don't like nipples to be touched

I absolutely hate having my breast touched and I wear band aids over them everyday plus sleep in a bra. I can barely even say the word nipple or watch breast manipulation in movies. It makes my sick! I at least I know I'm not the only one. I hope someone has an answer. Even if it's a repressed memory of molestation at least if have something to go on. Nobody understands and it's annoying to have to explain that to people you want to hook up with.

I'm bisexual (genuinely enjoy both genders) and feel the nipple disturbance (disgust & anger) with guys but not girls.. Also experience extreme and uncomfortable sensitivity when being eaten out by my man but enjoy making out, penetration, etc it's weird and confusing for me but so glad you learned to get over this because I too hope to overcome so I can enjoy my sexual time with hubby and give him more to enjoy !

I also have this. I grew up in a normal loving family and I'm certain I was never molested. For me it has nothing to do with breast feeding. That is not something I would ever consider doing, that's what formula is for. My husband loves my breasts and he loves to touch and suck on them. I just can't stand the feeling. It grosses me out and is a complete turn off to me. I love sex, I really do, but as soon as he goes there I lose all interest. I go straight from hot to cold instantly. For years I would just try to block it out and tolerate it cause he seems to really enjoy it, but I am actually getting to the point that I am completely disgusted by it. I don't necessarily want a cure for this I mostly just want no one to ever touch them

Its weird cause I could take breast feeding with no problem but its a problem when my husband sucks on them but can take him rubbing them or pinching whats weird to is every now and then he can touch suck what ever and as hard as possible and I like it

I was glad to find this thread. When my boyfriend fonedles my nipples, it's like they are connected to a hormone switch. He touches them and the switch triggers an almost immediate and overwhelming sensation of depression and unease. It's such a tangible emotion, and I just want him to stop. It's like the fondling releases the "you are to feel depressed immediately" hormone, because that's what happens. I feel absolutely awful, and in no mood for continuing. I just want to pull away. But I don't because I don't want to discourage him, and want to continue thisimportant part of our relationship. But we do have less sex because of it. Its such a DOWNER for this to happen! Really, isnt it?! I have had a healthy upbringing and fortunate to never have experienced anything bad sexually. So that isnot the issue. I was so surprised and disappointed to experience that awful dread and depression. I have noticed it only occrs when we are standing up, and not when I am lying down.

Lol, breasts are naturally designed for babies, not men. It is extremely common for women to not enjoy having their nipples or breasts played with, in fact people in other parts of the world find it very strange that we see breasts as sexual objects at all. They're not, it's simply a mass fetish and learned behavior. You're not strange, that would be like saying you're strange for not enjoying anal sex, it's just not for everyone. Just let him know what you like and don't like, problem solved.

I read someone in the first page who said that they felt like they were being molested, and I too can attest to that fact. I have often described it as I feel like I'm being violated, and it really bothers me. I really wish I could understand why this is.

I can say I feel the same as the rest here, except I use to be one who loved my breasts being touched. Now I just hate it, it just does not feel right. I can't even say it changed because of childbirth, since I have no children. Please help!!!! My husband takes it as rejection when I tell him I just don't like it anymore, and has become the source of many arguements.

Well, I see this as a bigger biological matter...not that I am a biologist. We enjoyed her breasts involved as part of forplay and certainly into climax. This changed after kiddies came on the scene. Not so much after our first, mostly after our second. Then her desire faded and would becomed enpassioned when we discussed having a third child. At those moment when i was willing to think about another child, to try for a baby girl...it was fresh again and romantic. Ultimately, for my part I didn't think another child was a good idea. A struggle in business and money was tight. Then, the whole sex act became mostly for me and any breast play was not welcome & labeled annoying!

My point is there is a real function going on and in order to stay relevant there has to be an internal dialogue, followed by actions that keep us feeling sensual. While men are notorious for having the odd fling...perhaps, it is the wives, women should go ahead and take a lover from time to time. Feel sexy and relevant. If it would put the life back into our love affair then I wouldn't ask questions and I would trust her sense and choice. I don't know what the answers are...perhaps, it is all trial and error and we have to be okay with that. Or, perhaps marital relationships fade into special friendships and the fellas take lovers and get busted and everyone keeps getting hurt for what we know is going to happen??? I would rather fall in love again at home but, I've also had special moment with other wonderful women...now.

I don't find pleasure in sexuality or breast touching either now that he is fixed and I am not having babies anymore. He took away his need to raise children and provide and made sex a game that I'd rather not participate in anymore since my prize is gone.

Hello everyone that has interest in this, either from the men that LOVE breast or the women who can't stand to be touched.  

I too am a man that loves breasts.  Seams ridiculous I'm sure to all of you women but, i can only speak to what i believe your beautiful breasts do to us of the weaker sex.  Your breast are like a drug to us!!  So, the psychological issues are probably more our problem. 

Personally, it is the "visual" issue.  As far as your individual beauty, everyone sees your pretty hair, beautiful eyes and sexy shape.  The first "personal, for our eyes only are your breasts!

We fall in Love with your personality, are smitten by how beautiful you are, and our curiosity of how soft and pure your breast are is like utopia for us. We spend most moments thinking about what you are like.  I don't want you to think this is just a perverts view but I know that it is true for me.

To see the curve of the breast, the soft and yet "perky", innocent peach fuzz, and most, a nipple that becomes pink and erect makes us feel that we have touched you and have as much interest and attraction as our erect penis.

I think we all like to feel wanted and have the rush that says you arouse me. Granted us men of the weaker sex, have our fragile ego that hinders most intelligent thinking.

For what is worth, I read a book many years ago, simply called The Breast.  generally a medically based but similar to the "Joy of Sex". It did have some ideas, might not work for you but was fun to try. Like an icecube in your mans mouth before kissing or licking your nipples.  Don't shoot the mesenger!  Try it.

So, I guess if I were to suggest anything, make a difference to your man if you want to please him..... those of you that get pleasure when you are about to orgasm, have you ever tried to be the aggressor with your breast?

Maybe with it being your idea, your ability to control the situation, or maybe if you caress yourself first, maybe, just maybe the pleasure and over sensitivity might skip a step??

Again, just an idea from someone that gets why men LOVE breasts!!  You are beautifully made by God and your man LOVES you and LOVES your BREASTS!!!

You are mistaken! Breasts and hard nipples are like drugs to a man! Use them to your advantage! With them any man will cave!

If you cant say stop 15 might be too young fir you to have sex. seems very immature. Just saying...

OMG my boyfriend tries to play with mine all the time and I HATE it! I actually just slapped him really hard in the face when he did it and now I feel terrible. :( I actually don't mind it work I'm having sex and in the moment, but it's really irritating and makes me feel violated otherwise.

I'm wondering if it is a mammory gland issue--particularly since my own issues began when I was nursing. The "sick" feeling I get in my stomach (yes, I get it, too) is very similar to the feeling I'd get just before my milk would "come in" when my babies were still nursing. The feeling went away, thankfully, while the baby was nursing, but would return just before the next feeding, just before the "tingle" that followed, indicating my breasts were full.

I don't remember my breasts feeling this way before I nursed, but ever since those days (I'm 50+ now), I do have those feelings, and I guard my breasts. Certain clothing rubbing against them makes me nearly ill. Irritated is the understatement!

Only when I'm aroused will I allow my husband to touch my breasts (and yes, he LOVES them). It seems as though touching them will not arouse me (quite the opposite), but I enjoy their being touched once I am aroused, if that makes sense.

I sleep in a sports bra because I don't like the constraints of a bra when I sleep. Hubby sometimes thinks it's to "hide" his "double-Ds" from him, but it's not.

I hope this helps someone.