my 2nd one becuz my first was just 2 yrs old n i was scared that i cannot manage both n on impulse i made this horrific
Decision i was only 6 weeks but it was wrong wrong decision n i regret each day. Its been 4 yrs now. Im sooo sad. I think was it boy or girl
And how cud i do this to my child. How selfish cud i be. I pray n that helps me calm down. Men will never understand. This is our decision if ur gut n heart says dont do it then dont. Dont listen to ur boyfriend or husband.
Atleast have child put for adoption. This will go to my grave with me.
Decision i was only 6 weeks but it was wrong wrong decision n i regret each day. Its been 4 yrs now. Im sooo sad. I think was it boy or girl
And how cud i do this to my child. How selfish cud i be. I pray n that helps me calm down. Men will never understand. This is our decision if ur gut n heart says dont do it then dont. Dont listen to ur boyfriend or husband.
Atleast have child put for adoption. This will go to my grave with me.
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There are many women over the world who regret their abortions. I am not sure where you live but there is help for you. Most pregnancy care centers offer post-abortion counseling to help women who are hurting deeply and regretting their abortion decision. There is help for you. I hope and pray you will reach out to a pregnancy care center and ask for help.
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I had an abortion at the age of 16, shortly after my birthday actually. I also my whole life had looked forward to being a mother. And as a result of such had kept for some time after letting my boyfriend know. I knew eventually I would go through with it no matter what, but I just couldn't help wanting to spend time with her. He pleaded with my almost every day to do something about, not because he was insensitive but because we just couldn't take care of it. Also he's 2 years older than I am. I was 18 weeks when I had the surgery, and had known about since 9. When it came time I felt I had to be strong, afraid that if I cried the doctor wouldn't carry through. I wish I had cried now, not because I hope he would have stopped but because I felt it would have helped my pain. I'm 24 and every time I see a little girl my heart hurts. And I attach my self to babies that aren't mine, I baby sit for family members and almost never put them down. I love them all like I would have my sweet baby girl. Moral of the story though is that I don't think the pain will ever go away. It'll get easier for the most part, but there are still occasional days that hurt just like the first. But don't hide it from him if you're still with the same guy. I do and it absolutely DOES NOT help, it makes it so much worse.
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I feel the same as you. Never married, no other pregnancies. The father of my baby was married and on drugs. He later divorced and approached me. All I could say is " I hate your guts" by this time 12 years had passed. Shortly after my abortion he got his wife pregnant. We live in a relatively small community so her and her new baby were in my face all of the time. I couldnt stand to see it so I really became a home body. Went to work and come home and repeat. Now 24 years has passed. Still depressed when I think of the situation. Still affraid to get close with a man, still affraid if pregnancy. I am 46 menopause is right around the bend. I am some what in a panic knowing this is last call for a baby but I dont have the courage and sense of security to do it. I feel like if I were to deliver, I would have a terrible case of post partum depression and would have serious issues bonding. The whole situation just makes me want to cry.
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