Bipolar boyfriend breaking up with me every 3/4months- at my

Get the hell away from him!

my boyfriend has bi polar and everything in morning bothers him even kids he so mood until like 3-4 pm u couldnt ask for better man if he could only bé nice like that all time + how can do fix problem to make him come out of this and stage everyday its like this he wakesup like this being so angry wanted to leave

Your story inspired me to keep going. I'm in the shock stage of being broken up with a bi-polar BF after 3 years. I know it's for the best, but my heart is broken nonetheless. His anger finally took over every part of him and I was the target. I'm broken and sad.

I'm currently in this situation with my now ex-boyfriend. We have been together for going on 7 years and have 2 kids together. 1 year or maybe less into our relationship he was diagnosed with bipolar. He breaks up with me every year or twice a year and recently, more. He randomly told me one day that he doesn't want to marry me anymore (we were engaged).
He said he isn't happy anymore and needs to find what makes him happy. He says he is happy at work and away but, when he comes home to me and the kids, he get wore out suddenly, he gets sad or angry and depressed and not happy. He said he wants the kids in his life but, not me but, tells me that he will not marry anyone unless its me and doesnt want a relationship with anyone unless its me. So, I'm confused. He doesn't take pills but, he NEEDS them.

Hey..similar thing happened to me..i just wanted to know did he come back? How was he later on?

my experience is exactly the same. Sudden mean and sarcastic remarks by sudden break ups. One day he misses me and can't wait to see me the next he isn't feeling it, doesn't see a future and he's breaking up with me.

What ended up happening? I was dumped 3 days ago by my bipolar love of my life

Wonder whatever happened. I hope you dropped that loser

mine dumped me after 6 years then in less than a year he got married to a random girl......oh and he was medicated..even on meds still not stable

Woah, so many of these stories are incredibly similar to mine. My ex is untreated BP, I met him 9 months ago. I was engaged to be married in 2014, when my fiancé suddenly died a heart attack. I was so excited to meet my ex. We were incredibly compatible. He was funny, charming, handsome and seemed to be just what I needed after going through so much heart ache.
Fast forward two months later and we had discussed living together and marriage. He smothered me with attention, but I did notice that he had a tendency to hide out and have limited contact with me every couple of weeks. He also had a terrible job history and a past history of drug and alcohol abuse.
As issues/stressors arose in his life, he became more and more erratic. He would barely sleep and berate me anytime I would try to bring up anything that was bothering me. For example, he borrowed a lot of money from me, but when I brought up the fact that he borrowed money, the week of my birthday, that I was saving to do something for myself, I was the ahole for making him feel bad about it.
In December of last year, we got into a terrible fight and I proceeded to break up with. I regretted it immediately and asked him to get back together (huge mistake).
So we get back together and things are going well. We begin to discuss having a child together. Fortunately, I did not get pregnant, but he was so excited, sweet and attentive when we were discussing the possibility it was a letdown when it didn't happen. Then suddenly he didn't want to move in together. During this time he also got into a minor car accident and had a difficult time with the insurance company. Finally, I asked about moving in together again and he didn't want to. Next thing I know, I'm being accused of all sorts of random contact with men and being accused of talking to other men (I was doing nothing like this). Finally I got a verbal smack down that lasted two weeks until he broke up with me/we decided to end it. He said he loved me, but couldn't make me happy, he would rather be alone, blah, blah, blah.
He owes me a lot of money, so we are still in contact and I am hurting bad from what he put me through, but there's no going back this time. I'm six weeks out from his last verbal attack and frankly I don't want to endure his abuse again. He still is "checking" on me and told me prior to our breakup that he's been stalking dating websites to see if I'm dating and Facebook to see if I've made any new male friends.
I miss him terribly. When he feels good, he's the best boyfriend ever, but the lows are too much for me to endure. I'm grateful to move on. It's been a lot of tears, but I also know that I deserve better than the anguish this relationship has caused.

He is bipolar and I'm sorry to say that he's probably acting out sexually to deal with his mania. Sex addiction. That's the guilt and shame part. Easier to break up with you than deal with what he is doing. That's the dual life feeling you're getting. He needs meds and you need to confront him. Incidentally he does love you. He's just bipolar.

Wow, you just explained the last two years of my life with the same exact end result. I thought I had the strength to deal with the episode's but he didn't have the strength to help himself. As things escalated I still believed I could help and when I fell pregnant I thought this would encourage him to take his meds. No it didn't, so in the end I told him to go and he did. He took everything from me (emotionally, financially and physically) and I lost myself while trying to help him. It's still raw for me but each day I get stronger and resit the temptation of allowing back into our lives. I will never forgive him for sabotaging us and leaving his beautiful baby. Hopefully one day he will make amends for the destruction he caused and heal himself at the same time.
I read your post and was blown away by the comparison of your experience with being with someone who is bipolar. I felt I wasn't alone and what I'm going through now is normal. I'm in my forties and this was my first partner after a 20yr marriage break up and never in my life have I ever experienced this. It took a long time before he told me he was bipolar but by then I was hooked and rode the roller-coaster and it nearly cost me my life. I know now that I can't feel guilty about him because he makes his own choices and his opinion is only his and he's only one person. He can no longer impact our lives and we are moving forward because the past hurts too much. Thank you for sharing it's nice to know it's not me and I'm ok.

I know this was posted over a year ago but I was wondering if your situation got better ! I too was best friends with my boyfriend for several years before we began seeing each other Everthing was wonderful when we first started dating I did encounter his quiet times :) but I just thought he was moody during this time he was never mean to me . But around 6 months of dating he picked me up one day I had been gone for a week and I noticed he seemed aggravated with me but we hadn't been together for a week and I even said to him you don't seem excited to see me . Then after that our relationship when down hill from there I
became suspicious he was seeing my best friend and when I confronted him on this he stopped talking to me for about a month . Then he called me and apologized and we got back together but then we began a toolbar coaster of one week all in love then the next week cold as ice. Then his verbal abuse started and then he would belittle me in front of others and I still loved him but it was truly taking a tole on my self esteem and I was becoming depressed . We broke up for 3 months and we got back together for only a few weeks when his crazy behavior stated again Then I got mad at him at work and told him off in fripont of some coworkers and I approved my best friend on what I believed what was going on with them and now he has blocked me from his phone Facebook and he won't even be in the same room as me I guess he really hates me this time and it hurts me so bad What makes it worse is that I have to see him on a daily basis at work and my so called best friend I'm so miserable at work now and it's so hard to walk by him and her I feel like a shunned person I wish I could quit my job What's worse Everbody loves him at work he is always the life of the party so now I'm basically alone at work I'm so lonely and miserable I don't know what to do . But I do believe he is bipolar and for some reason has chose me as his whipping boy! I told my so called best friend don't worry you get yours because he's Biploar and you may be the next one for his rath!!

While tears are flowing on what you have been thur, I think you for your post. I too am dealing with these issues with my future husband. In thought.........

I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and every four months in the two years he ends the relationship through a text I try to talk to him but he doesn't answer any of my calls or my text! We never have a fight he just blindside me one day we can along so good the next day he's texting me and telling me he can't do this anymore this is been going on for two years what could this possibly mean I love him so much but I can't do all the work in the relationship so should I let go and move on or I just need some advice