Bipolar boyfriend breaking up with me every 3/4months- at my

I wish I could give you the best advice but I'm in the same position. I would leave him alone. I am trying to convince myself that if they want to reach out to you they will. I'm just not sure about that anymore. My guy started doing this silent treatment years ago. I thought he was just stubborn and mad and acting like a child . In the past 8 1/2 years, the silent treatments are getting longer and longer. I am just researching bipolar and borderline personality disorders. I'm not even sure if my guy has this , but the similarities are frightening. What's even scarier is that they may be suffering from a mood disorder and not even be aware of it. I'm not saying that this is your guys situation but reading and watching YouTube video after video on these disorders helps me think I'm not crazy for feeling the way I do. Good luck !

I’m going through the exact same thing now. What’s happening with you now! I know this post is a year old. I’m just heartbroken. He seemed to be so crazy in love with me...he sent me love songs that reminded him of me and professed his love so deeply. Then he dumped me. Two months later he’s seeing someone else after he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. A week ago he said him and this girl were just friends and seeing how things went. Now a week later they’re calling each other baby and talking about how much they misseach other on social media. I can’t believe he is now treating her the way he did me in such a short time.

My fiance has been medicated for 25 years and still dumps me every 4 months.. This time was bad he said he has no feelings for me anymore amd he just leaves.. I have had to pack my son and I plenty of times.. His mom who calls every day and lives next door makes his episodes happen and he will never be happy.. So I suffer and he is medicated pills do not help.

catatonic sounds like he or she was going through some kind of manic phase when he or she wrote this. Bipolar people often have delusions of grandeur in such a state, sometimes even imagining themselves as god-like. Kind of hilarious that he/she is suggesting anyone on here is implying they need a "perfect person." Asking for your boyfriend to not break up with you every few months and then beg for you to come back isn't asking for a whole lot at all. It's kind of a bare minimum ask.

If these men were breaking up with their girlfriends out of boredom with them or a perceived gap in intelligence, they wouldn't come back a week later being apologetic and desperate to get back together. They would just move on to someone "more intelligent and interesting." It's not anything their girlfriends did, it's their mental illness overpowering their better judgement.

Hi Michelle I have recently split up with my bf who has bipolar everything was fine for nearly 9 months then out of the he put a Facebook status up saying he was single again without even telling me I was like what the f**k. So I got my stuff and now he’s saying he wants me back.

Hi , hope u r doing well. Did your boyfriend get back to you?

I have found this so eye opening. My now ex is displaying signs of narcissistic personality disorder but he doesn't quite fit it. He cares too much for his ex to be a genuine narcissit. I was always in her shadow it felt. He very much brought her into our relationship.

What's making me feel there is something hugely wrong is that he has been so inconsistent. Highs and lows. Ups and downs. He's known me 20 months now and it's been like a roller coaster. 4 months on. Cut me off. 3 days on. Cut me off when I tried to talk. 6 weeks off. Comes back. 3 weeks on but not really on! Then he goes of for 7 weeks. Comes back. We have an 8 months relationship. Highs and lows. But he's claiming to love me. Want me. Need me. He'd be lost without me. But it continued to be inconsistent.

Emotionally its like he's stuck trapped in the past. He lost his ex due to his love of attention from women. He remained doing the behaviour even when it hurt her. Eventually she had the evidence one had gone to physical cheating and she ended it. But he clung and cried. Eventually after he moved out they decided they wanted a friendship. It was a stupid decision as its clearly based on not wanting to let the other go. But not wanting to be in a relationship either as if can't work.

During in my time with him he was leaning on me emotionally. Financially he was always needing money. He was broke due to his past. He was an alcoholic before we met. He just didn't seem right. He was 48 and I was 33. Yet he seemed like an 18 year old still. Smoking weed. Attitude. Fallen out with all his family. Literally alone at Christmas. He's got no one.

He'd verbally abuse me. One minute he was cooking for me. Then he would be throwing me out because I didn't appreciate him questioning my clothes and why I don't wear xyz instead. Or saying he'd like me to wear my hair different. Or he'd say something like. Nobody tells me what to do and I won't stop speaking to my ex and anyone who doesn't like it can trot on.

Whilst away for 6 weeks last year ghosting me he had used that time to meet someone else on a dating app. They met a few times for sex and he tried to hide it from me yet kept her right infront of me on Facebook. I had to ask her as he wasn't going to tell me the truth.

He is so hungry for female attention. He chases after exes of his brother. He tries to get attention from his old female school friends. He tries to get attention from family members of his ex wife. His daughters friends mums. His exes old colleagues from asda. His lost goes on and on. He's famous for being a womaniser and he's famous for messaging everyone. He just won't stop.

So 10 weeks ago after seeing messages to his ex 3 days before my birthday we fell out. I was devastated as he sent her a song and told her he was crying at the memories. Ripped my heart out. He hadn't been interested in my sexually for months. He hadn't been flirtatious or affectionate for months. He hadn't made me feel chased or wanted for months. Then I saw that. It was me washing his clothes. Buying his food. Walking his dog. Running him a bath. Filling out his forms. Me! I was doing it all and getting no appreciation whilst his moods altered.

I lost count of the amount of times he snapped at me for asking a simple thing. It could be and often was, something as simple as " you seem very tired today so shall I come tomorrow instead"

There were times he would block me for an hour then unblock me for money. Or he'd block me.for a day then the next day it was can you come down and talk.

Throughout the relationship it was like I could see he was in some emotional battle. He'd declare his love for me so strongly sometimes. Express hoe much he missed me sexually. Then the next minute he sending me memes about never comparing the person in your life now to an ex. Then he'd be saying he likes his ex and he thinks its mature they can be friends. Then he'd be tormenting me saying she was hinting at getting together again.

The mind games. Being thrown out. Being screamed at. Vile words thrown My way. Stories changing. He took took took and never gave. Yet he future faked everything with me.

It's been 10 weeks since he blocked me. His stuff remains at my house. I don't understand why he won't fetch it. I've had enough. I've spent 10 weeks presuming he's a narcissist, but his daughter has bipolar. Stumbling across this post has made me realise that short term relationships is very common with loads of ups and downs within the first year. We were never happy for more than a couple of months at a time and even during that time we'd have issues.

He's cut me off like I enter existed. His ex got 9 years and I got hardly any. I said to him in one row that his ex got it all and I get nothing. Because it felt like I never got truly appreciated. Whilst he was cheating and sneaky with her. He still spoilt her. He still took her out. He never took me anywhere. Didn't even get Mr a birthday card after months of my help.

Thank you, I really needed to read this. You have no idea how this helped me at this moment.

Thank you to all of you who shared their experiences here. I have been feeling so alone and confused with what happened to me, this post was eye-opening for me and I hope my experience can also help someone in some way.
I met my now, ex-boyfriend 10 months ago. We were just starting dating again and had been through hard breakups and life scenarios. I got divorced when the pandemic had just begun, and even the end of my marriage did not destroy me like the breakup with this man.
Anyway, I met this man online, we went on our first date and we hit it off instantly. We saw each other the whole week and I thought to myself " what a great guy ". I fell in love with him right there. To my surprise, he broke off with me the next week, through text message, saying that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship - I should have left it as that. And I did for a month, after going on dates and not being able to take him out of my mind, I texted him saying that I had just passed by the spot we met and asking how things were... Well... there we were, going back to seeing each other. Right, when it happened, he told me he was depressed, and I empathized with him, being there myself. We decided to take things slow and to a casual date, for a while, it worked, but as we know the more you see someone, the more attached and involved you get. We had some issues with seeing other people so we stopped doing that. Things were ok, he was depressed, but didn't seem to be completely down. I went away for a couple of weeks and this man crashed. When I got back I could barely recognize him, he had lost so much weight. He had stopped eating, drinking water, and sleeping. He started to doubt his feelings for me, even saying he didn't feel the sparkle for me. On the same day, I was his comfort and safe person, and somehow, he would flip and say that he did not trust me, that something about me was wrong. I started to question if this was the depression, and he said his therapist was leaning towards complex PTSD. The whole month was an emotional roller coaster, but somehow we got through it. He had to be hospitalized and they gave him psychotics meds, he felt better and got discharged. Like many of you said, when things were good, it was great, the best. He's a very kind person, reliable, has his life together, fun, and funny. But he is often sad, down, and in a bad mood. Last month, everything fall apart. We had been to the hospital four times by now. I and his family literally stopped our lives to help him. He stopped sleeping, eating, and functioning. I spent three nights sleeping in a chair next to him in the ED until he could get transferred to a facility. Not a solid diagnosis, I started to think he was schizophrenic. He goes into paranoid stages, doubts everyone, hears voices, is scared of all of us, thinks there's an evil out there to get us and the list goes on. This specific episode started a few weeks back, and I went overseas for vacation with a friend, he stayed with his mom, because at this point he was literally living with me, he could only sleep with me. Oh boy, the fact that I was happy, having fun, away from him, did something to him. He went to a stage where he is filled with regrets and guilt to be "ruining" my life. I got back, and he broke up with me out of the blue, said he needed time to take care of himself, accepting that he is not well and that he needs treatment. I respected, but kept in touch with him and his family, during this week of "space" he showed up at my house. In my bedroom. Staring at me. He wanted to talk, but nothing makes sense to him, he is lost, and confused. Seemed like he didn't know if I was real or if our relationship was real. It was so hard to see it. Over the weekend I went to spend some time with him and his family, to give support, and be there. We ended up in the hospital again, and he was in the hospital the night before. At this point, we are on day 6 of no sleep. He is manic, paranoid, having bad thoughts, out, gone. But after the bad hours of crises, somehow he comes "back" to some sense... Well, we were in the hospital when he asked everyone to leave so he could speak with me alone. When he dropped the bomb, that, he was being dishonest with me, and trying to blame me for it, he said that he all of the sudden started talking to someone from his dating times again, but reassured me that nothing happened, he did not see her, just texted and called. and that maybe he was with me because he was lonely, he started blaming the mental illness and the confusion of his emotions, that he doesn't know how he feels about me, if he loves me for real, or if he doesn't, because he is very confused. All I wanted to do was cry. But I could not. I barely said a word to him, just opened the door and told his parents to come back inside. I held it together, but I could not look at him. It was late at night, we were all tired, and he got discharged. We all went back home. I went outside for some air, he came after me, and I ended things. I could not take it anymore. For months this man has been telling me one day that he wants to be with me, that I am the best thing in his life then changing to something about me is wrong, that I am not healthy for him... I always had a great self esteem, and i broke inside. Like I am disposable, a toy you don't want anymore. The next morning I gathered my things to leave, and another breakdown, another episode because I was leaving him, this time it was different, he was taken forcefully. It was hard for all of us to watch, to see how this strong men had deteriorated and were gone.
He spent a week at a facility, was diagnosed with Bipolar, and now he is out and on a program to get better.
I have kept in touch with his family, but not with him. He also did not contact me yet to talk about us, just sent me a text that he is 100% focused on his recovery. I am struggling, I want him to get better but I have accepted that this is a long-life illness, and some days I want to fight for him, others I am so angry at him. After reading all these experiences, I am starting to think that the fact that he diapered on me is a good thing, and I should not engage or seek communication. I am doing all I can to keep myself busy, happy, and focusing on myself because I know at some point he will contact me to talk, and gosh I hope I am strong enough to not take him back.

Yes hello all me myself been dealing with my boyfriend for almost a year with this disorder its nerve wrecking..he definitely a sweet gut the beginning was wonderful but I start seeing the change once I moved to Florida he has a real bad drinking problem and the verbal abuse goes to 0 to 1000 the disrespect is bad a lot of times he asks if what I did or say to u last night cuz he does not remember must he like to Isoisate himself alone no dealing with ppl.when he gets like that he been a troubled young man as a kid some much hurt and pain and abandoned lost a lot of deaths and falling in love with is to much emotional feelings for him that he can't take I love him dearly but he really need medically help with his drinking and his disorder,anxiety,and depression so I deal with a lot but I don't want to give up on him..And he's Muslim so these things most definitely shouldn't be going on can someone help this situation I'm crying out he makes me sad and depressed..

Going through the same thing right now. He’s untreated for bipolar and an alcoholic.

I'm dealing with the same situation right now I'm crying typing this my boyfriend with BPD treated me like a Queen at first now he goes days without texting me I'm so depressed it's not funny. We are supposed to be moving away from each other and he's been telling me for a few months now about breaking up

I'm dealing with the same situation right now I'm crying typing this my boyfriend with BPD treated me like a Queen at first now he goes days without texting me I'm so depressed it's not funny.

I am glad to see I am not alone. I truly don’t understand bipolar or why they do these things, but my fiancé and I (currently ex fiancé) have been together 6 years and he did the same thing to me April 2019 and then all of a sudden 3 weeks later, he tells me he made a mistake, he loves me and that the other girls meant nothing and I am the one he wants to be with for the rest of his life. He also stated he will go to therapy if I’ll have him back. I took him back and now March 2023, he is doing the same thing to me again that he promised he never would do again. Everything was going great and then he comes home from work and he says he loves me, but is not in love with me. That he wants to break up and be alone (exactly all the things he said the first go around) and has been going out all night every night, doesn’t talk to me, acts like I am nothing to him. I don’t know what to do. He says he has been taking his medications, but I do know sometimes he will skip one or two. I don’t know if this is a manic episode or if he will come back or what. It hurts that he is already talking to someone else after 3 days of breaking up with me. He tells me he’s not and that he just needs time and space to think and miss me, but then will says he needs to be alone. I just don’t know what to do..

this is exactly 1000000% what my bf did to me. the word "safe" , that I makes him feel safe.. not like his ex gf before. we dating 5 months and he already breaking up with me 3 times. and I choose to stay with him. this life only once living, I don't know why I feel no burden to loving him unconditionally. both of us in the same age btw. 26y.o. I hope you move one if you can't handle this, but If you really love him (love means action) , then stay. take care of him. If it's seem impossible for you, and you need to him loved you back like you did.. then, I suggest you to move on.