um.. it sucks when a guy wasn't to have anal sex but knows nothing about it.. thats like a dude saying he'll fix your car but doesn't know where the oil goes.. you must be turned on, oiled up.. *astroglide*.. he needs to take his time.. even fingering to start.. you need to relax. he needs to go slow until YOU say you are comfortable for more.. it can be SOOOO enjoyable.. it has opened up my husband and i's sex life tremendously.. we actually now have graduated to doing double penetration by using a suction dildo vaginally and him behind me anally. its kinky, fun and can be rewarding to your sex life and relationship if done right.. he needs to NOT act like its a porno.. if every guy had that done to them, they would understand what it felt like and learn to take their time or perhaps, not do it at all.. anyway... if he wants it, he needs to educate himself first.. so since they won't.. you'll have to.. Thank God for GOOGLE!
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my husband has about a 3 1/2 inch wide penis.. about 8 inches.. he's large for the width and i can assure u.. it feels good.. i've had a small penis before (we swing) and it actually is less pleasurable to have a smaller penis.. the whole point is the time you take to get warmed up, turned on, lubed up and get it in.. patiences and gentleness is everything.. to start.
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The best way is to go on line and get a training kit . and start with the small one and work up . A really good way is to put the butt plug in as part of foreplay and then have vaginal sex . Your body and mind will learn that your anus is part of the sexual experience . Have Vaginal several times with a plug in your butt using the bigger ones as you get used to them . Give it time ( a week or two) when you have moved up to the plug the size of your mans penis your ready too go . there should be no pain at any time . Use lots of lube and have fun.. I have done this with three different women and now they all love anal . One even prefers anal to vaginal
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yes its possible without pain....tell ur boy frend to lick ur anal n make it big hole or put some lubricatnt on ur anal before sex.....so its become easy and un pain full.... thanxxxx love u...tc
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I posted this as a reply on another thread, thought I was posting to this one. Anyways here are my thoughts.-------------------
Can't speak for my man, but he and I started having anal regularly a few years ago. He is rather large, like 8.5 inches and really thick and I have had having trouble with him hitting my cervix. He always told me how good it felt when he was deep in me and boy it hurt after about 45 minutes of heated sex. I knew from watching porn (my guy isn't really into it - but i love it) that anal is the new thing and so I ordered some toys and while he traveled I started opening myself up.
Initially it was pretty dirty and slow going. I found that changing my diet to be not only helpful in keeping me "cleaner" up my ass, but I really dropped weight (was about 145, now 107). I began doing yoga and stretching to better accommodate all the positions that anal allows for. I did all of this for about 3 months before talking to my man about it.
Not knowing how my man would react, he is kind of a "purist" when it comes to sex, no dirty talk, no toys just straight "making love" kind of guy - you know - a nice guy. Anyways since I had been working out and eating better he noticed and we started talking about sex. I told him that I had been curious about anal and have been working on taking some toys. He was so good at accepting what I was telling him, it was sexy to know that we could talk about anal like this. He told me he would like to try so we started.
We have anal sex about every other time - maybe a little more, he still likes f*****g my vagina which is nice - even though he is big. But the secondary gain from that one conversation about anal sex is that it really opened the doors to our sexual and physical health. He has joined me on the new diet. He used to be about 280 pounds now he's about 225 and damn sexy. He really came around to anal and we bought a few couples toys including toys for him, including a feel-doe that allows me to f**k him. When we prep for sex we both clean ourselves out (when you change your diet to add more fruits vegetables and fiber, cleaning yourself out doesn't always need to happen, or if it does it is far less intrusive and time consuming - plus his cum tastes a lot better, BONUS!!!).
Some other tips for the ladies (or they're men doing some research for them). When trying anal for the first few times, it helps to push out like your trying to poop, if your empty inside - nothing will come out, save a little bit of gas which is normal. Contrary to popular belief pushing out helps your sphincters (yes there are more than one) to relax and open up. This makes anal less painful.
I have personally spoken to some experts in the field of gerontological heath and found that kegal exercises can be helpful to reducing incontinence issues. Similarly they said that like kegal exercises, anal sphincter exercises do not diminish the ability to prevent incontinence, they actually improve the ability of the anus to open and close. So they said anal sex will only serve you later in life, not hurt you.
Try toys - prep with toys to allow your as****e to open up. When I was helping my guy to be willing to open himself up I had him do the same thing I did, take a shower in the morning, put some thick water based lube on a comfortable butt plug and spend the day at work. When you come home you would be amazed what your ass is willing to accept.
If done right anal sex, in the right position - for me its missionary with my ankles behind my head, shoulders in front of my knees (sounds impossible or even painful, its not...hint: stretching and yoga really help you here). When my man f**ks me here he really stimulates my G-spot, a territory unknown to me until anal sex was discovered. If you watch any porn you know the magic of the G-spot including squirting orgasms. This is another secondary gain of anal sex ladies!
If your in a monogamous relationship only: we have graduated to using baby oil as a lube. Sometimes our sessions transition from a massage to sex. I say this only if your in a monogamous relationship because oil and condoms don't mix. Baby oil (or any other oil - mineral -if your allergic to fragrances, olive/cooking oil) really heat up our love making. And assholes, not being naturally lubed, thrive with a nice coating of oil.
Watch porn with your man/woman - you both will learn so much that you have been missing. And on a note about that: we have since watched a lot of porn and can safely say, at least with us - moving from ass to vagina, or from ass to mouth - IF CLEAN- is not a problem in our life. We have read many contrary opinions from "experts" on the internet, watched a lot of porn that contradicted said "experts" and we are of similar opinions of the porn industry: ass tastes good. I love the taste of my ass, his ass and I love the feeling of his tongue diving into my as****e.
Purchase a lube injector, something that will push the lube deep into your ass - you wont regret it.
Be open to new things. Before I looked into anal sex on my own, if you would have told me we would be regularly having anal sex and I would regularly be f*****g my husband with a sex toy, I would have laughed. Loving and trusting your partner is the best recipe for success in the bedroom. Never once did I feel pressured or did I pressure him.
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Update since last night. Told my man I wrote this and he wanted to share his 2 cents. He told me that the most important thing for him was being willing to accept each person's limits. He told me that he loves learning new things and loves it when I bring him things I saw in porn into the room. Be careful when your lover says no, and WANT to know why somethings are good, somethings are not good and when somethings are not good - now (meaning being open to trying things at a later date as opposed to never).
He said that the tip to anal is to pushing out like you are trying to poop is the key to it being comfortable- at least for him (and me). It goes completely against what you think, but once you relax yourself enough to take what is being offered it is exhilarating - even for him. (he doesn't know I wrote this part but take it from me that about 2 years into me f*****g him with toys he is now taking a full 12 inch double headed dildo, past his last sphincter so that it disappears!) He says he likes feeling full.. like his lady.
Lastly he said you need to be able to trust your partner. Without trust, like in real loving relationships you wont get far. So if your significant other is resistant to anal, it may not mean she is completely resistant to the act, rather it maybe how it is being presented/delivered. Love your partner and be willing to accept NO.
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My advice....
you shud use the lube liberally and even ask your boy friend to play with his fingers deep inside....which makes the process simpler.....
As most opined, you have to be cautious with food which you eat in the last 24 hours...
A gives ultimate experience for the ladies....
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It you REALLY want to understand your girlfriend's complaints, let her f**k YOU in YOUR ass with a strap-on dildo that is about the same size as your shazool. Let her f**k you soft. Let her f**k you hard. Let her f**k you with just a couple of inches. Let her ram the strap-on all the way into your ass. Let her pound away vigorously for 5 or 10 minutes. Let her pull out easy and let her pull out with gusto. This practice will enable you to appreciate her sensations and pains and help you to better guage how to perform enjoyable anal on her. f*****g YOU in the ass with a strap-on will give her the feeling of equality that feminists seek and will ease any hostility she feels at being the recipient of your anal intrusion.
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Tried anal sex for the first time last night with my girlfriend, we both really enjoyed it and she did not feel any pain in fact she kept pushing back against my penis. We started by having normal sex, during which I inserted a finger into her anus. After awhile getting her anus used to my finger pushing in and out of her she was ready for me to enter her. We used a lot of lubrication and a condom that was, also, spread liberally with lubrication. She liked the first experience so much that we did it again the same night.
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My whole downfall with anal is that I feel like I'm going to poop when he's pulling out and it scares the sh*t out of me! (no pun intended lol) but is there anything I can do about that? especially with V-day fast approaching
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I love a good anal ramming and a guy that is hung can tear my a$$ up...while I'm eating your wife's pink wet p**$Y. :P and banging her in the butt too F***K AWAY cowboy swap and let me eat her out while you are pounding her hardcore .. sounds fun eh? open to something new come find
me?:)
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