Ugh I HATE HATE HATEEEE this as well! I can't stand having my husband suck on my breast! I find it entirely disgusting. It's the most annoying feeling ever. It even repulses me most of the time and we have some fights over this. He's a big breast guy and I have just never been one for letting men suck or touch my breasts for that matter. There are so many body parts he can go after, I don't understand why it has to be the one that I despise the most. I get no pleasure out of it, it only makes me angry. I really can't stand it and I don't know why. I do have pretty sensitive breasts though, and wonder if it has anything to do with that? I wish some one really would answer this for us because it would at least give me a good explanation to give to him %-)
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I could honestly cry from having found this thread. I am so relieved to hear all of your stories and know that I'm not the only one. My nipples have been sensitive like this since I was a little kid. My mom used to put these little t shirts on me because I didn't like them to rub on my shirt. I'm 31 now and would really like to get past this so I can function more normally with guys. Like a lot of you, sometimes it feels good to have them touched but sometimes it literally makes my whole body go rigid and I just want him to stop. And like a lot of you, I also feel kind of dirty and gross and just weird in an almost indescribable way. I have OCD and part of it is that I sometimes get these unwanted violent images in my head. When I have one of those thoughts, which are really disturbing, the reaction in my body is the same as when my nips are touched. I have no explanation for it, but if anyone else can relate...there it is. I think the more stuff we just throw out there the more we'll find some common ground that we all have. One thing I gotta say though is that unlike the rest of you, I was molested as a kid, when I was 8. But the strange thing is that he didn't touch me on the breasts. I thought that maybe because nipples are so easily stimulated that somehow I related what happened to me as a kid with sexual stimulation and that that felt wrong to me. But judging by everyone else's answers about not being molested, I guess that doesn't really hold water. The only other two cents I can add is that even though I haven't been diagnosed with thyroid problems, I've suspected for a while that I do have a thyroid disorder so my heart kinda jumped when I read the posts about that.
Also, do any of you ladies have a problem even looking at breasts? When I even see them in movies, it causes a bit of anxiety for me.
Also, do any of you ladies have a problem even looking at breasts? When I even see them in movies, it causes a bit of anxiety for me.
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Oh and a couple other random questions: do any of you (or your wives for the guys) suffer from a fear of throwing up or exercise induced anaphylaxis/utacaria?
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Oh my goodness, thank you SO much for starting this thread. Just found it through a Google search. I get that same feeling that most of you are describing, and it's been bugging me so much. I've been experiencing it since puberty. It's really on and off; sometimes I love having my nipples played with, other times it makes me deeply uneasy. I've described it to myself as a feeling of shame before, though it makes no sense why I would feel that way. It's emotional as well as physical at times, sometimes like a deep emptiness in the pit of my stomach. It's just plain WEIRD.
I have no memories of ever being molested. I do have some mild hormonal imbalances (elevated DHEA and slightly elevated testosterone). I love my breasts and don't have any hang-ups about them.
I'd really like to get to the bottom of this somehow. Nipple stimulation can be so amazing when I'm in the mood, but once the feeling hits, all the enjoyment is over.
If anyone else has found other research about it, can you please post it here?
I have no memories of ever being molested. I do have some mild hormonal imbalances (elevated DHEA and slightly elevated testosterone). I love my breasts and don't have any hang-ups about them.
I'd really like to get to the bottom of this somehow. Nipple stimulation can be so amazing when I'm in the mood, but once the feeling hits, all the enjoyment is over.
If anyone else has found other research about it, can you please post it here?
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It is very strange to see so many people suffering from the same thing, and still not even the hint of an answer for why...
I have been having this problem for a fairly long time (I am 18). It comes in waves - when I am really turned on, or during sex, I very much enjoy having my nipples played with. But when I am not turned on, a feeling of nausea and depression overcomes me when my nipples are touched.
I also assumed it may be some nerves cross-firing (as I have never been molested, or had any negative sexual experiences)...
I just wish there was some medical research being carried out on this issue =/
I have been having this problem for a fairly long time (I am 18). It comes in waves - when I am really turned on, or during sex, I very much enjoy having my nipples played with. But when I am not turned on, a feeling of nausea and depression overcomes me when my nipples are touched.
I also assumed it may be some nerves cross-firing (as I have never been molested, or had any negative sexual experiences)...
I just wish there was some medical research being carried out on this issue =/
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Hi, I have actually been suffering with "Angry Nipple Syndrome" for about three years now and i'm sure my husband thinks i'm crazy as I used to have no issues at all prior to that. I recently had some acupuncture treatment and talked to my therapist about all sorts of things and happened to mention the irrational anger I feel if I or anyone else even accidentally brushes against my nipple and she said it's actually very common and is to do with a liver blockage which can be caused by various things including metal being held against the body for long periods - I wear under wired bras and even wear then to bed as this seems to help avoid any accidental brushing of my nipples on the bed/PJ's which I think may me the cause for me. Anyway, not sure if that sheds any light to anyone else, I was just relieved to know i'm not alone! By the way my therapist trained in chinese/japanese medicine & acupuncture which I think may help with the problem - haven't pursued this myself as i'm pregnant so my breasts are really sore so may look into it after the baby is born.
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I dealt with this same issue for most of my life. I recognized it early on, maybe 6 or 7 years old. Whenever something merely brushed against my nipples, I felt an intense wave of depression/nausea/shame/that indescribable feeling we all seem to know. Though for me this feeling usually only lasted a few minutes or so, it was always extremely overwhelming.
I should note, I have never been molested or sexually compromised. I had a wonderful childhood and continue to have an incredible family and social life. Also noteworthy is that I too have hypothyroidism but it has been under control for almost 10 years now (I am 24 year old, female).
The feelings I associated with my nipples really affected me and interfered with my sex life as I grew older. But I finally got to a point where I refused to allow this uncomfortable feeling to wash over me any longer.
Instead of accepting this as the way it is and would always be, I have worked hard on growing more comfortable with nipples and touch and play - by allowing the feelings to move through me while continuously touching my nipples. After awhile, the weird sentiments wouldn't last as long as they used to. Then, progressively, these odd feelings just dissipated over time and through constant efforts to touch my nipples. Eventually, I've actually grown to find pleasure in touching my nipples - whether by myself or by my partner. Though it's taken years of willpower and uncomfortable stimulation to finally reach this point, I feel fantastic about where I'm at now.
However, I do remember vividly the feelings you've all described in this thread and I continue to wonder what caused the discomfort for me and often wondered if I was the only one who went through this. I'm happy to see through this thread that I was not entirely alone in this issue and hope you're all able to find some way to work through the discomfort, no matter its cause.
I should note, I have never been molested or sexually compromised. I had a wonderful childhood and continue to have an incredible family and social life. Also noteworthy is that I too have hypothyroidism but it has been under control for almost 10 years now (I am 24 year old, female).
The feelings I associated with my nipples really affected me and interfered with my sex life as I grew older. But I finally got to a point where I refused to allow this uncomfortable feeling to wash over me any longer.
Instead of accepting this as the way it is and would always be, I have worked hard on growing more comfortable with nipples and touch and play - by allowing the feelings to move through me while continuously touching my nipples. After awhile, the weird sentiments wouldn't last as long as they used to. Then, progressively, these odd feelings just dissipated over time and through constant efforts to touch my nipples. Eventually, I've actually grown to find pleasure in touching my nipples - whether by myself or by my partner. Though it's taken years of willpower and uncomfortable stimulation to finally reach this point, I feel fantastic about where I'm at now.
However, I do remember vividly the feelings you've all described in this thread and I continue to wonder what caused the discomfort for me and often wondered if I was the only one who went through this. I'm happy to see through this thread that I was not entirely alone in this issue and hope you're all able to find some way to work through the discomfort, no matter its cause.
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Guest above: Really nice to hear someone has worked through it! That gives everyone else some hope i think...
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i have this problem too, when my nipples get rubbed or touched it just makes me feel uncomfortable and awkward and wierd and i hate to tell my boyfriend to stop but i have no idea what this condition is.
im 15 by the way
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im 15 by the way
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Hello all :-)
I posted here a long time ago.. i'm one of the above responses- I wrote about all the same stuff as everyone else and used to experience all the same things.. i couldn't believe it when i found this post- i thought i was the only one.
Anyway, this has to be short and sweet cos i have loads of work to do.. i've been meaning to write here for aggggessss because i wanted to let you guys know... i wanted to write a quick post to say that it's stopped! All stopped, i'm free of it and I now wear no bra at night and actively seek for my nipples to be touched. (crazy, i know!)
I've never been happier and although i don't think that you are all in the same boat as me (i doubt you're all going to have the same issue as me...) at least it proves that this could be an entirely psychological problem- obviously everyone is different and there may be a whole host of other problems that cause this, but it proves that a psychological root could be a lot of other people's barrier/issue/problem too!
I broke up with my partner (a guy) of 5 years and came out. I now have a girl friend and have never experienced that horrible feeling with her. For me, it was all emotional and psychological-- so i'm not suggesting you're all gay like me, but it's food for thought. I literally almost threw up once because of it- it made me gag.. the feeling was so real and so strong and at the time so confusing and inexplicable... yet overnight it vanished, all cos i slept with a girl not a guy- so my issue (being gay) had deep psychological roots for me, and when i had sex with my male partner it ended up (increasingly over the years) producing this very horrible, physical inability to have my nipples stimulated- perhaps other people suffering with this have underying issues- not necessarily being gay- but other stuff?
Who knows- i might be an exception... but i can, at least, tell you this much- if that's the case, i'm a very happy exception.
I love her..
and finally, i love my nipples! ;-)
good luck everyone x
I posted here a long time ago.. i'm one of the above responses- I wrote about all the same stuff as everyone else and used to experience all the same things.. i couldn't believe it when i found this post- i thought i was the only one.
Anyway, this has to be short and sweet cos i have loads of work to do.. i've been meaning to write here for aggggessss because i wanted to let you guys know... i wanted to write a quick post to say that it's stopped! All stopped, i'm free of it and I now wear no bra at night and actively seek for my nipples to be touched. (crazy, i know!)
I've never been happier and although i don't think that you are all in the same boat as me (i doubt you're all going to have the same issue as me...) at least it proves that this could be an entirely psychological problem- obviously everyone is different and there may be a whole host of other problems that cause this, but it proves that a psychological root could be a lot of other people's barrier/issue/problem too!
I broke up with my partner (a guy) of 5 years and came out. I now have a girl friend and have never experienced that horrible feeling with her. For me, it was all emotional and psychological-- so i'm not suggesting you're all gay like me, but it's food for thought. I literally almost threw up once because of it- it made me gag.. the feeling was so real and so strong and at the time so confusing and inexplicable... yet overnight it vanished, all cos i slept with a girl not a guy- so my issue (being gay) had deep psychological roots for me, and when i had sex with my male partner it ended up (increasingly over the years) producing this very horrible, physical inability to have my nipples stimulated- perhaps other people suffering with this have underying issues- not necessarily being gay- but other stuff?
Who knows- i might be an exception... but i can, at least, tell you this much- if that's the case, i'm a very happy exception.
I love her..
and finally, i love my nipples! ;-)
good luck everyone x
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Everyone, amazing to hear that there are more of us.
Here's my point of view on this.
I'm a 25 year old male and I've had this ever since I can remember. From early childhood, slightly touching my nipples would create this unclassified feeling, one I wasn't able to explain to others. Even to this day, from squeezing my nipples myself or having them played with in bed, I tap into this unknown emotion. Sad, yet not in a depressing way.
I do not feel nauseated or depressed - I'm unable to call it a happy nor a negative feeling - but I had a slight breakthrough today. I tried it out, squeezing them lightly thus engaging the feeling and thinking about different emotions whilst doing so. The one that rang a bell was the feeling of missing someone/something as well as becoming empathic... As if something was absent from my life. In order to justify the nipples being touched like that, something had to be present. Something I should have empathy for!
I read about this a while ago, and found out that stimulation of the nipples releases oxytocin into our bloodstream. Most species, in particular the female part, get maternal instincts when this happens. With the absence of something to be maternal about, a feeling of emptiness comes along. Could this be the answer? Primal instincts inside of us, triggered when nipples are stimulated by someone who's not an infant, thus leading us to feel sad, empty, empathic and missing someone/something? All of us in this forum have common symptoms, some more than others and others less than more. Coupled with our other emotions and experiences, it could lead to different states of mind yet we all have certain symptoms in common! Here's one for the scientists - testing the emotional outcomes on different people when oxytocin is released. After all I haven't heard of any breastfeeding mothers getting this feeling...
Best of wishes to all from a cold and lovely Norwegian night
Here's my point of view on this.
I'm a 25 year old male and I've had this ever since I can remember. From early childhood, slightly touching my nipples would create this unclassified feeling, one I wasn't able to explain to others. Even to this day, from squeezing my nipples myself or having them played with in bed, I tap into this unknown emotion. Sad, yet not in a depressing way.
I do not feel nauseated or depressed - I'm unable to call it a happy nor a negative feeling - but I had a slight breakthrough today. I tried it out, squeezing them lightly thus engaging the feeling and thinking about different emotions whilst doing so. The one that rang a bell was the feeling of missing someone/something as well as becoming empathic... As if something was absent from my life. In order to justify the nipples being touched like that, something had to be present. Something I should have empathy for!
I read about this a while ago, and found out that stimulation of the nipples releases oxytocin into our bloodstream. Most species, in particular the female part, get maternal instincts when this happens. With the absence of something to be maternal about, a feeling of emptiness comes along. Could this be the answer? Primal instincts inside of us, triggered when nipples are stimulated by someone who's not an infant, thus leading us to feel sad, empty, empathic and missing someone/something? All of us in this forum have common symptoms, some more than others and others less than more. Coupled with our other emotions and experiences, it could lead to different states of mind yet we all have certain symptoms in common! Here's one for the scientists - testing the emotional outcomes on different people when oxytocin is released. After all I haven't heard of any breastfeeding mothers getting this feeling...
Best of wishes to all from a cold and lovely Norwegian night
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Everyone, amazing to hear that there are more of us.
Here's my point of view on this.
I'm a 25 year old male and I've had this ever since I can remember. From early childhood, slightly touching my nipples would create this unclassified feeling, one I wasn't able to explain to others. Even to this day, from squeezing my nipples myself or having them played with in bed, I tap into this unknown emotion. Sad, yet not in a depressing way.
I do not feel nauseated or depressed - I'm unable to call it a happy nor a negative feeling - but I had a slight breakthrough today. I tried it out, squeezing them lightly thus engaging the feeling and thinking about different emotions whilst doing so. The one that rang a bell was the feeling of missing someone/something as well as becoming empathic... As if something was absent from my life. In order to justify the nipples being touched like that, something had to be present. Something I should have empathy for!
I read about this a while ago, and found out that stimulation of the nipples releases oxytocin into our bloodstream. Most species, in particular the female part, get maternal instincts when this happens. With the absence of something to be maternal about, a feeling of emptiness comes along. Could this be the answer? Primal instincts inside of us, triggered when nipples are stimulated by someone who's not an infant, thus leading us to feel sad, empty, empathic and missing someone/something? All of us in this forum have common symptoms, some more than others and others less than more. Coupled with our other emotions and experiences, it could lead to different states of mind yet we all have certain symptoms in common! Here's one for the scientists - testing the emotional outcomes on different people when oxytocin is released. After all I haven't heard of any breastfeeding mothers getting this feeling...
Best of wishes to all from a cold and lovely Norwegian night
Here's my point of view on this.
I'm a 25 year old male and I've had this ever since I can remember. From early childhood, slightly touching my nipples would create this unclassified feeling, one I wasn't able to explain to others. Even to this day, from squeezing my nipples myself or having them played with in bed, I tap into this unknown emotion. Sad, yet not in a depressing way.
I do not feel nauseated or depressed - I'm unable to call it a happy nor a negative feeling - but I had a slight breakthrough today. I tried it out, squeezing them lightly thus engaging the feeling and thinking about different emotions whilst doing so. The one that rang a bell was the feeling of missing someone/something as well as becoming empathic... As if something was absent from my life. In order to justify the nipples being touched like that, something had to be present. Something I should have empathy for!
I read about this a while ago, and found out that stimulation of the nipples releases oxytocin into our bloodstream. Most species, in particular the female part, get maternal instincts when this happens. With the absence of something to be maternal about, a feeling of emptiness comes along. Could this be the answer? Primal instincts inside of us, triggered when nipples are stimulated by someone who's not an infant, thus leading us to feel sad, empty, empathic and missing someone/something? All of us in this forum have common symptoms, some more than others and others less than more. Coupled with our other emotions and experiences, it could lead to different states of mind yet we all have certain symptoms in common! Here's one for the scientists - testing the emotional outcomes on different people when oxytocin is released. After all I haven't heard of any breastfeeding mothers getting this feeling...
Best of wishes to all from a cold and lovely Norwegian night
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glad to see i'm not the only person with this. i'll post my experience with it
first off, i'm a guy and i HATE my nipples being touched too. the only way i can describe it is like you know those sounds that make you cringe (nails on blackboard, rubbing nails against a nail file, squeaky balloon, cotton wool being scrunched, whichever one makes shivers go up your spine), the texture of the feeling is like that. when my nipples are touched i generally flinch and it makes me feel huge discomfort around the nipple. not quite as strong through clothes (put still present) but really uncomfortable on bare skin. one of my other male friends has it too and we often speculate on how strange it is!
i am pretty much 99% to 100% sure that it is not an emotional thing for me. i grew up in a great home with a great family and was well looked after as a kid and have no other reservations/issues with sex
also i am not unattractive, have no real body issues and weight train and believe that most body issues can be put to rest through hard training and good nutrition (for myself anyway. i respect that body image can be a complex issue from person to person)
but when i get my nipples touched it literally makes me wince. no bad emotional thoughts/feelings but its just the same as someone coming up to me and scraping nails down a blackboard next to my ear
i know that certain things make certain people flinch and squirm and I'm wondering if maybe its almost a type of phobia that just develops in some people
i wonder if there is a link between nipple sensitivity and how ticklish a person is at all? (just a thought anyway!)
i wouldn't want to knock anyone's theory's on it, just wanted to put across my personal experience with it too
would be really interested in any answers anyone could bring to the board!
first off, i'm a guy and i HATE my nipples being touched too. the only way i can describe it is like you know those sounds that make you cringe (nails on blackboard, rubbing nails against a nail file, squeaky balloon, cotton wool being scrunched, whichever one makes shivers go up your spine), the texture of the feeling is like that. when my nipples are touched i generally flinch and it makes me feel huge discomfort around the nipple. not quite as strong through clothes (put still present) but really uncomfortable on bare skin. one of my other male friends has it too and we often speculate on how strange it is!
i am pretty much 99% to 100% sure that it is not an emotional thing for me. i grew up in a great home with a great family and was well looked after as a kid and have no other reservations/issues with sex
also i am not unattractive, have no real body issues and weight train and believe that most body issues can be put to rest through hard training and good nutrition (for myself anyway. i respect that body image can be a complex issue from person to person)
but when i get my nipples touched it literally makes me wince. no bad emotional thoughts/feelings but its just the same as someone coming up to me and scraping nails down a blackboard next to my ear
i know that certain things make certain people flinch and squirm and I'm wondering if maybe its almost a type of phobia that just develops in some people
i wonder if there is a link between nipple sensitivity and how ticklish a person is at all? (just a thought anyway!)
i wouldn't want to knock anyone's theory's on it, just wanted to put across my personal experience with it too
would be really interested in any answers anyone could bring to the board!
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I also have the same issue. Firstly it is a relief to find out I'm not alone!!
I have alway been uncomfortable with my nipples being touch. I am 31 and been with my partner for 11 years. I think in that time he would have been lucky to touch them a handful of times. Generally I'd be fast to move his hand or move myself. He just doesn't even bother going there anymore and when I've asked him if that bothers him he states he doesn't mind. We have had two children and I breast fed both, not comfortably though. I also got the same feeling feeding and when I spoke to other woman about it they would tell me that breastfeeding was suppose to be a pleasant experience so I would continue to feed hoping somehow something would change. I manage to feed my first born daughter for 12 months successfully but not comfortably. However my son who I had 30 months later I found much harder. I only managed to feed him for 4 weeks and I felt terribly guilty. I put it down to the fact that he didn't latch on very well and spent more time tickling my nipple instead of sucking milk. I am planning on having another baby in the next 12 months and I really want to breastfeed for as long as possible and the whole nipple issue is my main concern. It's a hard feeling to describe but what I've read on this thread I can totally relate to, a sick feeling in the belly, dirty, depressive feeling etc. I know after each time I feed those feeling go away but I did need a good half an hour to get past the whole experience each time and when you need to feed on average every 4 hours it seems endless. I hope there is an answer to why this happens an even more so a solution or possible way to overcome this.
I have alway been uncomfortable with my nipples being touch. I am 31 and been with my partner for 11 years. I think in that time he would have been lucky to touch them a handful of times. Generally I'd be fast to move his hand or move myself. He just doesn't even bother going there anymore and when I've asked him if that bothers him he states he doesn't mind. We have had two children and I breast fed both, not comfortably though. I also got the same feeling feeding and when I spoke to other woman about it they would tell me that breastfeeding was suppose to be a pleasant experience so I would continue to feed hoping somehow something would change. I manage to feed my first born daughter for 12 months successfully but not comfortably. However my son who I had 30 months later I found much harder. I only managed to feed him for 4 weeks and I felt terribly guilty. I put it down to the fact that he didn't latch on very well and spent more time tickling my nipple instead of sucking milk. I am planning on having another baby in the next 12 months and I really want to breastfeed for as long as possible and the whole nipple issue is my main concern. It's a hard feeling to describe but what I've read on this thread I can totally relate to, a sick feeling in the belly, dirty, depressive feeling etc. I know after each time I feed those feeling go away but I did need a good half an hour to get past the whole experience each time and when you need to feed on average every 4 hours it seems endless. I hope there is an answer to why this happens an even more so a solution or possible way to overcome this.
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I also have the same issue. Firstly it is a relief to find out I'm not alone!!
I have alway been uncomfortable with my nipples being touch. I am 31 and been with my partner for 11 years. I think in that time he would have been lucky to touch them a handful of times. Generally I'd be fast to move his hand or move myself. He just doesn't even bother going there anymore and when I've asked him if that bothers him he states he doesn't mind. We have had two children and I breast fed both, not comfortably though. I also got the same feeling feeding and when I spoke to other woman about it they would tell me that breastfeeding was suppose to be a pleasant experience so I would continue to feed hoping somehow something would change. I manage to feed my first born daughter for 12 months successfully but not comfortably. However my son who I had 30 months later I found much harder. I only managed to feed him for 4 weeks and I felt terribly guilty. I put it down to the fact that he didn't latch on very well and spent more time tickling my nipple instead of sucking milk. I am planning on having another baby in the next 12 months and I really want to breastfeed for as long as possible and the whole nipple issue is my main concern. It's a hard feeling to describe but what I've read on this thread I can totally relate to, a sick feeling in the belly, dirty, depressive feeling etc. I know after each time I feed those feeling go away but I did need a good half an hour to get past the whole experience each time and when you need to feed on average every 4 hours it seems endless. I hope there is an answer to why this happens an even more so a solution or possible way to overcome this.
I have alway been uncomfortable with my nipples being touch. I am 31 and been with my partner for 11 years. I think in that time he would have been lucky to touch them a handful of times. Generally I'd be fast to move his hand or move myself. He just doesn't even bother going there anymore and when I've asked him if that bothers him he states he doesn't mind. We have had two children and I breast fed both, not comfortably though. I also got the same feeling feeding and when I spoke to other woman about it they would tell me that breastfeeding was suppose to be a pleasant experience so I would continue to feed hoping somehow something would change. I manage to feed my first born daughter for 12 months successfully but not comfortably. However my son who I had 30 months later I found much harder. I only managed to feed him for 4 weeks and I felt terribly guilty. I put it down to the fact that he didn't latch on very well and spent more time tickling my nipple instead of sucking milk. I am planning on having another baby in the next 12 months and I really want to breastfeed for as long as possible and the whole nipple issue is my main concern. It's a hard feeling to describe but what I've read on this thread I can totally relate to, a sick feeling in the belly, dirty, depressive feeling etc. I know after each time I feed those feeling go away but I did need a good half an hour to get past the whole experience each time and when you need to feed on average every 4 hours it seems endless. I hope there is an answer to why this happens an even more so a solution or possible way to overcome this.
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